Potty Training and Daycare - Garland,TX

I agree with Dana K. -- tell her it's time to go, rather than asking. My son does the same thing. I make peeing in the toilet a condition for just about everything -- let's build something with blocks, but you need to go potty first. Let's go for a walk, but you need to go potty first, etc. We also STILL use rewards (packs of fruit snacks) for those stubborn moments when he just keeps refusing. You could do a star chart with a small prize for 10 stars collected (Dollar Store item does it for my son!). Good luck!

I would stop asking her if she needs to go and just tell her 'it's time to go to the potty'. It's also good to tell her, potty time in 3 minutes so she has a time warning (my son hated to stop what he was doing and giving him a time warning helped immensely). Also make sure you are taking her as soon as she wakes up and immediately after all meals. Also many daycare centers just use a small toilet. If you are using a potty chair, you might want to change to just a seat insert so she is going directly into the toilet.

This is very perplexing to me. I don't have an easy answer. I will say that it's often the other way around. I've had it both ways in my daycare. It seems like many kids will do well in one place and not the other. I have a boy now that's almost 4. His parents have brought him in pull-ups the last YEAR. He'd go all day long here just fine. But at home he was having accidents. But 2 out of 3 kids will do better at home. Then the parents are mad at me because they think I'm being lazy about taking them.

Just keep talking to her. It WILL come. This boy that's almost four...he finally just recently stopped having accidents at home.

The best suggestion I can pass on is the same that I received...

Take 3 days, stay home and just do it. I understand that you have hectic weekends, but you can't potty train and run all over the place too. Pick a long weekend and put her on the potty using the same schedule they use at daycare. Offer her a little treat each time she goes on the potty (M&M's worked for us).

It's not a peer thing, it's a consistency thing. They are likely more consistent in their schedule and their language than you are. Ask them what they do/say and replicate it!

Save the pull ups. If she has an accident while asleep they have to clean it up. Kids can't be potty trained while sleeping, there is no such thing. They are asleep and their body does what it does. She has no control over it.

They can just stop putting them on her but still have a couple just in case they decide to put her in one.

Go to the source and ask the day care what the routine is. Get specifics on what they say and do. Also do not use negative reinforcement. It will make it worse for you and her.

I didn't have my daycare training DD, so your mileage may vary. At home, I had the same problem - that I'd have DD sit and nothing and then pee 2 minutes later. A timer only meant I was guessing right.

I started putting her on the potty at times she might need to go - when she wakes up, when we need to go somewhere, before or after meals, before bath...times that might make biological sense. I put her in panties so she'd feel the accident (vs a pull up which might not as much) and did a lot of laundry at first. I found that fighting with her about sitting was pretty useless. I would also tell her that she could look at a book or I'd read to her while she tried and you would think she won the Nobel Prize the first few times she did all the right things.

With my son the daycare stated that she takes him about 45 min after he drinks so I do the same at home and it seems to work, I also encourage him to go whenever anyone else is going to the potty at home.

I agree that you need to tell her it's time to go. I still do this with my 5.5 year old. It's not do you have to but - go make a pee pee.

Also, you can oad her up with some watered down juice and bring her to the bathroom every 1/2 hour or so. Then be sure to reward her. A Hershey's Kiss is a quick and easy on the spot reward.

At the daycare they have a kid sized toilet. At home the toilets are usually too big and their legs dangle making it hard to "release" to go. Use a little potty chair that is low to the ground or make sure there is a two step stool that is high enough that her legs are firmly planted on the step while sitting on the potty (and use a potty ring of course). make sure you have designated potty times at home too about every 2 hours.