Spouse Financial Support.

Mom, your husband sounds financiallyand personally irresponsible as a husband and father. I would insist he sell the sports car today and get a small used economy car for job hunting. Personally, any man who would go out and by a sports car who is not helping financially supporting his family, without consulting his wife, is a man I would not be married too, Yes, it sounds like he did not have good role models in his parents growing up, but this is no excuse, he is a grown man. Get some marital counseling and insist on it. I would seriously consider a separation until he can prove to you he is ready to be a man and father and not a boy who goes out and buys major toys for himself, but cant support his own children. Red flag!

So, let me understand...you are going to throw a good father out the door, so a third kid, will now not have a good relationship with his father?! All this, over him losing a job, when he is good at always getting another job right away? You need to reconsider the way you think.

You say YOU pay most of the bills? I don't understand that, because in my marriage, WE pay OUR bills together! We make OUR money, there is no, his and mine. Couples who split their money like this, almost always have marital problems, because there is no sense of ours, in the marriage. It's all, mine and yours. Whatever happened to ours and we in a marriage?

i think your husband needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for himself and his family. Buying a sportscar when he was not paying household bills or meeting obligations is selfish and childish. Since you went to marriage counseling before you got married, it would be a good idea to go back and talk about some of these current issues. Are you all still involved in church? If not, reestablish this in your life. Your husband probably has a lot of personal issues about his upbringing that stand in his way of being a good father & husband, so he might even benefit from individual counseling, too. Another thought --Is he depressed? At one point he was willing to work multiple jobs, what else has changed? Good luck in dealing with all of these issues.

It sounds like your husband might be a bit depressed. Buying a sports car may have been his way of trying to find happiness since he is struggling with his relationships. The job loss is probably adding to the frustration as well as not being able to provide.

Kicking him out would be even more costly as he would have to pay for another place to live, leaving even less money to pay bills. Selling the car has to be his idea or he may always hold it against you in his mind. Counseling will help him and you make better decisions. Instead of drawing the line and confronting him, just tell him that you know he must not be happy with how things are going and that you want to go to counseling to see how you can be a better wife. He needs to see that you admit that you want to change too. Nobody is perfect and there are probably things you can do to be more positive and supportive of his goals.

Talk to him. Talk about maybe selling the car, about your feelings at not being consulted, about your frustrations at paying all the bills. Unless you no longer love him and consider the marriage over, I do not understand why you would throw your husband out of the house over a lost job and a car? Sounds like what you need it an open line of communication. Maybe see about some counseling.

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