Potty Training - Highland,CA

Updated on July 02, 2010
H.S. asks from Highland, CA
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Ok so I am pregnant with my third child. I have a 2 1/2 year old who I am trying to get out of diapers. I do not want to have to be changing two sets of diapers. He is a boy and I have no idea how to potty train him. My husband works 12 hour days so he doesn't have time to train him. I am a stay at home mom right now because of the pregnancy. Its hard for me to try and potty train him since he has been acting up REALLY bad lately. I think its because he knows he isn't the baby anymore. I need advice. I do not want to be changing two sets of diapers come august when this little one is born. Thanks :)

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C.T.

answers from Dallas on

He's too young and you probably don't have the patience with his behavior and your pregnancy. Wait until he has gotten used to the new baby and things have settled down before you take that on. Most pedis don't recommend potty training for boys until 3 anyway. I have 2 sons and my oldest wasn't ready until he was almost 4. Then he was trained in less than a week. Changing a diaper is much easier than cleaning up dirty underware.

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C.S.

answers from Salt Lake City on

your husband works 12 hours.. but are you at home or working?
Boys definitely take a few months to REALLY get it down.. but 2.5 is the right age.. DEFINITELY give treats ..(a few M&M's from a jar is great)

My boy (and mother's & grandmother's boys) ~ all trained with the 'can method.' I used a frozen-juice-concentrate or large yogurt cup to hold up to his peepee and pretty soon, they want to do it. They'll pick up their cup, pee in it, dump it, then you rinse and reward ~~~GOOD LUCK

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C.B.

answers from Detroit on

Don't stress too much about it, it is really not that bad changing 2 kids diapers. Especially a 2 1/2 year old usually does not have to be changed as much as a newborn. I had an 11 month old and newborn so changed 2 sets of diapers for 1 year and a half. I feel like I got used to it pretty quicky and it wasn't so bad. It is so much easier to be able to take your time with the potty training, that could probably get more frustrating than changing 2 sets of diapers.

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L.O.

answers from Detroit on

I would not recommend training him if he is not ready.. it will be hard and frustrating for both you and your son. You do not need your husband to help with training a boy.

I am potty training my son - he will be 3 in june.. it is not easy with a boy. he is actually doing good on day 3 of training.. he comes to me as he is peeing his pants. which is better than peeing his pants and not even noticiing and just keeping playing in wet pants.

I believe in cotton training pants.. they have to pee in them and feel wet and yucky... that is how they learn. put him in the pants.. take him to the potty every 45 minutes to 1 hour. He should sit to pee for a long long time..

But he might regress when the new baby comes..

I had 2 kids in diapers - mine are 18 months apart. it is not that bad. It is easier to have 2 in diapers than to potty train.

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H.B.

answers from Sacramento on

Boys are VERY motivated by food and visuals.. that doesnt much change as they are older huh- lol... Try a visual chart- can be homemade on a dollar store contruction paper with dollar store sticker. Get something like jelly beans. M+M's, ect and let him know he will get one for pee and 2 for poop- although poop will be further off. DO NOT let him have these otherwise, it will intice him more because he'll want that treat! The week before you start keep track of his meals and liquids and when his diapers are dirty and write it down. The week you start put him on the potty every 5-10 minutes for a half half hr or so during hose " dirty" times and tell him as soon as he pees he gets that treat! keep track of his successes on his chart so he can see it.Some people as put cherrios or froot loops in the potty for their boy to aim at. Hope some of that helps. I wouldnt want to be on double diaper duty either!

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M.K.

answers from San Diego on

Oh boy, just add this to the list of things that we moms can't control! Potty training can be encouraged, but ultimately will only happen when the child is physically, mentally, and emotionally ready.

Timing worked out that I was potty training my 2.5 year old daughter while I was on maternity leave with her newborn sister. Let me tell you....having two in diapers would have been a lot easier than having a newborn and one who was in transition. It's a lot harder to have the flexibility (and energy) to race to a potty when the toddler has to go while you have an infant that is nursing, being rocked to sleep, etc.

Anyway, don't fret about it. Whatever the diaper/potty situation works out to be, you'll find a way to manage it!

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J.H.

answers from Los Angeles on

I just did the three day potty training by Lora Jensen. Worked great! Good luck.

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M.C.

answers from Honolulu on

I hate to tell you this, but, seriously, having your 2 year old in diapers gives you WAY more control over the situation! I can't tell you how many times my first daughter had to go NOW (it is always NOW, their little bodies really don't give that much warning) and I was in the middle of breastfeeding my little one, or some other operation on the newborn that needed just t few more minutes of my undivided attention. With diapers, the urgency is just not there. He can sit in a wet or dirty diaper for 5 more minutes.

With potty training, if he is not really ready, it is alot of effort and frustration for both of you, and it will take a really long time. If he is ready, he will potty train VERY quickly. I dunno, if it were me, I would just let it be, especially since he has been acting up. He probably will not do well with another stress put upon him right now.

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T.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

This is not a good time for your son to potty-learn. He will fight it all the way. That's not to say you can't offer him a potty (my daughter did not like the little potty, she preferred the little seat that went on the 'big girl' potty) - however it is likely he will resist. Don't be too disappointed, and do not try to force it on him.

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N.Y.

answers from San Diego on

Unfortunately, as I have learned, if your son is not ready to potty train, he's not ready. I started trying to potty train my son at 2-1/2 and again at 3. Suddenly at 3 and 3 months he finally was aware of the sensation of needing to go to the bathroom. That was the key...understanding the sensations he was feeling.
I found it very easy to train him once he finally got the idea. Let your son pick out a potty (we went thru 3 different ones until he was comfortable with one), pick out big boy underwear and some potty books for kids. Make it a fun project! We went straight to the underwear because he used the pull ups like diapers. Make plans to stay at home for at least a week. As soon as my son woke up he went to the bathroom, put on the big boy underwear and then we set the timer for every 20 minutes. He had to go try every 20 minutes even if he didn't have to go. At 2-1/2 its still hard to get them to understand that. Of course nap time and bed time you will need nite time pull ups for at least another year (depending on your child).
Keep up routine and if he's ready, it's very easy to be (daytime) potty trained in less than a week. Make sure he knows that there is always a place to go potty eg. stores, restaurants, side of the road if need be etc.
Good luck and don't be discouraged if he's not ready yet. Unfortrunately no matter how hard you try, if he's not ready it's not going to work especially if he's having issues with behavior already.

C.B.

answers from Kansas City on

good luck with the potty training. but be prepared for major setbacks in august. you will most likely be changing at least pull ups, for your older son, after the new baby comes. don't be surprised and try not to be frustrated with him. for the record, my son is an only and didn't potty train till he was a month shy of 3. night training came a couple months later. then we moved and basically went back to pullups for a few weeks. it stinks! but not their fault.

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S.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

i also agree that this isn't the best time to potty train, at all! the behaviors and the new baby will likely make it impossible. just be comforted in the fact that while he is in diapers, you can get to him when you are able, and not have to drop everything when he has to go. my son, 3, stays pretty dry all day and we have (accidentally) gone all day without changing his wet diaper! clearly don't do this on purpose but during this time, take advantage of when you can make things for convenient for you! :)

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N.W.

answers from Las Vegas on

I potty trained both my kids by letting them run around the house with nothing on but a t-shirt. And now I am training my nephew the same way. I just put the potty in the room that they were in. My first was 3 years old and I was pregnant with my second.

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