Potty training~More Clarification Added at the Bottom!

Hi.. my daughter will be 3 in november as well. the 15th. when is your daughters?

my daughter and son have both gone thru this stage of being all into it af firt,, kind of early i thought and then backed off.
my son who will be 4 in january did the same thing and then all of a sudden at 3 yrs and 5 months decided on his own(after us talking to him about wearing big boy underwear for months, but positively, not judging or belittling him or saying he was a baby, i have tried that one too..lol) he said on a sat morning he wanted to wear his big boy underwear. he had accidents that weekend but come monday, none since. i think i was very lucky. but i also think i waited for his Q. and didn't try to push it. i DID try to push it earlier like about 6 months before this. was so frustrated, he was frustrated. so after talking to our pediatrician, she suggested to stop and wait. the best advice ever!
so with my daughter, going thru the same thing. very excited at first, doing it .. then not wanting anything to do with it. screaming, not even wanting to sit on the little potty.
i still talk to her about when she gets to wear her big girl underwear and how much fun it will be. i'll ask her 'do you want to wear your big girl underwear' she'll say yeah. then i'll ask her 'great, so you do you want to go sit on the little potty and go pees and poops' she'll give me a stern no.. lol so i know she's not all as ready as i think she is. she too tells me when she needs a diaper change etc. i think with those Q's we want them to be ready right now! lol and i totally agree! i would love both mine to be out of diapers!
and yes!! pull ups are a waste of money. we went to a potty training class given by one of the hospitals here(a child physchologist gave the class, very good). and was also told pullups are a waste of money. so i didn't go that route. only with the night time. we used over night pull ups instead of diapers with my son. they seem like underwear and not diapers. so he doesn't feel he is going back to a diaper.
some good tips were: don't go back to a diaper if you are going out in public but wear underwear at home. it's ok to try the potty training process but then stop and wait a bit longer. i read so many posts about the child being potty trained for 6 months!! that should tell you they are not ready..lol
and what a headach for both parent and child.
we did use m&m's with my son and have weaned him off those and only use those now if he gets his undies and pants back on by himself. so we just moved the bribe to something else.lol
and yes..they won't go to school in a diaper.:-)
if you want more of the tips or the name of the place that gave the class just let me know.
good luck and relax.. i know it's hard.. i'm right where you are with my daughter..
have to add: a great book. The Potty Training Answer Book. and also, they can go till 5-6 without being night time potty trained. night time potty trained is when they wake up for a full 30 days dry. and even going to 4-5 for day time is not a big deal. at that point you may want to talk to a dr to make sure there isn't anything medically that needs addressed.
T.

Maybe the toilet got flushed when she was on it. THats what scared my daughter. Have you taken her to pick out her own pottychair? I had a potty chair and she didn't want to sit on it. So, I went and bought the fisherprice royal potty (the one that playes music when they pee/poop) and she finally sat on it...I had to tell her it was a princess chair and how princesses use the potty chair. It was 20 days after her 3rd b-day (May) and i took away diapers...made her wear panties. IT was 2 weeks of me cleaning carpets and her wearing wet panties...then it clicked. She does AWESOME now!! She does wera pullups when we leave the house, buts she does good not wetting them and using a public potty. She also wears pullups at night. Hope this helps.

Do not give up. My son went through the same thing. He started out great and then just stopped and did the kicking and screaming thing too. We never did figure out what the problem was, but we did just keep on trying.

He left him in diapers and when he would say he had gone potty, then I would take him to the bathroom, change him there and tell him; you need to go potty in the here. He would be happy to be changed and off he would go. This went on for six months.

When we moved and he was 2 1/2.... I thought for sure we were going to go even MORE backwards, but he didn't. He stopped being afraid (on his own) and he got lots of encouragement (no bribes) from school and at home (bribes at home if he would sit and try).

Let her work through this time with lots of love and encouragement. IF she will, sit her on her potty chair when you use the bathroom and let her see nothing happens to you when you use the toilet. IF she will, let her flush the toilet to get used to the sounds and make it fun for her.

All this helped with my son. It took him a few months to get over the being "terrified" thing but once he did, he was potty trained, day and night, by 20 months.

Just keep on trying and stick with it.

Good luck

M. H.

BE PATIENT!!!!! Patience is key here. There are no 20 year olds that are not potty trained. I'm even a little embarrassed to say how old my daughter was when she started using the potty. But what got her to do it was I took her to the doctor. And she was very calm and matter of fact about it and told her girls her age all use the potty and that she should start using the potty too. And since her birthday was in about 1 month later, Doctor said she should start on her birthday. So my daughter just started using the potty a couple weeks before her bday. I also found out she didn't like the potty chair I 1st got her. She liked the ones with the soft seat(her cousin had one) So I got her one and she was successful from the start. I know it will be the hardest thing but you have to completely let go and stop stressing about it, they know that it bothering you and it becomes a power struggle. GOOD LUCK and PATIENCE!!!!

I don't know of any Kindergarten teacher that allows diapers unless the child is special needs. My kids were 5 and 4 when I said forget and threw out the pullups. I was tired of them having the pull ups to fall back on. Once they discovered that there was no protection...it worked! I too tried the potty prizes, and the whole thing with them still being babies. Nothing worked. A friend of mine took a few days off and stayed home with her daughter. She left the diapers and pullups off, drank water all day and constantly went to the bathroom. After those two days and lots of laundry...she was potty trained. Some people say that the children just aren't ready, I just think they are being lazy. My brother was potty trained at 15 months and the doctor threw a fit so my mom put him back in diapers. I then took till he was 2 1/2! Take her with you whenever you go, don't ASK if she has to go. (Never ask a child if they have to go, just take them.)

Hi K.,
I was kinda in the same boat for awhile also, my son started and 1 1/2 did well then stopped and would start and then finally refused to even try and he also would tell me after the fact he needed changed cause he soiled himself, well now he is 3 1/2 and potty trained during the day.
He did it when he was ready and not a minute before, once he decided to be a big boy there were very few accidents.
Have you tried having her not flush or taking her in with you? If that didn't work I would say just keep asking her, don't force it because when she is ready she will tell you.
Don't give up she will do it before she starts school, I told Gabe he couldn't go to pre school till he wore big boy under pants and he really wanted that.
Good Luck and remember she will do it sooner or later.
S.