Should My 12 Year Old Give up Her Room for My ex-Mother in Law ?

Updated on November 28, 2018
M.T. asks from North Hollywood, CA
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My daughter never had her own room before until recently when we moved

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D..

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Why do you say SO LITTLE here? Do you really want answers that can make ANY sense? Give us some context here.

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M.S.

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If this is a short visit, then school night...no. Weekend....yes, unless she has to get up early for something.

If this is more than a visit then you have bigger fish to fry than a room.

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T.F.

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How on earth are we supposed to answer that with the little info you gave us.

We are a great group of moms on this site but we can't read your mind and decipher what your question is from this amount of information. Geesh!

Is Ex MIL visiting or moving in. That is the #1 question

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L.U.

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Seriously? NO information whatsoever and you want us to answer your question.
You need to give us a little more, M..

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S.B.

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Don't have enough information to answer

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H.M.

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And most importantly why did you just say have you intro question Should my 12 year old give up her room for my ex-Mother in law ? and say My daughter never had her own room before until recently when we moved

My other questions are.... How they heck can we answer with just that? Why is you EX mother in law going to stay with you?? Is she moving in or just visiting? How does your daughter feel about this?

These are things that need to be answered before anyone can give you a good, complete answer that could possibly be helpful!!!!

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

Please clarify.

Is the ex MIL moving in with you? If so, why? You need to tell us more - please edit your question and add details.

Is Grandma just visiting and you have a good enough relationship with the ex-MIL that she stays with you for a few days? Then yes, your daughter should give up her room for a few days. I always gave up my room, as did my brother, when relatives came for special events, holidays, etc. It's called "welcoming guests" and "mi casa es su casa." Kids slept on couches, rollaway beds, air mattresses and the floor with sleeping bags. Call is "winter camping" and make a party out of it.

If you really don't want Grandma in the house, then get a motel room for her and invite her over for meals, board games with your daughter, etc.

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S.B.

answers from Houston on

Don't have enough information to answer

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B.C.

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Without any more details I'd have to say no.
I don't know why ex-MIL needs a room but your child deserves one especially as she's becoming a teen and could use some privacy.
As a parent you provide for your child - ex-MIL can get her own place.
This is what hotels are for.

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M.G.

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I would not personally.

Without any information - you are not going to get any helpful answers.

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C.N.

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No. A child should never be required to give up his/her personal space. IF she VOLUNTEERS to let Granny use her room, fine. Otherwise, Granny needs to sleep on the couch.

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M.C.

answers from Chicago on

Your ex mother in law lives with you? If she is your ex's mom, why does she not live with her son? Is this room already your daughter's and you are thinking of moving her out of it? Where will she room then? Is this a room in your ex's house? Where will ex mother in law stay if she does not get your daughter's room? Not enough details given, but if my kid had a room and an ex mother in law was living with me, I would not move my kid out. If it is a room in your ex husband's house, then you don't really have a say.

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W.W.

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M.

Welcome to mamapedia.
Please explain a little more in-depth.

Why would your daughter have to give up her room for your ex-MIL?
Is this Ex-MIL HER/your daughter's - GRANDMOTHER?

Why did you move?
Why would your EX-MIL need to move with you?
Are you re-married?
What does your husband think of this?
Why can't your EX-MIL move in with her SON?
Is this for a visit or for a full-time live in? if it's for a visit - I'm fine with someone giving up their room for a week.

Too many questions - not enough information to answer. Please update in your "So What Happened" so people can answer more thoroughly'

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J.C.

answers from Anchorage on

Is this a visit or is MIL moving in? If it is a visit then yes, daughter should give up her room to make your guest comfortable. Moving in? Then you need to try to find a solution that gives everyone privacy and comfort.

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M.P.

answers from Portland on

I'm still waiting for more information before trying to help you. I'm beginning to think you're a troll.

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Oh I remember you! It's been a few years. What's up? Not wanting to move on to a new question?

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