Pregnant After Miscarriage - Pasadena,CA

Updated on January 04, 2011
M.Y. asks from Pasadena, CA
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I had a miscarriage (ended at 8 weeks but baby measured at 6 weeks or so) early december and my husband and I started trying immediately after I stopped bleeding. I was going to wait but I read alot on here that women have gotten pregnant right after a miscarriage (not even getting a period back) and went on to have a healthy baby. However, I got my period yesterday so I guess that will not happen to me. I am a bit disappointed.

I wanted to know if there are any ladies out there who didn't get pregnant right after a miscarriage but how long it took to get pregnant?

I guess I just have a feeling it might be a while before I can get pregnant again :( I had no problem getting pregnant with my first child. The second took three months and ended in miscarriage and I am 36 turning 37 next month so I am a bit antsy about getting pregnant soon and I don't want there to be too big of an age gap between my 16 month old and our second child.

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S.J.

answers from San Francisco on

For us, we were told to wait three months before ttc again. I don't know why (never asked the reason for the wait).
Anyhow, we didn't "ttc" but we didn't prevent either & it took 13mths before I got pregnant again. The next two babies, were conceived easily, the first month.

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A.S.

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Hi, I am sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I had a late pregnancy miscarriage (20 weeks). My doctor told me to wait 4 months before trying again to allow my body enough time to heal. I did not wait that long. I waited 3 months and got pregnant again. My son was born at exactly 40 weeks and was 8lbs 9oz. Completely healthy. He is now almost 5 years old and very active. Best advice, be patient. The more antsy you stay, the harder it will be for you to get pregnant. You are going to stress yourself out worrying about whether or not your pregnant. Just have fun trying to make a baby. Be spontaneous and when it happens, it happens. Good Luck and I hope this helps.

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J.P.

answers from Los Angeles on

I used progesterone cream and didn't cycle it through...ended up pregnant 3 months after starting it, even though my labs looked perfect on paper.

My mom had 8 miscarriages. I was her 9th pregnancy and my brother was her 10th. Don't get discouraged....and sending you wonderful energy.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

While it's possible to get pregnant right away, sometimes it takes a few months for the hormones to stabilize. It's normal to want to reassure yourself that your body is functioning and capable of supporting another pregnancy, and to want to move forward with your goal of a 2nd child. But a few months won't make a huge difference in the relationship between a new baby and your first child, and you may be putting pressure on yourself to hurry up as you are getting older. I was 37 when my son was born, and pregnancies in women much older than that are very common. Try not to let the age thing worry you too much, and let nature take its course. So many pregnancies end in miscarriage (most are before the woman even really knows she is pregnant) so it is a natural but emotionally difficult thing - take time to mourn and to be good to yourself, and try (as hard as it is) not to be too upset if it takes a few cycles to get things going again. Most women I know who have had miscarriages got pregnant again within 3-6 months. There's no hard and fast rule, of course. But it's such an individual thing that it's hard to gauge by others.

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L.F.

answers from Austin on

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It took me three months to conceive after mine. I was 38 at the time. Try to stay positive and good luck! :)

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D.S.

answers from Houston on

find out what caused your miscarriage before trying again.mine was a uti it ate the baby up. I got rid of it before trying again knowing it would cause another if not gone. ask your doc what caused your first one. if it was a medical issue deal with it before trying again. good luck and dont give up

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S.C.

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I had a miscarriage two years ago. It took me two years to get pregnant that time. I got pregnant again about 3 months later. Your body most likely still has some of the pregnancy hormone in it, which would make it difficult to get pregnant right away. I understand your reasoning for wanting to get pregnant again so quickly, but it really is best to give your body and mind time to heal.
Start tracking your cycle by taking and charting your temperature. It will help you to know when you're ovulating. But, don't be surprised if it takes awhile to get pregnant again.

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L.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi M.,
I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband and I lost a baby at 10 weeks and it took one year to become pregnant again -- successfully. I had our daughter at 36 years of age. Due to my age, about 8 months into trying, I purchased an ovulation predictor (not the throw away kind, the kind that you use everyday) and after using that for 4 months, voila!) Best $100 I ever spent!! Good luck and hang in there, ok?

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D.C.

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I had a miscarriage at about 8 weeks (1 week after an u/s showed a heartbeat). It was devastating. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Because my cycle has always been extremely irregular, it took 3-4 months before I started menstruating again. After that, I conceived after 3 months of trying. My daughter is now 4 and I'm considering trying for a second.

All the best of luck to you!

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T.D.

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So sorry to hear of your loss. I lost a baby at 12 weeks when I was 30 years old and became pregnant two months later with my daughter who is now 9. She was a perfectly healthy baby. I can't remember if my period came back before I conceived again.

I wish you all the best for a quick and healthy pregnancy!!

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K.P.

answers from San Diego on

We got pregnant the first time we tried after my misscarriage. It was about 3 months later. So, yes, it is possible. Good luck!

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A.L.

answers from Austin on

There are lots of reasons for miscarriage. And most of them can't be helped. I am very sorry for your loss. This is a very private grief, I know, but please know that you have support.

We were told to wait at least one normal menstrual cycle before trying to conceive again, because that is a good sign that the uterus has healed, and all of the tissue has definately been expelled. In our case, the baby was lost because of a chromosomal defect. I imagine there are different waiting periods, depending on the cause of the miscarriage. For example, one lady who answered your post, mentioned a uterine infection - that would make sense to have a different healing/waiting time. If you haven't conceived yet, it might just be that your body isn't ready to. We forget, that pregnancy is really h*** o* the body. Nutritional stores start to be depleted right away. Depending on how old your baby was, your body might want some extra time to heal, and to rebuild those nutritional stores. Some folks who lost their babies very early, might have needed hardly any healing time at all, and conceived again right away. Don't beat yourself up by comparing yourself to others who had different successes. Every situation is unique and different, every baby is different, every mom is different.

Our baby was only ten weeks, but based on the size, the sonogram tech suspected that it probably died at eight weeks. It was lost in late June, my now almost-20-month old was conceived in late-August. By the way - my other daughter is four. There is a 3 year and one month gap between them, and they get along just fine.

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L.S.

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Sorry about your loss & I hope you have success at conceiving again!
I had a miscarriage last year at 14 weeks, and was advised by my OB to wait 3 months before trying again. Your body needs time to re-regulate your hormones, prepare your uterus & be ready to conceive again.
Having said that, I agree with one of the other posters that it's important to know why you miscarried. Was your OB able to tell you anything? Did they do any genetic testing? In our case, our miscarriage was due to down syndrome and related anatomy issues in our baby. Because you're 36, (I am too...) you 're at increased risk for genetic problems, and miscarriage is one way the body takes care of embryos that aren't viable. It doesn't make YOU feel better, though.
You may want to also take steps to understand your cycle and confirm you're ovulating again. I really recommend the methods in the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility to track whether you're ovulating & whether your cycle is long enough to allow implantation to occur. Tracking your cycle or confirming if you're having ovulation issues can also help jump start any fertility treatments that your doctor might recommend down the road, IF getting pregnant on your own isn't happening as quickly as you'd like.
We did end up waiting 3 months after our miscarriage to try again, and had a few months after that before success. Because I was charting, I knew a few of those months were unsuccessful because I had high stress & didn't ovulate, or because we couldn't time our activity due to travel schedules. We finally conceived about 9 months after our miscarriage, and are due any day now! Note: I didn't want a big gap between our 2 kids either, but my 3.5 year old son is SO EXCITED about his baby sister - it's really, really great, even if it wasn't what I had originally planned.

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C.C.

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I have three children. My second time around I had a miscarriage after 6 weeks. We just went on as usual (not "trying" extra hard to get pregnant) and I did ten months later. Probably would have been sooner if I had been "trying" harder :-) So I went on to have two more healthy children after the miscarriage. Something I would highly recommend to help your body and reproduction function at it's best is Juice Plus fruit and vegetable capsules. The research on it's effects on improving healthy pregnancy outcomes is awesome (increased folate, low risk for preclampsia and early term birth, etc.). A second study is currently underway expecting to have profound outcomes on the fetus. In fact, Time Mags cover story in November was all about how eating a lot of produce and overall healthy habits will improve the health status of your child through adulthood (meaning prevent from getting serious illnesses). If you would like to see the Juice Plus pregnancy info, just reply with your email and I'll send it to you. Whatever you do, I wish you a very healthy and happy baby!!

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D.M.

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I had a miscarriage before I had any children. We started trying right after my first period, didn't get pregnant, but after my second period I did get pregnant, and that child is healthy and 15 now! (I was 33 when I gave birth.) I also had a second child at 37, and I thought I was miscarrying again because I started spotting, but I didn't, and had a healthy baby. Just keep trying, everyone is different! Good luck.

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