My husband and I have been trying for another baby since October. We have been using the charts to track my ovulation and have used the stick tests too, but we have been unsuccesful. We thought that it would be easy because I got pregnant with our 1st child on BC pills. So we have been told that we should wait at least a year before seeing a doctor about it, but my husband is being deployed in Jan and we really wanted to be pregnant before then. We feel we are up against the clock and are wondering if we should just wait until October and then probably not have time to see all the specialists before he leaves, or just accept the fact it may not happen until he gets home. We really wanted our children to be closer in age. Anyways any thoughts and advice would be apprecitated.
A., If you have been trying that long after for your second pregnancy, most doctors would consider going ahead for some fertility help. The "try for at least a year" before getting help rule is for a first pregnancy. If you are worried about your timeframe, talk to your GYN.
Good luck!
Hi A.,
You're so young to really have to worry about starting treatments especially since you got pregnant so easily with your first.
This may sound a little funny but make sure you're having LOTS of sex to increase your chances.
The more sex, the more chances you have of getting pregnant. I know it can be hard finding time with a 2 yr old to care for but make sure you are not only having sex around the time your fertile but all throughout the month.
It took me two months with my first, 7 mnths for my second (which felt like forever) and then 1 mnth for my 3rd.
Hang in there and don't give up yet, each pregnancy process is different and some take longer, others don't.
Keep trying and if you're meant to have another, you will!
Good luck to you and your husband and a salute to him ! : )
Take Care
Since you've been pregnant before it's highly unlikely that either you or hubby have any fertility issues and it likely would be a huge waste of $s to see someone about this. As someone else mentioned, it's likely stress, but you might consider that things happen for a reason and maybe it's better to wait. Honestly, having kids closer together is a mixed blessing - yes they can be closer, but they will also likely fight alot more. Your son would be just over 3 if you pregnant now (if your profile is accurate) and that time period often yields the worst sibling rivalry and resentment, as your son will be old enough to know he's been displaced. If you wait a bit longer you son will be mature enough and have far more appreciation for his sibling and you are still very, very young and still have LOTS of time to have LOTS of kids. My sister didn't start until she was 30 and had 10 kids, so be careful what you wish for!
Another perspective is whether you really want to be pregnant and be dealing with an almost 3 year old without your hubby around. I was a military brat and it's not easy across the board, so giving yourself and son a chance to enjoy yourselves as much as possible without either one of you (or your husband while he's away) having to worry about another child might be a very good thing.
You say you are charting, but which method are you using? I HIGHLY suggest Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Dr. Toni Weschler. When trying to get pregnant one of the most important signs is your cervical fluid. If you check your cervical fluid and are able to get it to stretch between your forefinger and your thumb then you are fertile.
Get the book. It goes into better detail.
GL!
assuming that military medicine will let you start ruling out possible fertility issues before it's been a year, I would definitely start now.
If I were in your shoes, I'd want to see a doctor (both of you) to make sure all the parts were working right ;)
You're so young, and had no trouble the first time, it just might be a timing thing - there's such a small fertilization window, it's amazing anyone gets pregnant! :)
You may need some romantic alone time to relax and get things going. Good luck!
are you charting your temps? how long have you been off all BC? if not a year yet, then chill till the year mark. you are still sooooooooo young. sure you wanted your kids close together, but things happen. if not this time around, then the next time!
This may sound strange, but since you both know he is to be deployed in January you are both trying too hard. Just relax and forget about making a baby. When you really want to get pregnant it doesn't work. Go take the pressure off and just enjoy each other, get drunk if need be. Before your little rendezvous, send your baby on an overnight with some friends and have a free for all loving making just to enjoy each other with no pressure and you probably with conceive. From military wife to another. Remember God works in his own time and in his own way stop putting such a NOW on the moment. The other S.
At your age, I wouldn't wait a year. You're still so young. There may be an issue. I had a hard time getting pregers the 2nd time (16 months), and I'm 25. Go see a fertility doc. They may put you on Clomid to help you ovulate. It stimulates the ovaries to release an egg. Good luck!
