Are Pull-ups really necessary? My daughter has cotton underware but does not like them. She would prefer to have the diaper, moreso, naked. I just wanted to ask this question because as we know the cost is not cheap, and it is now winter.
We live with the grandparents and they are not "up to" any of the processes of this stuff. Like when I mentioned to start this a year ago, I was told it was too early, though I am the one person home with my daughter and know the cues. I was willing to teach my daughter potty training this summer but having an accident was a nightmare and going naked for a short period is out of the question, as I live with my in-laws.
Just today (after a bath), she finally wasn't scared and went P (she said she had to poo but did the other, yes! very exciting), on the potty:) Now I am nervous because just a couple of months ago when the excitement of a potty wore off she became scared of it. Never once did I or any one else force the idea on her.
Now I don't know what to do.....Pleease help
Pull ups are a relatively new concept. Generations of parents did without them so no, not necessary. They were handy when my son was daytime trained but was working on nighttime training - it was easier for him to get them off when he woke up needing to use the potty and didn't have time to wake us up.
I have NEVER used pull-ups.
My kids did fine without it.
Toilet mastery, takes time and their bodily maturation.
And yes, they do get scared sometimes.
They will do it when ready.
AND even when they are potty trained, accidents WILL happen. It is childhood.
Try some training underwear. A little extra absorbency will help with the mess. I think pull ups are a waste of money and only put my son in them to go to church or playdates when I will not be there to clean him up if he has an accident - I don't want to put someone else through that. My son wears diapers to bed. And underwear the rest of the time.
I only used pull-ups at night and even then I really didn't need them so much but it was a nice transition for me. My daughter only had 2 "accidents" over night and she was wearing a pull up so we moved on to panties at night very quickly.
you don't say how old she is, but I think if you wait until they're ready it is much easier! My sanity is slightly more important than my pocketbook some days! ;) We had our days of washing panties in the toilet, but honestly, it wasn't that bad!
Pull ups are a waste of money! Use the underwear because she will feel the accident right away and realize.
Also, use a sticker chart or a rewards system. This worked wonders for my son. He was big on Thomas the Train. So, I gave him a train for every poop and every 10 pees. He would also get one of his favorite stickers for each pee. I hope this helps!
JUST SAY NO TO PULL-UPS. All they are is a marketing ploy and twice the price. I wish I knew that sooner.
Go with underpants. At first, I put two pair on my son until he really got use to going potty and had less accidents. I did that because every store that I went to was sold out of the thicker training underpants.
Good luck and try to remember this will be a distant memory soon.
Pull ups are definitely not required. Some families use them and some don't. My oldest child pretty much potty trained herself at 2, but was really nervous about accidents. We used pull ups when we had long car rides to provide her some piece of mind. She rarely had accidents. My youngest (2 1/2 now) thinks pull ups are glorified diapers and really doesn't care if they are wet or not. She is currently wearing the clothe training pants. They help contain some of the mess, but she still knows when she is wet. She is still having quite a few accidents, but at least asks to be changed or tells me when she is going potty. So to make a long story short, each kid is very different. You'll have to figure out what works out best for you and your family. Good luck!
I personally found them counter productive and expensive and do not plan on messing with them at all for my second boy when he is ready. My son just always went pee in them, he never pooped in one, but he peed freely!! What I did was I got him some great underwear and then my MIL got me these cloth underwear that are thicker so the mess is much less than with just underwear, but it still makes them totally wet. You can just get them at Walmart they are called cloth trainers. Anyway, my son really wanted to wear his cool underwear and so I told him when he had a couple days accident free he could change to his character underwear. He was fully trained in three days, it was amazing!!! We had tried so many times with rewards, pull ups, all that stuff!! I still did a diaper at night for like a month but I realized the only way he would learn was to have a chance to go to bed without a diaper so I cut the drinks off by 6:30 or so make sure he pees before bed and he does just great. I did wait after my last failed attempt until it was totally his idea and he was ready at 3, like right after his bday, but I think some of that was our fault bc we had done it with too much pressure so he regressed. Anyway, if it is too hard, in my opinion it is too early and waiting will help. Most parents I know say when they wait on their child to get ready it is a breeze. I was blown away when three days in he was accident free and we have never looked back. Good luck!!! :D
We have used pull-ups at night until just recently, but one thing I learned from my son is this - if you are going use pull-ups then make sure you use them for potty training, and not as a substitute for diapers. Once you start that cycle it us very hard to change it!
We went to a potty training seminar recently and one of the suggestions that I thought was interesting was to put them in underpants, and then a pull-up over it. When they wet, they will feel the wet so they know what it feels like, but the pull-up will at least contain the mess. When she is the underpants plus the pull-up, keep asking her if she is dry - if she is, praise her for doing such a great job keeping the panties dry and clean. If she starts to pee or poop, hustle her over the potty and have her sit on it if she is willing. She might not have anything make it into the potty but at least she will start associating the feeling with getting to the potty.
My understanding has been that they will potty train when they are ready and for some kids it needs to be important to them - some just don't care about wet poopy diapers but eventually something will motivate them, like wanting to stay dry or wanting to go somewhere or do something (like school) where diapers are not allowed. Letting her feel the icky wet panties under a pull-up might be worth a try. You did not mention her age but that can be factor too. If she is 2, you still have time. If she is 4 or 5, you probably need to make it more of a priority.
we used pull ups at night and when we went out , using a public potty is a big step.
other wise we put them in underpants.
we used the ones that have the feel wet thing
It depends a bit on your child. I had a child that outgrew the biggest size diapers before he was potty trained so we used overnight pullups (in the days too). He is big for his age and I had a baby when he turned 3. At 2.5 he wasn't ready (we tried) and with a new baby and all that entails he was almost 4 before we tried again (and he got it right away).
My second daughter has had a hard time with potty training and we have gone through every configuration possible, pull-ups, training pants, underwear, etc. While cleaning up a pee accident in underwear or training pants is not a big deal, it is a big deal to clean up a poop accident and wearing underwear/training pants before she was poop-trained was very traumatic for her. Soo, we started putting her in pull-ups that opened on the sides until she pooped and then switched over to underwear for the rest of the day until it was time for her next poop, then did the switch again. Pooping became much less traumatic doing it this way and as she learned to use the potty to pee, she became more comfortable with the idea and eventually started pooping on the potty as well. Now we have her in underwear all day and pull-ups at night. She is far from being night trained, so I have a feeling we will be using them for a while.
There is nothing easy about potty training when your child is having a hard time figuring it out. Just be patient and try out several scenarios until you find one that works for both of you. There is no one right way, except for the way that works best for you!
Wish your daughter good luck for me!
