Pregnancy After 35 Tips?

Updated on April 21, 2011
A.M. asks from Spring, TX
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Hello!
I am 35 1/2 and have been trying to conceive for about 5 months now. I had my first child at age 32. We are trying for a 2nd. My doctor said sometimes it is a little more difficult after 35. I've been tracking my ovulation with kits each month and I am ovulation right on schedule- my cycle is very regular.
I'd love to hear any thoughts or stories of women who have been in the same boat as I am.....thanks so much!

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T.B.

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I'm 39 and pregnant with my 4th. Every woman is different. We weren't even trying (or experimenting or planning) with this one! 5 months isn't a long time to begin getting concerned. Relax, and try to enjoy the process of getting pregnant instead of focusing on making it happen. I know, easier said than done. RELAX. Sometimes these things take time for some women.

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C.W.

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It took me over 6 months to conceive my first, at 28, 3 months for my second at 31 and 1 month for my third at 36. I think that the first time can be hard no matter what your age. After 6 months my doctor had me take a week of provera because he thought I wasn't ovulating, and that seemed to jump start it and I got pregnant the next month. I also read a book about recognizing the signs of ovulation and things to do to help things a long, like legs up after sex, and things like that. don't know if they contributed but it seemed to help. If you haven't had any luck by next month, I would check with your doctor to see if there is anything going on.

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P.O.

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1. You have to stop stressing over it and thinking about it so hard
2. My doc told me to always try on the 10th day after period, then the 12th day and then the 14th day in the cycle. Worked for me like a charm. Give yourself a break and try again
3. Play with babies, newborns

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S.H.

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I got pregnant with my first child and 2nd child, when I was over 35.

My Doc says, IF it takes longer than 6 months to conceive, then tell him.

I got pregnant naturally. Going by my ovulation symptoms. Then having sex everyday for about 1 week, once I knew ovulation was coming on.

I got pregnant, within 6 months each time.

I was actually pregnant 3 times. But this ended up in a miscarriage.

Also, my Doc said to take prenatal vitamins, already, while or before trying to conceive. Which I did.

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J.S.

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When I was 39 I decided I better check my ovulation etc and decide if I was going to have kids or not. I bought a test kit and checked and saw nothing - no signs of ovulation. I worried about it a little bit and then put it out of my mind. About 8 months later my period was late and I thought I must be going through menopause. I figured I was going early, you know? WHen it was about 5 days late it occurred to me that maybe there was another reason i wasn't getting it. Bought a home pregnancy test and guess what? Positive!!! SO, a long answer to tell you that pregnancy after 35 is not impossible - sometimes it happens if you are not so worried about it (but keep having sex!).

All that said, I believe if you have been trying for 6 months with no luck you should see a fertility specialist.

Good luck!

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A.B.

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It's not uncommon to take more than 5 months even if you're young, but fertility specialists will see you after only 6 months of trying if you're over 30 or 35. Not because it definitely means you need help, but because IF you do, and treatments sometimes take awhile, they need to get started right away. They can do some diagnostics to see if any issues seem to be present while you are still trying on your own. We went through all that--if you have questions, send me a message.

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J.F.

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I went through fertility for my first at 32... that process started approx a year after we had tried on our own. The general rule of thumb is after 6 months of trying on your own after 35 to talk to your doctor about fertility options. Also, if you haven't already invested in one, the ClearBlue Easy Fertility monitor learns your cycle and gives you a larger window of opportunity than just the kits alone. I was using one by the time we met with our fertility specialist and she was going to recommend one if we were not already using it.

There is luck at 35 though! I'm pregnant with surprise #2 that I'll deliver just before my 36th birthday.

Good luck!!

P.S., on a separate note, I grew up in Spring!

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D.P.

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I didn't start trying til after 35 and I never had trouble conceiving at all--got pregnant quite quickly. I did have a few miscarriages before I had my son (unrelated to age) but my pregnancy at 38-39 was low risk, uneventful and totally typical. Good luck!

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S.S.

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I agree with CW. Use lubricant whether needed or not and hold your legs in the air for at least 3 min after intercourse.Every time. I have a 36 year old cousin who had never gotten pregnant until doing that, and now has a two year old. She told me about it, 6 months later I was pregnant, my SIL was trying and could not for around 6 months to a year, she tried it, and 3 months later she was. So good luck, think good thoughts on it, and happy pregnancy :)

M.H.

answers from Raleigh on

I don't have much advice other than at 6 months of trying, have your doctor begin to run tests on you. I talked to my OB have 6 months of trying (after already having one child), and she was very willing to begin the testing process. Unfortunately, our insurance didn't cover it at the time, but luckily, we got pregnant on our own within the year. Anyways...if you really want to do everything in your power to get pregnant again (which it sounds like you do), make an appointment to begin the testing process!

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