Sleepover - Happy Valley,OR

Updated on April 27, 2013
T.J. asks from Happy Valley, OR
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My son is 11 and his friends are having a movie sleepover. The movies being played are Die Hard,Aliens, and The Matrix. All the kids are 11. Do you think I should let him go?

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answers from Dallas on

fun fact. Die Hard is one of the top 10 Christmas movies. Random fact, but had to share. If this was my son and I was comfortable with the family/parents. I'd let him go.
HOWEVER, if this was hosted at my house, this would not be the movie selection offered.
Reality, the movie watching will probably be slim to non-existent. They'll be rough housing, playing, maybe video gaming and horsing around.

It's what they do:)

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answers from Washington DC on


As someone else posted -- if you are OK with letting him watch six hours of explosions, gore, shootings, bodies...sure, send him.

He's going to plead and whine. Don't cave. You're the adult. If you're not comfortable, he doesn't go. I wouldn't over-talk this with him; just say he can't go and then have something else for your family to do that same evening, so he's not sitting around moping. You're going to be the villain to him. Can you take that?

Please go to, which does movie reviews to help parents determine what's in films and whether they're appropriate. On that site, Die Hard is rated for age 15 and up, and The Matrix for 14 and up. You can see more about the specific content of the films as well. Another good source is reviews by Jane Horwitz, who writes "Family Filmgoer" for several newspapers -- search online for the reviews.

But reviews or not -- go with what you think is right.

I think the host kid's parents are either paying zero attention or their son is planning this sleepover and hasn't told them what movies he's got in mind. Either way, I'm not sure that's a family where I'd really want my kid sleeping over.

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answers from Houston on

If you don't mind letting your son watch 6+ hours of voilent multiple headcount gore and guts explitive filled movies, go for it!

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answers from Columbus on

Yeah, that wouldn't be movies my 11 year old would be watching, but everyone is different, I guess. I would be surprised if they would want to sit through three movies. I'm with Ally...

Unless it's his best, best friend, I think we'd have other plans that night...

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answers from Washington DC on

The question isn't the movies, but the home to which he is going. Do you know the parents? Do you trust them with your child?
I used to let my child go to the party and pick her up at 11 or 12. She got to have fun at the party, and then come home and sleep in her own bed.

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answers from Boise on

Is this a matter of the sleep over? If so, do you trust the parents? Do you trust your child?

If it's a matter of those movies, I see nothing wrong with any of them for an 11 year old.

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answers from New York on

If you are comfortable with the home, and his sleeping over, and comfortable with the movie selection, I say yes. Sounds like a fun night.

F. B.

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answers from Anchorage on

I let my kids watch pg13, but not R at this point. What are these shows rated? If they are R I would ask the mom if there are other choices and then make my choice. I would not want my kid to be the one left out. As long as none of these have explicit sex scenes I would probably make an exception to my normal rule.

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answers from New York on

Why wouldn't you let him go? Of course let him go.

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answers from Seattle on

There is no way I would let my 11 year old go to a party like that. At that age I allow PG-13 movies on a case by case basis. Those movies are all rated R. In my opinion, the movie industry is a bit lax in some of their judgements, so if a movie gets a "Restricted - no children under 17 allowed without an adult" I don't think it is appropriate for an 11 year old to watch. But then I'm pretty old fashioned and want my kids to stay kids. I'm not anxious to turn them into mini adults.

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answers from Portland on

Yes, I'm a young mom and I grew up on those movies! The movies listed are in no way over the top with gore, no sex scenes in all of them, or curse words....yes Die Hard has the word motherfu*ker in it but only once! And I'm sure your 11 hears curse word on a daily basis if he goes to public school. Movie are for entertainment and your 11 year old is old enough to know that. Nothing in those movies will have any adverse affects I promise, except maybe wanting to grow up to be John McClane...because he's such a badass! And Iwouldnt say that's all that bad he is the good guy : ) let you 11 enjoy his youth it really does go by to quickly!



answers from Oklahoma City on

I guess it depends on what you think. My grandson's favorite movie when he was 4 was Ghost Rider. He would get up in the middle of the night and put it in his DVD player. I'd hear it and go check on him and he'd be sitting there watching it.

It accidentally got lost. I think that these choices of movies, rated "R" are not appropriate choices and I'd call the parents to ask them exactly what is planned. Then politely say "No thank you, we don't allow our kids to watch rated "R" movies until they at least reach puberty.

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