Pregnant and Losing My

Updated on April 15, 2010
S.H. asks from Minneapolis, MN
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Let's remember I'm pregnant and due to a whirlwind of recent events my emotions are on red alert. Please, I'm asking for advise and help, nothing judgmental or what I obviously already know.

Almost a year and half ago my company transferred me over 300 miles to work on site as a account representative. While being out here my boyfriend and I got pregnant. I'm 22 weeks along now and just found out yesterday they are changing around mine and my bosses role. In the end, we were told that my boss (who is also onsite, being laid off) is overqualified for the new role and I am under qualified. I think it's wrong since the role that is being created is essentially my role without a onsite manager. I’m really confused. I’m half mad at my company and feel personally attacked because I’m pregnant and working onsite at one of their customers. Isn’t a law they can’t fire you? The other half of me feels freed. I can take on other passions in my life. I use to be a retail manager and LOVED it. It just didn’t pay well since I never officially became a store manager. I really want to go back into retail but again…being pregnant? I don’t know if it’s something I’ll be able to handle and if a company will want to hire me when I have to go on maternity leave in less than 4 months. I’m a Mary Kay representative and I’m going to give it a good go. I know when I work hard at it I can support myself with it. I just never have been able to with a full time job that’s very demanding.

Out of everything I’m most worried about insurance and being able to afford our rent and other needs. Employers typically do not offer insurance immediatly. I’m most confident in myself that I can get another job. If I can get an interview I can get the job. I’m a very hard worker and have many talents and employers want and need today. My company did say they would provide me with time to an agency to help me get my resume in order and get it out there. I’m allowed 30 hours and if I need more time they will do what they can to get it. It’s funny, they are putting this humane spin on it like, “ugh, I’m so sorry, but we are going to do everything we can” but I personally feel like it’s just corporate BS, SAYING they’ll help, but will they??

I have couple of questions:
What should I be asking my company in regards to the lay off?
What kind of severance/insurance packages do you think I could ask for and am entitled to?
Should I drag out any sort of blame towards the layoff regarding me being pregnant? I'm AM more than qualified for this 'new' role. They are unwilling say why I am not.
If so, HOW?
What else should I be thinking about going into a conversation to my company?

Please keep in mind, they (leadership) have HR wrapped around their fingers. It’s no use at this time to get them involved, they already ‘are’.

Thank you for any and all help!

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I'm sorry you are going through this. I work for an outplacment company and am a career coach for people going through job change. So, several points:

You have the right to retain an attorney to negotiate a severance package if you feel that would help, most attorneys will give you a free consultation so that you can decide.

Your company can lay you off while you are pregnant, the laws in MN allow employers and employees to end an employment agreement at any time for any, or no, reason. Descrimination law suits are extremely difficult to prove.

You will want to leave on OK terms as a new employer will likely want a reference from this company.

You will qualify for medical coverage under the COBRA laws, your employer is required to provide this information to you, your medical insurance and coverage will stay the same as now, you will need to pick up more of the cost. This coverage can stay in place until a new employer can cover you. Pregnancy is NOT a "pre-existing condition" that will prevent new insurance from covering those costs.

Companies do hire women who are pregnant.

The agency that your employer is supplying should help you build a resume that talks about your accomplishments and results, not just job tasks. They should also help you practice a 30-second Commercial introduction, and a Reason for Leaving statement that lets you answer the question "Why did you leave?" in an unemotional, factual, positive manner. They should help you strategize, run a proactive job search, and prepare for interviewing. If you can't do this in 30 hours, push for more time, or more services.

Keep in mind that the Minnesota Work Force centers also provide job search assistance. The Dislocated Worker Program has a budget for training if there are any skills you feel you could benefit by brushing up on.

Contact me if you have any more questions, and I would be glad to review your resume and give feedback for no charge.

Good luck and hang in there!

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stand your ground-do not leave until they force you out-then they have to pay in full-in the mean time contact your state-report what their doing-however in this day an age-they can fire you for no reason and no warning-its their right-but id hang tough-keep doing your job an smile all the while-and if they choose to let you go-get it in writing why-then go collect unemployment-get ins.thru the state-they make preg.women a children a priority.good luck



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You probably have nothing to go for against the company if you are under qualified for the position being pregnant doesn't mean anything. You can't just use a pregnancy as an excuse to fight a company for being laid off. I was pregnant when my hubby was laid off he couldn't use it as an excuse. You can try and fight but with this economy good luck....Pregnant or not people are getting laid off left and right!



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