Sexual Behaviour by 7 Year Old Kid

One Answer... Public School, 3rd grade, my young person came home telling me about how a girl in the class was having sex with a cousin and how she was going to have a baby! When I approached the teacher to find out what she was going to do about it, she laughed and said saying something to the parents would only cause more problems. HELLO!
I now homeschool. Good Luck!

I'm not sure what you mean by aggressive sexual behavior, but you are right to be concerned. At 7 years old, she should have only limited knowledge of this. More in the line of 'where do babies come from' kind of thing. Obvously she has learned too much too soon and you need to find out how. I don't mean to scare you, but she may have been, or is bieng, sexually abused by someone. Please take her to her doctor and discuss the behavior you have seen and ask her to be examined. Doctors can tell if a child has been abused. Kids usually feel safe with doctors and are willing to answer questions honestly to them.
If this is not the case she still is being exposed to sex somewhere. Sit her down and talk to her about it. Make sure she knows that she is not in trouble. You are not mad at all, just worried about her. Did she accidentally walk in on mommy and daddy? Has she seen something on tv? Magazines? Does she have older siblings/cousins that talk about this where she can hear? Did someone at school say something to her to make her think she should be having sex? Really ask a lot of questions and listen carefully to the anwers. This is a really big deal. This behavior is nothing but trouble in the long run. Keep at it until you figure it out. Get assistance from your doctor, pastor, school counsellor, or someone else if you can't get straight answers from her. Again, it is important that she knows she is not in trouble at all. At 7 years old this can't possibly be her fault. You love her and are very worried about her. Tell her that you love her too much to allow something, or someone to hurt her and you will keep asking questions and seeking help until this is solved. Don't give up!! This is WAY to big an issue to ignore.

is it possible this child has been exposed to sex in this way some other way? has this child been abused?

I believe children do what they see and are familar with. I would fear the child is being sexually abused by someone. possibly a teacher if you are positive this is not occuring at home. Is she watching inappropiate movies or tv show? maybe getting ideas from there on sexuality. I would definately be concerned. I really don't think my 7 yr old even knows what sex is. good luck!! I would contact her doctor or a counselor.

SA is one possibility...

So is being exposed to someone else who is being sexually abused (all the kids in my son's K class became very aware about the intimate details of BJ's and anal, because one of the kids in the class was being raped/molested...

It's also possible she's just hit adolescence and is starting puberty. Early starters (period at 8 or 9) get the same crazy hormone things that pre-teens and teens do... right along with sex drive...

It's also possible it's merely her extrapolating / copying stuff from cartoons & tv (think about the way Jasmin pretends to seduce Jafaar in Aladdin, just for one example amongst thousands) or other forms of media (take a good look at the covers of the magazines that are at eye level to HER in the grocery store... they usually include seductive poses, and the "women's" mags include things like "50 great sex tips to make him YOURS" "Falling into Bed with the wrong guys AGAIN", "How to get a guy to blah blah blah"...

It's also possible (depending on your religion) that she's acting out stuff she's heard in church... without the deeper meanings / metaphors adults and older children attach, some of the written descriptions are almost kama sutra esque...

It's also possible that (without more details) what she's doing is totally normal and typical. Masturbating (most toddlers figure out this one... it doesn't actually = sex to them since they don't have the hormones or education yet, it just feel good), totally innocent playground kisses, wanting to play "house" (this is where she'd be combining stuff from home & tv) which is also totally innocent...

So there are a bunch of possibilities, although in my exp, it's usually a combo of several.

I would really talk with your Pediatrician about it.
In a 7 year old, to me, that is kinda sorta not age appropriate.
Your daughter's approaching boys for sex, as you said... could come from any number of reasons. And, there is no telling where she gets those ideas or why she does it... it could even be happening in her school, or sometimes the child gets approached/touched by an adult too. Of course, that is a criminal act.

have you tried talking with her... and asking her "why" she does that? Or where she gets the idea from? Ask her in a casual calm way though... so she is open with you... so that you can assess the situation and her.

all the best,
Susan

Jen S sums up my exact feelings.

Personally, I would take her to the doctor as soon as possible.

I hope everything is ok.

Just want to say, bless your heart. I agree with Jen S. Just wanted to send you a bit of encouragement just for YOU tho. Its so hard being a parent! Hang in there. ooo

i have a 7yo, and that is not typical behavior. i would start by asking her if she even knows what sex is. if she does, in fact, know, i would ask her who told her about that, how she found out what that is - and explain that sex is something only for grownups that are married. i would also take this opportunity to find out if anyone has touched her inappropriately. if it turns out that she doesn't know what sex is, i'd be likely to dismiss it as trying to fit in to the pop culture, she prob hears the word on tv, etc. if she does know what sex is, i'd be inclined to have a visit with the pedi or possibly a counselor to see if there's not something deeper going on. good luck!

Do you let her watch t.v. without supervision? Do you know what she watches when she's at home or at someone else's house?

Does she even know what SEX means at 7? You should have a serious talk with her and in a way that she understands what you are talking about, (since she is only 7). If you are not satisfied with what she is says and where she learned this behavior, take her to the Doctor.