Staying Dry at Night - Cave Creek,AZ

I would not put him back in pull ups, if he lasted a week he can last longer. If he wets it also might be early in the morning....do either one of you wake up early and leave for work? My husband is up at 4 am and he takes my son before he leaves, and we have not had any more issues. (And my son in the 6 months of us doing this, has woken up on his own to the bathroom maybe twice)

I was going crazy with washing sheets, so we put the crib mattress pad with a towel back on his bed. He'll get the hang of it.

Sometimes when children grow, they get bigger than their bladder and it is hard for their bladder to hold it in and it takes a lot of pressure from the body. That is probably what is causing your son to have an accident. It is most likely he is not being lazy. His bladder just hasn't caught up with the growth of his body. I would get a pad to put under him at night. You know like those pads the hospitals use under the patients? They're called chucks at the hospital....but what I have found helpful, is that I go to the Pet Section at the store and get what is called "Puppy Pads". They will soak up his accidents. :-) This way, if he has a little accident, you don't have to change the sheets all the time. Just his jammies. I would consult with your doctor to get proper diagnosis about his bladder and the lack of control he has with it. It very well could be a medical 'growth' condition and it will correct itself in time. :-)

YOU are right about this. Your husband is being a bit insensitive. Potty training has nothing to do with being lazy. Kids sleep so much more deeply than we do and often do not wake up with the urge to pee. My daughter did not potty train at night until close to her sixth birthday because she slept so incredibly, unbelievably deeply. I could literally pick her up and shake her and she would not wake up! They do eventually grow out of that and train their brains to wake when they have the urge to pee. In my opinion, your son should be allowed to do that on HIS time. Some kids don't train at night until age 12! So tell your husband to cut your kid some slack, he's just five.

My niece wet the bed until she was 8. Her problem was that she was such a sound sleeper, the urge to go wouldn't wake her up, and the wet sheets didn't bother her either, she would just keep sleeping. Also, which you may already be doing, I would watch his fluid intake at night before bed.

He may be a little cranky, but you can always try to wake him up, before you go to bed, and have him go to the bathroom again. I'm sure he'll get the hang of it then. Good luck.

Being dry at night is not a behavioral issue, it is a physiological one. For most kids this happens anywhere between the ages of 2 and 5, with 6 or 7 not being too uncommon. For some kids it comes later, my nephew was 8 and my cousin was 12. Until than if you force him to stay in undies all it will do is make him feel bad each morning when he wakes to wet sheets! Get him some underjams or pull ups and let me use them until he wakes up dry for several days in a row, like at least 2 weeks if not a full month. I waited until my boys at hit a full month of dry mornings, and neither of them has ever had an accident since. Listen to his body and let it lead the way.

My son is 5 1/2 and we have the same issue. We took him off of pull ups about 4 months ago. 50% of the time he wakes up dry, 50% of the time he piddles a little. We've only had one accident where he soaked the bed, normally he just wets his pj's and undies a little. Most of the time he gets up in the middle of the night and changes his own undies and pants, and we don't even know he's had an accident until the morning, when we see him in mismatched pj's. We limit his fluid intake after dinner, and we always take him potty before we go to bed. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. We are definitely not going to put him back un pull-ups, though. We're forging ahead. I truly think it's physiological and we'll just keep working at it. You are not alone! And your son is not lazy, he is probably just a deep sleeper. GOOD LUCK

I wouldn't say he is lazy. Kids aren't night trained until sometime between 5-7yrs of age. Some kids are deep sleepers. My daughter is 8 and has been wearing underwear for almost 2mos, no accidents. (Wetting the bed ran in my family). Anyway, for about 3 weeks, I got up at midnight and woke her to go the bathroom. Then I got her a little alarm to do the waking up - it was loud and guess what? It didn't wake her! LOL - so for a couple more weeks I got her up at midnight. Now she either gets up on her own, or she doesn't get up at all but she isn't wetting the bed. She has had zero accidents. My son just turned six and is still in pull ups, again, since it's in my family and he's a very deep sleeper, I'll let it go a bit longer. Sleep is very important, so I'd do what works best for your son. It's no fun for anyone to wake up wet, trust me - he doesn't like it.

I didn't read all your responses but my son, who is 8 and just about to finish 2nd grade now, wore pull-ups until the end of 1st grade. While my younger son, who is 3, stays dry every night already. I was worried as you are that my older son was in pull-ups so long while my friends kids barley ever needed them. My older son is a very deep sleeper. I was getting ready to get him an accident alarm when he just stopped needing/wanting the pull-ups. All kids are different and it will happen all by itself when it's time to stop the pull-ups. At least that's how it worked out for us. Good luck.

Your son is a normal boy, your husband is no expert on children. I kept mine in underwear despite accidents, and found it is like a cycle he will be dry for weeks then wet three times in one week. I made his bed with a pad, a fitted sheet, another pad and another fitted sheet so it is easy to strip one layer off, I like Geri M's advice on the pads ( you dont have to tell your husband they are puppy pads!) In 15 years you wont even remember when he stopped having accidents at night. Unless your hubby makes it a huge deal.