Saying "I Love You"

Updated on October 11, 2012
C.I. asks from Cape Coral, FL
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OK, this is a fun, off the wall question. My grandson is almost 7. Last summer I heard abour Sara, a pretty little blond that he liked. They are now both in 1st grade with their classrooms across the hall from each other. She joined his Karate class a few months ago. So, they see each other alot. Last week, he blew her a kiss during lunch at school. She gave him a "mean" look. This week at karate, he told her that he loved her. I thought that it was cute. He loves alot of people & alot of people love him. He is a great kid, but he got some strange looks when he said "I love you Sara" after class. I felt like saying...come on people, he is only 6. Do you think that it cute or not ? He told me that she makes his heart happy & his face smile.

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WOW ! I was really surprised with some of the answers. NO, WindyCityMom, he is NOT a nut. He is 6 ! he is learning how to do these things. He has to learn. His mom talked to him last night & he realized that he might have embarresed her. At 6 how many boys know how to read a girls signals. I know adults that still don't know to do that. He told me today hat he didn't even look at her One thing that I didn't mention was that her parents were sitting next to me & thought it was cute & funny. He has to learn about girls & I think that it is better at 6 than 16. Thank you to all the people that thought that it was cute. After all, he isn't planning to marry her. He wants to marry Kellie Pickler LOL

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A.V.

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I would tell him that it doesn't appear that Sara feels the same toward him. He can still be her friend, but he should respect her feelings and not blow kisses at her that she doesn't want. He is only 6 but he also needs to learn boundaries with respect to others. It's not "bad" and it's pretty cute, but if his attention is unwanted, he needs to learn to respect that.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

He's just a little 6 year old.
But if Sara gets irked then its not cute or fun anymore.
The kid(s) are learning social cues.

My daughter had a boy in Kindergarten that had a "crush" on her.
He really doted on her and was like a little puppy dog. He even told his Mom (we know each other).
But my daughter just would ignore him. But they were friends.

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It's cute because it's your son saying it. If you were Sara's mommy, and some little boy said it to your child, and she wrinkled up her nose and gave him a mean look, you would feel like he was being inappropriate.

You aren't wrong as the boy's mom. You wouldn't be wrong as the girl's mom. Do you understand?

And yeah, he's only 6. But C., the girl doesn't like it, and that's her right. You need to help him understand that he shouldn't say it to girls who don't like it. It's more of a thing to keep in his heart. (And that will help prevent his sweet little heart from getting broken, too...)

Dawn

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

I think it's precious!

However at the age of 7 or 70 if his affections are not returned or well received, he needs to stop.

Sorry.

:(

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K.H.

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It is cute - as long as Sarah isn't bothered by it.

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P.G.

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"makes his heart happy & his face smile" - I'm so melting right now! :)

One thing to think about, though - is SHE comfortable with it? Everyone has a different personality, and though you know your lovey kid and are comfortable with the level of affection he gives, SHE may not be. And that has to be respected. He can still have the feelings, but he may need to learn that he can't act on them all the time, everywhere. She may be embarrassed because he's doing it in public, etc.

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V.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

Hmm.
I have a girl and a boy. I would think it was cute if my son did it, but I would also be very surprised, because he is very socially conscious. He would be embarrassed if a girl did it to him, I know.

If a little boy did that to my daughter, I might think it was cute. Or I might not. Depends upon the boy, how my daughter felt about it (she is NOT a girly girl and is pretty spirited and opinionated... and might find it lame or just plain embarrassing. But at age 6, she would have been kinda weirded out probably... she is very cautious with showing her emotions), whether it was an ongoing thing that annoyed my daughter or whether she reciprocated the feelings.

I will say, that my son had a little girl that he was very fond of and planned to marry, when he was about 3 or 4. Those are the kinds of emotions/statements that need to be addressed seriously, I think. Husband told him he'd need to talk to the little girl's dad before he could marry her. (Fellow church members). So he did. The Dad said to come back when he had a job so he could support a family.

I thought that was great.

It is fine for him to have a crush on Sara. But he needs to understand that she may not enjoy the attention, and if he cares about her, he will respect her boundaries of kind of attention she does AND doesn't like.

Enjoy his sweet open heart, but yeah.. he is hitting the age where people start expecting kids to filter and use a little discernment about appropriateness. It is uncommon for a 6 yr olds boy to say "I love you" like he did. Mallory made a good point about him getting a reputation as "that" boy. Something to consider.

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B.M.

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I think if he blew a girl a kiss and she gave him a "mean look" and his next step was I love you that he's not reading her cues that she doesn't want anything to do with him.

it's not cute. Teach him that when someone rebuffs your advances you don't go full on "love". Teach him that when someone isn't interested you, even if they "Make your heart happy and your face smile" that you don't try and change their mind. You move on.

He got strange looks because MOST people don't go around publicly declaring their love for others. Maybe they should.... but they don't. How you feel about someone is a private. Especially if they knew she wasn't into his attention..... then it's not appropriate.

I've dated that guy and he's nuts. He's the guy that you go out with once and tell him thanks but no thanks and he calls you every day for the next week to tell you how much he likes you.

Teach your grandson to give his time and attention to people who want it.

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

There are lots of different kinds of love.

If we're lucky, there are lots of people in our lives we will have affection for.
Your grandson obviously feels affection for Sara.

Perfectly innocent. And cute.

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L.A.

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People need to seriously lighten up. He is only 6. I think it is adorable.

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M.P.

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Someone needs to have a talk with him about appropriate behavior when it comes to this. Esp because this girl was obvioulsy upset about it. I have known moms of girls who have had this kind of thing happen when they were young and the story always goes-'it was cute at first and then got really annoying and then troubling'. And how did I find out about this?? Word of mouth. This kind of thing will spread from parent to parent and then your boy will be marked as the odd little guy who won't leave the girls alone. I will say though that all of the little boys who did this in K and first outgrew it by 3rd.

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J.M.

answers from Philadelphia on

cute! people are stupid! and overreact and think of things with adult minds in regards to kids.
possibly the looks are coming from if she isnt comfortable with it and he continues. maybe hes embarassing her?

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L.M.

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I think it's over stepping the boundries. My daughter loves to have friends and she has told her best friend that she loves her. I spoke with her about how we say we love our family, and we care a lot about our friends, but right now love is for family. So instead of saying "I love you" to your friend when they are leaving, to say "I had a really fun time and can't wait to play again." I think, emotionally, that is what they are trying to say since they can not really comprehend the strong meaning of love yet. They just really like the person, or have a little crush, or had a really fun time playing. Try giving him other words to express his extra fondness for Sarah, maybe more appropriate "Bye Sarah, can't wait to see you next time!"

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C.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

It is very cute, but my personal opinion is that you should teach him that he should love everyone, but love is special and for now he and Sara should be friends. You can't stop the crush, but he is probably embarrassing Sara with the extra attention. She will likely become more mean to him.

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C.B.

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I think it is very cute. Who cares what others think. Your son has his first crush - it's adorable! Now it's up to you and dad to make sure he knows how to TREAT Sara!

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M.M.

answers from Fresno on

I honestly don't think that's cute. Sorry. I think he needs to wait for all the crushing and butterflies. Especially if she's not feeling the same way.

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K.J.

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I think it's cute, but if the little girl seems off put, it's never too early to teach him about respecting boundaries. I clearly remember a boy in 2nd grade named Stevie who did the exact same things. He would blow kisses at me, try to sit with me at lunch, chase me around the playground, tell me he loved me, called me his girlfriend, told my mom he was going to marry me, etc. It made me really uncomfortable. He even had his friend start writing me love notes and asking why I wouldn't be his girlfriend (2nd grade.. really? lol!) I wouldn't say it had any harmful lasting effects, but I do remember it, I was uncomfortable, and I did finally tell my teacher and my mom, who quickly put an end to it. We got assigned seats at lunch, he sat on the other side if the classroom, we were put on different teams when the class teamed up, etc. I felt uncomfortable and that was not ok. I think it is perfectly appropriate to let him know that it's ok to have those feelings (his crush) but that doesn't mean that Sara does.

How would you feel if you were Sara's grandma? Would you still think it's cute that a boy was making her uncomfortable? Yes, I'm sure he's completely innocent and it probably was really cute, but there are boundaries.

On the flip side, my brother swore he was going to marry a girl named Hannah in his 1st grade class, but she said she was going to marry him too, and it was funny and cute, and never crossed any boundaries for either of them. 15 years later they are still friends and they still laugh about how he said they had to wait to get married because he was going to make her dress and needed to learn to use a sewing machine.

Just my humble opinion. :)

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B.C.

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Its cute, but about 6-8 years too soon.

Good luck to you and yours.

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