Question About My Daughter's Breasts

Updated on July 15, 2011
E.P. asks from Mount Joy, PA
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Wow, if you would have asked me years ago if I'd ever type the above phrase, I would have said you were crazy! Anyway, my daughter is almost 12 years old, very mature and her body has been developing over the last 2-3 years. She is 5'3", weighs about 115 and has had her period regularly for about a year at this point. She has been wearing a bra in one form or another since she was maybe 8. She is now about a size 34 B-C. She has been growing out of her old bras fairly regularly. Hopefully she's done growing in that area for a while at least.
Yesterday, we were in a store trying on bras. I was in the fitting room with her (we're not really sure about what will give her enough support, so she wanted me in there). When she was changing, I noticed that one breast sits up nice and perky and the other one droops a little. They are nearly the same size (nobody is perfect). One nipple pointed straight out and the other was somewhat pointed downward by maybe and inch or so. Has anyone ever heard of this? I didn't make a big deal about it at all, I'm just curious if it will all straighten itself out or should I check with her pediatrician at her next appointment?

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answers from San Diego on

I remember when I was a pre-teen that I read a book that was written like the diary of a 12-year-old girl. She went bra shopping with her friend, and the friend exclaimed that one of the main character's breasts was bigger than the other. The funny thing was then a sales woman from the store pops her head into the fitting room and said, "Did someone say 'breast'?" And then she goes on and discusses how it's perfectly normal for breasts to be asymmetrical.

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answers from Charlotte on

I'd find a woman gyn and take her. I would be a little concerned about that. You don't have to tell her that it's unusual to see a doctor for her breasts at this age. She has seen a doctor for all kinds of things. Just make it "no big deal" and tell her that part of becoming a young woman is a breast exam. Women do it all the time, yadda yadda.

Then talk to the doctor in the hallway out of her earshot. That way if there's nothing wrong, she won't worry. If there is, then the doctor will know what to say. And being a woman doctor, she will be much easier on your daughter's psyche.

Good luck,

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answers from Appleton on

I was a bra fitter at Penney's for 3yrs. I recommend getting her a fitting at Penney's. The Penney's bra fitters are just trained better. Since 80% of all women are wearing the wrong size bra, have yourself fitted first in front of your daughter she will feel more secure if she can watch a fitting. Then have the fitter help you to find good fitting bras. Bras are like shoes, just because you wear a size 8 shoe doesn't mean every size 8 will fit you.

It is completely normal to have boobs of different sizes and shapes especially when a girl is just developing or during pregnancy or breastfeeding. There are several different types of pads that you can use in the bra to even them out and always buy the bra that fits the bigger boob.

Good luck and have fun bra shopping. I'm now taking my granddaughters bra shopping cause grandma's the 'expert'. Ahh it's a fun day at the mall with the kids. :-)

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answers from Portland on

If you are concerned I would take her to a female gynecologist. As a pre-teen I personally would not have wanted a guy or the usual pediatrician. From what I've heard asymmetry is normal at that age, but who knows if it is when they are developing so fast.

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answers from Houston on

Totally normal. I even knew a girl who had one breast about 4 inches bigger than the other. I also would not say anything to your daughter about it and I would not ask her Dr about it in front of her either.

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answers from San Francisco on

It's normal for breasts to be asymmetrical. It might be worth privately asking her female dr. about, though I highly doubt it means anything.

Don't say anything to your daughter about it, though. She will probably notice they are different at some point, but at this young age you don't want her to get a complex. Thanks to my cousin pointing out my breasts' flaws at 14, and then my college roommate screaming in horror at them one time, I really hated my chest for a long time. I hadn't noticed my problem until those people were so kind as to point it out to me.

So maybe if the doctor feels it needs to be looked at, she can make it a discreet part of some other exam. I repeat - don't mention it to your daughter.

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answers from Washington DC on

I know each person is different and some women have different sized breasts...

I would bring it up at her next doesn't sound normal to me - my daughter wasn't a C cup until she was 17....

I wouldn't make a big deal of it...just make a note of it and talk to the pediatrician...maybe call your OB/GYN and tell them what you told us...they may want to see her...who knows!! :)

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answers from Seattle on

i don't really have any advice about the difference between the two breast as far as size I am right there with her. I started getting "boobs" at 10 and was a small c cup by 12 and went to a D cup by the time I was 13. Having large breast sucks(that's my opinion) I am now a 38D or 42 DD depending on the bra/brand. When I was pregnant both times I was a 44DDD or 42E. Sorry I'm not much help with the other issue. but I do agree with asking her PED about it at her next apt. Good luck

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answers from Dallas on

SHe's OK... my daughter was an early bloomer too and compared to mine her look 'funny' too. I swear they look like one of those NUK nipples all the time. Of course I cannot talk, pregnancy made one fo my boobs way bigger than the other LOL



answers from Dallas on

Mine were like that, but about 3 years later. (No period until I was 15, but but I was a D cup by the time I got my period.) The evened out in size as I got older, but one always drooped more. They are much more asymmetrical now, because I had a trauma that caused swelling for a long period of time, and stretched the skin/tissue. Anyway, my OB told me asymmetry (everyone's breasts are a bit asymmetrical, I'm talking a big difference) is often a tissue problem. It's one that can cause trouble producing milk and lactating. (Doesn't matter the size, they can be big or small.) What's interesting about her telling me that, is that I ended up producing nothing. My breasts never even hurt, or changed during pregnancy. If it's a tissue problem, then you can't really do anything about it.

With that said, it could just be hormonal. My 12 year old niece has 2 different looking breasts (I've helped raise her, and took her to the appointment.) and her Dr. was not worried. She said it's not uncommon for breasts to be different sizes and shapes during puberty. could be something, and it could not be. The "something" it could be, is most likely nothing at all...and simply just differently shaped breasts.



answers from Amarillo on

As most posters stated she is normal. I asked a doctor once about this and was told that the if you are right handed you use the muscles more and this causes the breast to be firmer than the other side but is well. No one is the same on each side. Enjoy this moment as it is fleeting and you will be sending out wedding invites and wondering where the time went.

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answers from New York on

She is perfectly normal. My oldest neice went from an A cup to a DD in one year. Every other month we had to go bra shopping. She is now 22 years old an a 34DD. Her breasts are symmetrical.

If you are really concerned, get her checked out by a woman doctor instead of a man but not necessarily her pediatrician and try not to make a big deal of it.



answers from Seattle on

If she's had her period for a year it's time to introduce her to a women's health care provider. I personally prefer a midwife for my women's health needs, but an OB/GYN or a Nurse Practitioner specializing in women's health would work as well.
Now that said, symmetrical breasts are very, very common. Actually more so than perfectly symmetrical breasts. They may even out as she is developing, or maybe not. It is pretty normal.
Good luck.



answers from Lake Charles on

So all of the questions are talking about asymmetrical breasts being normal and that wasn't your question.. you know that not having two exactly the same size is normal.. You're asking about the perkiness and nipple area. I'd call your OB/GYN and say you are probably going to set up an appointment for your daughter and just ask the nurse if there's anything to be concerned about, they'll either say "bring her in" or "no big deal" that does sound a little strange but I've heard of weirder :) good luck. And probably don't say anything to her about it unless she asks..



answers from New York on

I seem to be this way, and one of my nipples is "off" kind of pointed in a slightly off direction. My sister is the same way, so I never thought much about it. Only time it's ever an issue for me is with nursing, but I knew to expect that because my sister gave me the heads up. I just had to learn how to work around it (and so did my babies).

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