Stressed! Help Please!

Dearest V.-

I want you to call Bayside Church today and ask about two programs they have 1. Acres of Hope..it is housing. It is typically for women and children but they will have resources and know of temporary situations. Second, they have a lot of support and training going on for families in crisis right now. They have a lot of support for moms, dads, teens.
Your stregnth comes clear in your ability to define all that you are going through which means you are looking at everyone's needs, of course forfitting your own during this crisis. This is a testament to your love and devotion even with these very challenging issues. We have had different but very difficult challenges and writing it out, prioritizing what gets done first (safety, health, roof over your head, food, sleep and for me prayer...

I will keep your in my prayers

First, take a deep breath. There, now don't you feel a bit better?
Sounds like you are in a very difficult situation, but take heart, it won't last long. This is just a tiny blip on the map of your life. I know it feels HUGE right now!

I just wanted to let you know that God does love you, he has good plans for you and your family. He has plans to give you a future and a hope! I don't have any answers to your situation, but I know that He does. Ask Him what He wants you to do next. Don't try to come with a plan and pray for God to bless it, ask God what the plan is and it will already be blessed. Rest assured, all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Yep, all things. He doesn't cause this bad stuff to happen, but it will use it to bless you if you ask Him and listen to what He says.

Have a blessed day, and I pray peace over you and your family in Jesus' name.

Dear V.,
You will be in my prayers!! WOW, what a ton you are dealing with hon, I hope it helped a little to be able to vent .. you need care through this as much as your kids, as you are the back bone of the family. I wish I knew some awesome programs that could help. Maybe you could find a rental without a huge down payment? I could SO relate to your story that it brought tears to my eyes. I have three kids, a 17 year old girl with DRAMA, a 9 year old and a 2 year old. We suffered without my husband working for over a year and our marriage barely survived. Where are your family members? We had to borrow money and go into debt, but I am just thankful that my kids are healthy. Maybe some of the other wonderful mom's on this site know of some programs that could help you and your family.
many hugs!! You sound like a strong woman.

V.....you've got a lot on your plate. I would call Family Services and see if you can find some resources there. i know that they have remodeled the old housing at Mather airport....that is another avenue.

Here's how I see it....your 15 year old is crying out for help....not saying your family life is Beaver Cleaver...but sometimes teenagers think they have the bad end of the stick when thier home is acutally hte golden ticket....and of course hormones has a lot to do with it..I know there are lots of variables...but with any child..if there is no stability in the home it can really put a loop in the child's attitude and behaviour. does she know of the hardship finanancilly your family is going through....this may be her way of coping.....

It may take a move and there may be more hardships, but once you can get some sort of schedule, rhythm going then you can concentrate on what is most important your children.

It may take moving to where family is at....you are not the only family that is doing this now. I have a good friend who has just taken in her sister's children....the oldest has been in 6 schools in the last year and has horrible grades and some problems....now the kids are in a stable home with a schedule and things have majorly turned around.

If you are a member of a church, please go to your minister and talk with him get council...your church may provide services to thier family members in need.

I know right now everything seems bleak...but stay strong as a parent and stay the course. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Hi V.,

I work for Sacramento Area Emergency Housing Center (www.saehc.org) we run the Mather Community Campus program that was mentioned and also the local emergency shelter for families. We accept fathers and teenage sons, so your whole family would be able to stay together. Every family has there own private room and are provided with three meals a day, child care for the children including homework help and tutoring. Please don't hesitate to seek help. If you or your children broke your arm or leg, you would seek emergency services. Emergency housing is the same thing. We are here when you need help.

please feel free to contact me personally and i will try to help out ____@____.com.

Have you checked with a local church? I know that Lakeside church in Folsom helps people in dire straits. If they couldn't help directly they would have information on places that could help. That phone number is ###-###-####. I wish I could do more to help you. God Bless you.