Single Mom Seeking Guidance

Updated on March 04, 2010
R.S. asks from Pineville, NC
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I am a 26 year old single mom with a BBA in Management informations system. I graduated in 2004 and still have not been able to place a job in that field. Since being out of school almost 4 years, I feel that it will be hard to get started in it now. However, my main problem is I dont quite know what I want to do. I am not at a point where I can work for myself, but I know that I am destined to do something better than what I am doing now. Is it normal for me to be this old and not really know what I would like to do with my life? I keep asking myself what it is that you could do that you love doing even if you were not getting paid for. I love to talk to people and give advice, but don't know what career may be right for me.

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C.C.

answers from Lexington on

I think you'll know the right job when you find it. And no youaren't too old. I'm going to be 28 this year and it seems that everytime I find something that I would love to do with my life, something creeps up and I am no longer able to do it. For instance, I decided last year that since my boys were older, I was going to go into Anthroplogy and work with Native Americans and their cultures, but within a few months, I foundout I was pregnant and there is no way that I could drag an infant to some of the areas that I would have to live in to truly get into my area of expertise.
I think that the reason its so hard to get a job in that field is because there are so many grads from that department and others like it. THere are way more ppl graduating with those types of business degrees than there are jobs out there. (I work at UK)

M.D.

answers from Raleigh on

R.,
You are doing so well right now because you did get your degree. It takes alot of determination to graduate these days. Something will come up for you just don't lose faith and when you least expect it, there it is a wonderful job that you will enjoy. I am 38 yrs old with 3 kids and I also wanted to get back to work but did not know what to do. I actually started my own business where I get to talk to people from all over the states. I am loving this and having fun meeting new people. Some days they just make my day even though they are not interested in doing what I do. If you would like to earn some income now while you are still looking for that great job in your field, try working from home and you can earn whatever you set your goals to be. I just received my commission check and I started 1 month ago. It can only go up from here. I work for a health and wellness company and I love the products they have. I also love that I am helping people get safer and healthier products in there home and they can earn an income also. I love to help make people happy so this job is for me. Since you like to talk to people as well this might just be what you are looking for this moment in your life. My website is www.workathomeunited.com/monicad or you can call me at ###-###-#### and I will be more than happy to give you the details directly. You can get started right now for only $1.00 until the 20th of March. Good luck in whatever you choose to do and know that you have accomplished so much already in your life.
M.

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M.K.

answers from Charleston on

Hi R.,

I think I can help you out with the job situatuion. First of all kudos on the college degree. Theese days to get ahead it's pretty much a gotta have. I my self have a college degree in Surgical Technology. (Doctor asks for scalpel I give it to him) When I went to school, jobs were everywhere. When I graduated, there is nothing. Typical right? I have two small children, 2 yrs and 6 months and another on the way! I currently work from home so I can be here with them. (I'm a mother who doesn't want to miss anything) I joined up with a team called The M.O.M. Team (mothers on a mission) I am a marketing executive. I also run my own business. I make my own hours and work around my husband and children's schedule. Right now I am sitting on my couch listening to the radio and marketing my company. Like any home based business, you get out of it what you put into it. I just started with the company in January and am alredy three steps away from Director. i think this company would really benefit you and your family. The endless benefits for mine are wonderful. There is no selling, no inventory, and absolutely no risk. Check out my website: www.homeofficemamma.com and email me if you have any questions. ____@____.com Good Luck

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S.S.

answers from Washington DC on

Last year, I had a brand new baby girl and I was laid off. I became a SAHM due to my daughter's health issues and without my income we were struggling to keep up with the bills.

I was introduced to an on-line membership that saved me money on everything from my toilet paper all the way to our families health/car insurance. Over the last year we have saved $4844. It not only saved money, but also time. Especially with an infant, it was a blessing NOT to have to go running around to different stores.

After I saw my household savings, I began to work the business. I work about 15-20 hours a week and make enough money that I am able to stay home without the financial strain. I do not sell anything, stock any inventory, nor do I cold call anyone. It's amazing to find a company that helps me save money instead of taking it for products or advertising.

If you would like some more information about it you can e-mail me at ____@____.com or visit my website at www.bign.com/ssunderland for a free on-line presentation.

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S.S.

answers from Charlotte on

R.,
Seems to me that you should be very proud of yourself for coming as far as you have and it's perfectly normal for you to still wonder "what you're going to be when you grow up," especially at your YOUNG age! I was a single mother for 3 years and I know it is NOT easy! I'm 42 years old with 2 kids under 6 and I've changed direction several times in my life, but since having kids, I've made sure they are the #1 priority for love, health and safety. You just have to go with the situation and the flow. Sometimes you're in a good position, sometimes it's a little tougher, but it all seems to work out in the end when you can keep your priorities straight. Until you figure out what you'd really like to do, just remember that you've come a long way, and you have a long way to go!

Best of luck to you, I'm sure the right thing will happen for you!

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W.F.

answers from Clarksville on

I have two different ideas that you can use to get paid now and secure your future and retire early. Both of these reqire the skills that you mentioned, talking and giving advice, with helping people. I do this myself, so I know they are legitimate and earn money from international companies. The benefits are endless and will change your life and those of your family. If you are interested, contact me at 1-877-736-7630.

Best wishes for your future,
W.

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C.S.

answers from Boston on

Hey R.: There are many people your age and older that have yet to find the right job that suits them. It's quite alright! have you ever thought about working from home! I am working at home marketing online for a wellness company and Its so easy I am loving it! I get to spend quality time with my family, set my own schedule, and I too love talking to people. with this job I dont have to sell anything, no parties, no cold calling, just a whole lot of support and fun while making a great income. if interested go to www.momstakeaction.com and check it out!
Best of luck!
C.,

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M.S.

answers from Huntington on

You are normal. I am 30 something and I have asked myself the same questions before. There are alot of options out there and not all of them are good. What you should do is make a list of what you enjoy doing. Then make a budget of what you have to pay out so you will know how much you need to bring in each month. You said you are not ready to work for yourself, have you ever thought about any direct sells? You are your own boss but you work with a team and a mentor that can guide you along the way. I love what I do and it gives me alot of time to spend with my family.

Let me know after you have made your lists if you are interested in more information. You'll be surprised at what you might like as a job. Congratulations on your degree. You accomplished a major task so don't sell yourself short. Obviously you are a hard worker you just need a little guidance. Don't give up, you'll find your place.

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K.R.

answers from Memphis on

Hi R.,

It is perfectly normal for you to be 26 and still not know what you want to do with your life. I'm sure you know a few people twice your age that are saying the same thing. It sounds like a good thing that you don't have a job in your field. That's not really your field. MIS would not necessarily give you the freedom to talk to people and give advice, unless you consulted on this topic. Have you thought about getting your masters degree? Although, I commend you for your bachelors, in this day and time you almost have to take it a step further. There are a lot of programs out there that will fit into your work/family schedule. I think for you a Masters in Public Administration or Human Resources would work well with your BS in MIS. A masters degree does not have to be in direct correlation with your bachelors degree. Check it out. I also suggest starting your own business. You can do this part time. It will let you know if you truly have what it takes to give advice. You can try this out on family and friends. A gift of gab can really take you a long way.

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G.C.

answers from Asheville on

R.,
It is totally normal to go through many changes about what you want to do in life. You are not old by any means.
I am a grandmother of 4 and have changed my direction several times in life until in my mid 30's I found the path of massage was right for me. I have been in it for over 20 years now.
Definitely do something you love! Perhaps talk to a career counselor and they may guide you. Congratulations on pursuing your education. Being a single mom also presents challenges ( i know that personally too). Be proud of yourself and don't give up. the right job will come !
Good Luck, G.

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S.F.

answers from Fayetteville on

Hi. I don't think there is anything wrong with you--I am im my 40's and still am not sure what I want to do with the rest of my life. As far as a career/job, have you ever thought of The Pampered Chef? I started selling it as a hobby several years ago. It gives you flexibility in hours and you get to have a lot of fun. I still sell it because I love the products, but I do know people that make a VERY good living doing it. If you are interested, please let me know, and I will get you more info. BTW, with TPC you get to talk to lots of people, give great advice and set your own schedule.

I am actually considering making this my 'job' this year and leaving the "regular" retail world (I work for Honeybaked Ham).

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T.D.

answers from Louisville on

honestly, it's a systemic problem. We go to college for however many years, graduate with a degree in which are passionate, and then are unable to find jobs in our selected field. i am experiencing the same thing. however, i majored in philosophy; that is even more worthless. i don't exactly where you live, but a friend and i applied to for jobs teaching underprivileged kids in the inner city or in other economically deprived areas. i think there is a program in NC. Don't know if you have ever thought of teaching, but it is wonderful opportunity to help those less fortunate and also has great benefits. google north carolina teaching fellows. otherwise, find something that you feel inspires you or you could always go back to school!! good luck!

~T.

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