Pregnant What Is My Husband Going to Say

The last thing you should be afraid of his messing up Christmas. So your husband said no more kids, then why the heck didn't he go get a vasectomy and what was that all on you to prevent it??????
Point made, he did the deed, he knew the risks and now God has other plans.
Be proud, excited and happy.
If he brings you down even for a second, walk away until he has cooled off.
Tell him it is a gift and a blessing and he can either be on board or not but that you are excited.
It may take a while to get it sunk it, but to me, if he didn't go get a vasectomy, he knew the risks so he is just as responsible for the pregnancy. I hope for your sake he is truly happy. God has other plans for us sometimes out of our control! HUGS and CONGRATS! CELEBRATE!
If you are married to a man that would be abusive or hateful about such great news, then you need to go get counselling or reevaluate your marriage. It makes me sad for a second you would have to worry about it ruining the holidays because your hubby may get mad!! :) It should be a surprise but not bad news by any means.

My in-laws are Catholic and didn't believe in birth control. After 4 boys, they were ecstatic to have a daughter. They were done. Whoops, here came Jimmy.

The whole family thinks all the time - what would life be like without Jimmy? He has a great attitude, and is a giving and funny person. He is a great uncle to my kids. There would definitely be a void without Jimmy in our lives.

They were upset at being pregnant AGAIN, but now, 23 years later, he is a great addition to the family. If your hubby is upset, it will pass, and he will love this baby just as he does your other kids. Babies are gifts - if you were on birth control, maybe it was meant to be!

Why does your hubby not want more? Money, room in your house, bad pregnancies...? Families tend to assimilate new babies and things work themselves out. Good luck - hope he surprises you and is tickled.

A., telling your husband about a new life on the way should never be anything to be afraid of. I don't want to play the blame game, but if your husband felt that strongly about not having another baby, he should have gotten "snipped." Generally in a marriage, the "NOs" always win, but since it is already fact and your husband didn't take it upon himself to prevent a pregnancy, this is something you both need to embrace and look forward to. My husband and I both agreed that after 2 babies, it was enough for us to handle, so my husband got a vasectomy because HE believed it was his responsibility and didn't want me to have to go through another surgery by getting my tubes tied, or take medications that may or may not work, but would most likely affect my body and hormones negatively. Now, we know that a vasectomy is not 100% fool proof, miracles do happen, so although we would be shocked at another baby, we would never be angry about it. Did you and your husband discuss that no birth control is 100% effective? Does your husband know about birth control, or does he just assume that if you are taking a pill it is impossible to get pregnant? There is a risk you both take when you don't get sterilized. Do you think he would get violent about the news, or do you think that him seeing all of the kids you take care of in your home freaks him out to the point that he doesn't want more kids? It can be hectic to have other kids in your home besides your own, and a guy seeing what goes on when multiple kids get together can be scary. I think you need to approach him with a smile and not be mousy or look scared when you tell him. It may be hard to wait 2 weeks, but you can do it as a Christmas gift. When we were visiting my folks for Christmas 5 years ago, I found out a few days before Christmas that I was pregnant with our daughter. So, my mom gave me a pink dress that was mine when I was born, I put it in a little box with a card that had a newborn's foot on it and said Congratulations. I wrapped it up and gave it to my husband for Christmas. We had agreed that we wouldn't exchange gifts that Christmas because it had already cost a lot to fly down to Texas to see my family, so he was very surprised to get a gift, but very happy that we were getting another baby. Could your husband really get angry about the news as he's watching how much fun your kids are having on Christmas morning and how great they are? If you think your husband would be angry, then maybe you won't want to go that route and risk putting a negative spin on Christmas. One more thing I want to add, figuratively speaking, I was your third baby. My parents had already had 2 boys and weren't planning on another baby, but oops, I was on the way. When my mom told my grandparents, my Pawpaw looked at my Memaw and said, and I quote, "What the hell did she just say?" Now, it was a shocker to everyone, but I never felt unloved by anyone, and I am very close to my Memaw and was very close with my Pawpaw until he died a few years ago. I only hope your husband doesn't have resentment toward this child. No child should ever have to feel that way, especially by a parent. I'm really concerned about how scared you are to tell him, and how you think the news would ruin Christmas for your boys. Babies are gifts and blessings and need to be treated as such. I hope you didn't marry a guy that is so selfish he would ruin Christmas for your boys over the news of a new baby. I guess I just don't understand anyone getting angry over a new baby, when they know how babies are made and they have to assume part of the responsibility. It is not all your doing. He layed in the bed with you, but I wouldn't approach him that way. That would definitely cause an argument.

A., I think everything will be awesome but it may be hard for your husband at first since he won't be developing a relationship with the baby much until he/she is born. I, for one, and my husband agrees, that you should go ahead and wait until after Christmas. Christmas can be a stressful time, and I think it won't matter when you've told him. He's working so much anyway. I think waiting will just respect his load of stress and his basic needs right now.

Well, when I found out I was pregnant with #2, it was only a few months after my father-in-law had passed away and I was NOT sure how to tell my husband. I had to go get him at work and I was nervous and scared. So, I asked how his day was while he was telling me, I wasn't listening and I just blurted out "Unhun, I'm pregnant". He just smiled and asked me "Whose is it?"

Well, we moved from southern Arizona to northern Montana. We found a house and made an offer. Right after our offer was accepted, I found out I was pregnant again - and I was not happy! (I'm still not - this baby is due mid April) I just blurted it out again. His response this time?? "Guess it's a good thing our house has 5 bedrooms."

We thought we were done - and were, honestly, happy about it. But, here we are - waiting on #3. And, I think I was more upset than hubby was.

I think if your husband is aware of the issues with the IUD, he'll understand. He may not be happy, but he'll understand. If it makes you feel better, wait until after Christmas to tell him - but it won't get easier as time goes by. Not major helpful, I know - sorry!

If you are worried about x-mas then wait until after to tell him. But then just say "I am pregnant and although this is a HUGE surprise, I am not sad about it" and give him time to adjust, let him be angry/mad/frustrated etc,.

I know with my last preg I was NOT happy, we already had 6, but I had the opposite problem, my husband was happy. But in the end, when the baby arrived all was forgotten. And the reality is, if I don't want more then I have to options, no sex or get fixed. I am the one who is done, so the responsibility lies with me.

Good Luck and congrats on the new baby!

I have to agree with some of the other responses, he should have taken care of the birth control himself since he is the one that didn't want more children. That being said, now is not the time to bring that up.

Go ahead and wait until after Christmas and then gently tell him. I hope you get a good response but be prepared that you may not. Let him do the 'man thing' and give him his space to adjust to the news. Don't hover, demand a response, nag or anything else, just let him absorb the news. A bit of patience and space in a stressful situation will go a long way.

Let your girlfriends (for now) be the ones that give you the support and smiles and hugs and the congratulations.

You have two wonderful children and he'll come to see that one more will be just as wonderful and probably sooner than you think you'll have his support as well.

Best of luck to you and God Bless. And congratulations!

I only have one son, and would like more, but my husband also says no. Anyways, i was scared when i found out i was pregnant with our son, so i but the results in an envelope and put it where he would see it, and left and went to the store. when i came back i went to the window and asked him if he read the note in the envelope, he said yes, i asked can i come in or are you mad. he said no he wasnt mad, and i could come in. anyways, at that time he didnt want to have a child right then. he wanted to wait. and we had an argument about it. and if i wasent pregnant i was going to go back on the pill. I hope this gives you an idea and good luck.

I would tell him sooner rather than later. The longer you wait, the more it will seem like you were keeping it from him. My husband and I talked about having a 3rd child for a while, and though I really want one, he decided that 2 are enough. I had a late period a few months ago, and I was worried he would be upset if I were pregnant. I told him I thought I might be pregnant, expecting the worst from him, and he was actually very supportive, which surprised me. Since mine was a false alarm, nothing came of it, but I think that your husband will probably respond better than you think he will. He loves you and his other children, so he will love this baby, even if it was unexpected. Good luck to you, and congradulations.

Hi A.,
I think you should just tell him as soon as possible. The longer you wait the worse the anxiety is going to be for you. While you are alone just simply say that you have some unexpected news. "It appears as though we are going to have another baby." Just let him react however he is going to. Try not to take it personally if his reaction isn't positive. Many Dads and Moms too aren't happy upon first hearing of a pregnancy. He will come to terms with it in his own time. You will be okay.
Take care,
B.

Hey A. ... Don't be scared. .. You tried what you thought that you could control.... Well guess what
it's not your choice. And god has a plan for you
he only gives you what he knows that you can handle.
So here is my idea.
Plan a date night and tell your hubby that you have something special to give him.
Get all sexy and go to his favorite place and let him know how much he is appreciated.
Have your camera/video phone ready to roll.
Give him a menu with a card in it saying that god promised it will be a girl.
You know something silly and cute. USUALLY SINCE YOU ARE IN PUBLIC HE CAN'T GO CRAZY. AND MAKE SURE YOU TELL HIM RIGHT AWAY IN THE BEGINING OF THE DATE SO THAT YOU CLOUD TALK ABOUT THINGS.
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS