Step-mom Saying I Blocked Her on Facebook Which in Fact She Isn't Blocked......

Updated on July 12, 2012
J.V. asks from Las Vegas, NV
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I like my dad's current wife. I really do. Almost everytime my son and I hang out at their house (hubsand is out of town due to work) my step-mom tells me she can't see my posts. She thinks I'm blocking her regaurdless if I tell her I haven't blocked her and I don't really post a lot to begin with. She keeps saying I blocked her and that I need to see how to fix it. I've actually looked to see if I did by accident and to be honest I have not blocked her at all. I'm trying really hard not to snap at her cause I do like her and my dad does love her. So I'm lost at what to tell her. I can keep on telling her I didn't block her but it doesn't seem to help. It also doesn't seem to help when I say I'm not sure why she isn't getting my posts. So I'm kind of lost of what to do. My dad has been around when I have told her that I didn't block her. I'm trying really hard to not get mad whenever she says it but there are times where I want to block her and tell her I did block her since she says I must of. I'm trying to be a bigger person and tell her the truth. I don't know what else to do. I tell her the truth and that doesn't seem to help. What do you guys think I should do? Should I just leave it be since I've already checked or what?

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The next time I'm over I'm going to have her bring up her facebook page so I can see/show her how to set it up. Thank you everybody!

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answers from St. Louis on

Facebook is a nightmare for us old folks. :p More than likely she is not sorting by recent but sorting by most popular or some stuff like that. I have to go on almost every day and set it to recent otherwise I don't see half my posts unless I want to dig though all the farmville folks! Why does Facebook see farmville as important anyway!!?

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answers from Kalamazoo on

She probably put you on ignore by accident. And its really 7th grade of her to be starting problems with you over Facebook.

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answers from San Antonio on

It sounds like she's not subscribed to you, so your posts don't show up in her feed. If I were to bet money, I'd bet the issue is on her end, not yours.

Next time she brings it up, as if she's subscribed to you, which will cause your posts to show. If she says she doesn't know, have her go to her friends page, click on your name. When she gets to your page, have her click where it shows that you're friends. It'll say "show in news feed". Click on that and she'll have your posts show up in her news feed. (Then update your status to make sure it shows up.)

Then tell her, see, I told you I didn't block you! (jokingly of course!)

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answers from Columbia on

Ask her to sign into her account and then you show her how to find your posts. :)

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answers from San Francisco on

Yes, like the others have said, it's probably just a subscription thing. The next time the two of you are together, pull up her account and make sure she is subscribed to seeing your posts, problem solved :)

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answers from Dallas on

Ask her to show you her account. She could have the feed messed up. She may have filtered you out. She could have accidentally hidden you. She may have marked "show only important" - this makes fb decide which of your posts are important, so fewer show up and if you rarely post anyway.

I'd also send her a direct post to her wall that says something like "Testing. Testing. Just wanted to see if this is working." Just as proof that you haven't blocked her. When she responds, then you can tell her "See you aren't blocked! There must be a setting off."

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answers from Missoula on

Facebook has this thing where it will automatically filter what appears on your wall, according to how much you interact with the friend.

Maybe she has accidentally unsubscribed from your news feed?

Have her go to your page on Facebook (manually... IF she claims she can't, tell her to send you a new friend request... lol.) There should be a box with a checkmark that says "friends". Have her click it, and go down to "settings". It will bring up a menu that says "How many updates?" Tell her to make sure that "all updates" is selected.

That should fix any problems she is having. :)

(P.S. my version is when going to a 'timeline' profile... I'm not sure if it's different with the old profile setting...)

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answers from Redding on

She probably has her news feed messed up. It depends on whether she has you listed as a friend or family. You have to click on "family" or "friends" under the news feed to see certain people depending on how she has her people labeled-- tell her to check that.

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answers from Oklahoma City on

When you are at her house log on to FB and let her see for herself. Post some sort of comment like "hangin with XXX". Then when she is logged on help her by going to her wall and making sure she has the correct stuff clicked on when she hovers the mouse over your name.

Hover the mouse, while logged on her account not yours, over your name and when the box comes up move the cursor down to the word friends.

Make sure it is clicked on "show in newsfeed".

After that is clicked go to "settings".

In the top half of the box she can choose to see "All updates", "Most updates", or "Only important updates". I choose "All updates" for my close friends. I use most updates for everyone else.

In the bottom half I unclick on everything except "status updates" because I usually don't want to see every picture my friends make a comment on, nor do I want to see every game post they make on games I don't play, nor do I want to see every single comment they make on their friends walls or posts. The only one I really want is to see what they have to say about what they personally are posting.

I found that my wall would suddenly be filled with my friends comments on their friends posts and if their friends posted pictures of their kids then those pictures would show up on my wall with all their friends comments and posts. It was crazy. I found that by not clicking that I wanted to see my friends posts on their other friends posts I was much happier and able to manage my own wall.

I do click "Games" if I play games with that person so that anytime they post a game bonus or request I will see that post.

Other than that I do have a couple of younger cousins that like alternative music from what I like so I have their boxes clicked to show "music and videos". I like to see what else is out there that I don't know about in music. I learn a lot from these kiddo's.

Just go on her wall, search for your name in the search box, when it comes up then adjust the settings so she can see you. This way it will also show her that you don't have her blocked, she may have her settings to not show you.

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answers from Philadelphia on

i agree with those who J. say, lets sign on together and see what's going on. She's insecure and new to the family and this may make her feel like you don't like her and bother her more than it should. She's not going away and you like her so I would try and solve it before an annoyed response.

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answers from Washington DC on

Sit down WITH her and get on her FB page and work on this together. Why haven't you two done that already? If you do find she really does seem to be blocked by accident from your page, then, with her sitting right there next to you, contact Facebook about the problem. Pretty simple way to make her see that you care enough to deal with it. I'm not sure why you and she are just going around in circles about this verbally instead of sitting down at a computer together -- especially since you seem to live close enough that you see her regularly! (But then I also don't see why, if you see each other regularly, she cares so much about what you post on FB -- unless she feels she's not being told things you tell other people?.....)

This is another example of why I think FB creates too much drama.

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answers from Baton Rouge on

Sounds like she may have something off in her privacy settings.

But it's just Facebook; it's not like you've blocked her from your actual life. She needs to get over it.

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answers from Des Moines on

I wonder if SHE accidentally blocked YOU?

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answers from Tulsa on

She's most likely blocked your updates. FB has changed recently and it's pretty easy to accidently block posts from certain users with a click. Get on with her and check it out. FB can be a bit confusing for some. My MIL kept setting her wall posts to her friends as status updates...

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answers from Indianapolis on

She probably needs to check what setting she has your posts on. Otherwise she could just check your page when she wants to see your posts. You should sit down with her and try to help her fix this. It obviously means a great deal to her.

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answers from Dallas on

Sit down with her and say "lets check both our settings cause maybe something is clicked in the wrong place. I know they've done updates recently, so maybe something is funky on the settings for both of us"

Don't be all "you don't know what you're doing" - use the updates as a reason.

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answers from Charlotte on

I think you need to start LAUGHING when she goes on about this. Shake your head and tell her that she needs to learn how to work facebook. Then tell her to turn on the computer and pull up her fb and look at it with you.

Have you ever blocked anyone? If you have, show her how to do that. Pick some random person she does not know, and block it for her. She can see that the person is blocked. Then, try to pull up that person AGAIN. The person is no longer there. THIS is blocked.

Now, pull you up. There you are. See Mom? I haven't blocked you!

This is so easy. Why haven't you done it before?


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answers from Kansas City on

I like Facebook for the friend aspect, but I didn't even accept my mother's "friend" request. There are just some things I don't think I need to share with her!!



answers from Reno on

FB only shows in the "News Feed" posts from people she's recently exchanged messages with, even if she has it set to "show all." If you rarely post, the software won't consider your posts high priority enough to show up on her feed.


answers from San Diego on

If she can't see your posts, it sounds like she accidentally blocked or hid you, not the other way around. Definitely ask if she can bring up her FB account when you're there so the two of you can get to the bottom of what's going on. Even if you can't figure it out, she'll be happy to see you're trying to figure it out too. Can you see her posts on your account? You can also show her how she's not blocked on your FB page.


answers from Dover on

Is she set as a friend? What are your privacy settings? It is possible that you have your privacy settings such that she (along with everyone else) can't see you posts without actually having her blocked.

Outside of checking your settings, maybe even showing her them, and repeating what you have there isn't much you can do. You can say "Look Suzy, I honestly have not blocked you. If you can't see my posts it could be that I have my settings so everyone can't see not just you. I have not blocked you, in fact you are one of my friends. Can we drop this now?"

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