Potty Training 3 Year Old Girl - Pekin,IL

after another week tell her that the new rule is no more pooping at nap time. It's not allowed. Repeat that once that certain day happens that new rule starts. When it finally is that day remind her of the rule. She will poop at nap. But that day when she does you get mad at her and tell her it's not allowed and she broke a rule and you are disappointed and never want it to happen again.

I have done this with a ton of kids and after that week they never pooped in their diaper again and just started doing it on the potty from then on.

My daughter took longer to get the poop thing too. We used incentives-she knows she gets an M&M for pee in the potty; a Peep for a poop and a Jelly Bean when she wakes up dry. She loves to get a peep and has been dry during naps for almsot 2 weeks now! It really just takes patience and time. We introduced the potty at ~18 months and now my daughter is 2 1/2 (32mo.) She just up and decided one day that she would do the potty thing and has been wearing undies while awake ever since. If they are stubborn then it will have to be when they are ready! Good Luck!

The potty training at night just happens. My daughter is 4 now and still wears a pull up at night. Her bladder is not fully developed and she just can not control it at night. It takes time and patience!

I hate pullups myself. They DO prolong the potty training process! Kids who use pullups take much longer than those who don't. But the makers of pullups don't want you to know that!

She is 3.5 so she is at the age where you can explain things to her. Explain that poop goes in the toilet. At 3.5 you could even explain why. Poop goes in the toilet so it's not messy and you don't have to clean it up.

Also, explain that SHE is in charge of her own poop. You can demonstrate this by having her move her own arm and ask who moved her arm. The answer: She did!

Then decide if you want to let pullups go or deal with a messy bed. Either way, when your daughter wakes up with poopy pants, make HER dump the poop in the toilet from the pullup/underpants explaining again that poop belongs in the toilet and SHE is in charge of her own poop. Make sure she knows how icky and gross you think it is.

Then ask her what she can do to avoid pooping in her bed. Guide her to come up with her own answers.

In a sense you're helping her to realize she has control over her poop. And once she realizes that she will control it. I always find this works better than bribing them with m&ms!

A.,

Luckily my two boys have never had any fear about doing poop on the potty. However, my sisters first pooped in a puulup for about 6 months to a year before she felt comfortable going on the potty. My sister would get so frustrated but I think that is very common. I know my neighbors daughter also did that a while before she would do it on the potty. I don't know what to tell you except be patient. That is one thing your child is able to have total control of. Eventually she will outgrow it. I taught Kindergarten and none of the children were still wearing pullups.

As far as the night training. my oldest son has been in pull ups since he was 2 1/2. He was completey trained during the day at 3 but still wears pull ups at night. He is on his last pack. Only has one left and he has been waking up dry alomst every morning through the whole package. He will no longer be wearing pull ups a night anymore. He stopped wearing pull ups at nap several months ago.

Good luck!

You have received great advice so far. I would only add another little game to it. Before you sit her on the potty to poop, lay a sheet of toilet paper on top of the water and tell her to try to sink the paper with the poop. Gives them something else to think about besides just pooping.

M.

I really think that Pull-ups prolong the potty training process. They are just big diapers- you may as well save the money and just buy diapers. I don't have any superb words of wisdom except that bribery works wonders sometimes! With our son we have to be absolutely sure to take him to the potty right before bed or he will wet. Eliminating his cup of milk before bed was also necessary.

You are doing everything right. Don't give up. She won't go on forever. Maybe you can let it all go for a couple of weeks and see if she'll come to you. Since baby three is due in the summer you will have your hands full and it would be expensive for a couple of sets of diapers so I can see the urgency in this. Anyway, after a couple of weeks start again. There are seldom children in school who want to get caught with a full set of pants.
By the way, my sister bribed her children with m and m's. Just thought I'd mention that. I think I just gave mine evil looks. You'll find your own solution. Really! Good luck~

Have you tried any incentives? I used m&ms with my daughter and it worked like a charm. Right now I'm using skittles with my 2.5 year old. Both were/are poop trained first, but would not want to tell me when the had to pee. When my daughter was about 2 years and 3 months, I started using m&ms. She would get 1 if she hadn't peed in her pullup and 2 if she told me she had to be pee. It literally took 10 days for her to form the habit and she'd even forget to ask for the m&ms.

My son is a little more stubborn - he knows very well the difference between peeing in the toilet and the pullup. Since I've started using skittles, he often keeps the pullup dry (maybe all day or goes through just 1 change). He gets 1 skittle if he pees in the potty when I put him there and his pullup is dry.

I'm not sure about night-training. I lucked out with my daughter - she never peed at night and could usually wait till morning. My son will be a different story. But to start the process, dont' give any milk for upto 1.5 to 2 hours before sleeping. They have to pee first thing before going to bed and pee first thing in the morning. That's what I did with my daughter.

Use any incentive that works for your daughter - her favorite type of candy (assuming it's small enough that a few a day for a few weeks is not going to be that bad for her), a trip to the dollar store for a treat, a 1/2 hour of watching tv. but you have to be consistent - she only gets it if she poos in the potty and she tells you that she has to go. And praise her a lot - lots of clapping and shouting with joy - it really works.

Hi A., It's a real challenge, isn't it? LOL! I sat down with my little ones and talked to them about the icky sticky smelly poopies, and how Daddy and I didn't like them in OUR pants. I would then talk about how nice it was to have a potty to put our poopies into, and how cool that was to flush the toilet and watch the nice clean water take the poopie away! They seemed to get it after awhile and go in the potty. As for night wets, that just seemed to be a maturity thing. The only thing I did in that regard was to assure my little ones that one day they would be able to just sleep in panties like Mom and Dad, and that soon they would dream that they were going to go potty and learn to wake up and go to the real potty. That worked eventually. Good luck! Deb

We foolowed a different approach nd my dughter was daytime and night time trained by 2.5 years. he seems to have better control than us and she wont wake ____@____.com fine day before the weekend we showd her all her diapers and everything that are associated with it and make her throw away. We told her markets are closed so for next two days she does not have any diaper. We made her sit every 1/2 hr and gave something in return. If she do the thing we awarded differently gave her hugs and everything. BY MOnday we were quite far ahead and in another 2 accidents it was done. She was on pullup for 5 days and she was dry so we moved her on with big girl disney panty. She is little over three and no setbacks even with the two episodes of diarrhoea.

Botttomline once u decide dipaers are gone they are gone and let her play her part in doing so and encourage all + ve behaviour and be neutral to -ve. The strategy was adopted from a book potty training in 1 day.

Another thing that helped my friend was taking baby steps to poop. Let her waer the pull up but sit on potty. after few times loosen the pull up so it just catches the poop. Next time loose from both sides and let it go on the pull up. Each time after she is done throw the poop down the toilet to show where it belongs. Then one of these act teel her pull up is not right and take it out. Thats how she gout over the hump. She had a boy aged three.

Allthe best..u will get there.

V.

I've trained four children thus far. The 19 month old I trained started holding it early on and then going in the middle of the night. So I had to change her bowel movement schedule. I started giving her a teaspoon of flax seed in a cup of yogurt and a handful of shredded wheat first thing in the morning. After two days she couldn't hold it anymore. She went on the potty for two days and never held it anymore.

Another child I trained knew I was going to get the panties to put on so she went in her pull-up before I could get back. She would always cry for a pull-up at home and then go hide in another room. So I took her in the bathroom, told her she was too big for me to clean her bottom, and she would have to clean herself. She thought I was joking and said it was gross. I told her yes it is gross and I'm not doing it for you. I helped her get her pull=up off and in a plastic bag. I then helped her wipe and showed her how disgusting it was. I kept telling her if she went on the potty it wouldn't be so nasty. She could just poop, I would help her wipe and then we would flush it away. Easy as pie.

The next day she cried for a pull-up, but I wouldn't give her one and then finally I just made her sit on the potty. I hugged her while she sat there and kissed her face, but I would not let her up. I told her it would be fine and it would be so much better than pooping in a pull-up. When she finally went, we cheered to beat the band, and I gave her some chocolate chips. She cried a little the next day too, but after that she was fine and has gone on the potty ever since.

I don't give the kids I train an option. They will go on the potty.

I would start giving her heavy fiber foods real early in the morning for a day or two and see if her bowel habits change. Then after two days or so keep her up from her nap...just skip it if you have to so that you can catch her needing to go poop. If you have to follow her around with the potty chair (or remind her every 10 minutes that she needs to go on the potty and she is not allowed to go in her panties) She will have to go after all the fiber for two days. Keep that up until she's comfortable going on the potty. It will change her schedule too.

Good luck!! Poopies on the potty are usually more of a challeng, but it can be done. Sometimes they fight it, but they get over it and they won't be traumatized if you force the issue a little. Lots of hugs and kisses and calm voices...but insist that they go on the potty. No matter what they do, you can outwit them. During my mom's generation they spanked their children when they gave them a hard time...my uncle got a few in his day for pooping in his pants. He stopped pooping in his pants within the first week and he's fine to this day...he never suffered any trauma.

So I think insisting that she go on the potty with a little help from some fiber will be fine. Don't allow her to go in her panties and if she does...make her help you clean herself up. Cheer like a mad woman if she goes on the potty and maybe even give her a chocolate chip or two.

Wow I am in the same situation and here is what I have done in the last few weeks! I have an almost 4 year old, 22 month old and one due in July of which still all in diapers. Some advice I just got from another mom and I have done this within the last 2 weeks, put her in undies!! Everyday except when sleeping. My son would use the potty at every diaper change but would never go on his own. So I started on a week where we could be home as much as possible, put him in undies with a goal of Chuck E Cheese's if he can do it for one month. The first few days were very difficult, lots of accidents, thank god for hardwood floors! But after 4 days of wearing undies and telling him to use the potty every 45 minutes he was going on his own. We are now 2 1/2 weeks into this and he hasn't had an accident for 8 days!! The pooping did take longer than going pee on his own, but he is so proud of himself now! I reward him with a dum dum lollipop when he poops on the potty, he really likes that! He doesn't get candy very often so he really gets excited. I have a sticker chart on the fridge for everyday he is accident free, with the goal at the end noted so he sees it.
So pretty much you just need to take the time and have patience lots of it and take the plunge. I was thinking the same was as you that he would just get it one day, but with #3 on the way I can't afford diapers for 3. So now I buy baby diapers for the new baby stocking up for the big day instead of getting him diapers! He does wear a diaper at night, but that does take much more time to learn how to control it overnight.
Good luck with everything and if you have any questions please feel free to let me know!
K. G