POTTY TRAINING: 2.5 Year Old Going in Underwear All the Time!

Updated on August 23, 2008
U.A. asks from Arlington, TX
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My 2.5 year old daughter has been in underwear for several weeks. She only goes to the toilet if I keep nagging or bribe her. When I ask her if she has to go she always says NO. Meanwhile, she will eventually pee in her underwear onto the floor, or even poo in her underwear too. I'm getting tired of the mess--anything else I can do here? Thanks.

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C.J.

answers from Dallas on

I don't think she is to young to be potty trained. It just takes time and lots of cleaning :). I potty trained my daughter before she was 2 1/2 and she showed no signs of wanting to start. I just decided she was never going to just wake up and say mom will you potty train me today. That being said don't go back to diapers or pull ups. She will get the hang of it. Give her a little more time eventually she will get tired of wetting herself. Someone told me to make her clean up her own mess and it really seemed to help you might want to try it.

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J.S.

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A 2 and a half year old isnt ready until she is ready.You cant force her to be potty-trained if she isnt ready.Her little bladder isnt prepared to be trained yet.PLEASE dont force her or you are going to drive yourself crazy and make it much harder for her in the long run.DOnt compare her to other kids,either-every child is different and if your friend's kid was trained at 18 months,she was lucky and there might be something else that you will have it easier at!

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P.B.

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I used to teach preschool (potty trained for years).

If you allow her the opportunity to tell you "no" she will probably do it. Instead of ASKING if she has to go potty, (if you know it has been long enough) tell her "it is time to go potty". If she says, "no", you simply say, "I did not ask, it IS time to go." Let her know that it is not an option.

Once you have control, slowly give it to her. This is done by explaining to her that when she can go without wetting or pooing, SHE can tell YOU when she has to go.

Another thing that I have found to work is to print off a chart from Chuck E. Cheese's (chuckecheeses.com I think that's right). They have charts for potty training, cleaning your room, homework, etc. you take the chart to the restaurant and get FREE tokens as a reward. It's pretty cool! :o)

Good luck.

Blessings,

P. <><

P.S. Message me if you'd like a few more tips on potty training. I'll be glad to share some tried and true methods that work on just about ANY child.

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M.G.

answers from Dallas on

It sounds like she isn't ready. She's not ready until SHE goes on her on. It's not considered being potty trained if you're having to nag and bribe her. I would just leave it alone and go back to pull ups for a little while. Don't make her feel bad, though. Just tell her that she needs them for a little longer and to let you know when she's ready for underwear again. Just lovingly remind her that once she is ready to start going to the potty by herself, she can try them again. But just don't make her feel bad for it.

You can't look at age as being the right time. YOu have to look at when they tell you they're ready. Someone said it takes a lot of time and cleaning, and that is just not true. We have only had to clean one small spot from our son who has been in underwear since April. He still has trouble with #2, but it will come. He told us when he was ready. We didn't do it by our timetable, and we didn't have those stressful issues that I hear others have. I think it's important to wait until they are ready (and it's so much easier on the both of you).

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L.S.

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She sounds like she's not ready to potty learn. Put her back in diapers and wait until she's more interested. 2 is really young -- many don't potty learn until after 3. It needs to be their idea (and not the parent's) in order for it to work. Good luck!!

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J.S.

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Time to go back into pull-ups or start them if you have not already before "big girl panties". She sounds like she is not quite ready for underwear just yet.

Use a potty training chart (tons are free online) and have a reward systems in place such as her most desirable toy on her wish list for like a week of clean pullups (both 1 and 2 clean) and other rewards for a full day of dry pullups. Pullups today have those indicators on the front to where if they pee, the indicators go away. Also, time about 15 minutes from when she drinks and take her to the potty. Make it fun though such as making the water turn green (blue freshening tablets in the tank things) and REALLY love on her when she does a good job. Maybe have a friend call and be the Potty Fairy telling them that they are doing a great job and they will be passing the word onto Santa...just some ideas.

My daughter was about 4 before she was completely trained, but don't let that scare you..every child is different, you just have to be patient and not push them..until they hit 4 and refuse to do it :0) I had to tell mine that the school would not want her if she was still going in her pants. She wanted to go to school so bad that she finally got the idea.

I also took two weeks of just not going anywhere and training her. She wanted to go shopping but I told her we could not because she was still going potty in her pants.

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J.C.

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My little girl turned 2 in June and i started with the pull ups.She would take them off by herself so i started with the underwear. I do try to remind her since she is young but she will learn soon enough.After telling her she is starting to get the hang of it.She still has accidents but you cant get mad all the she might not tell you that she has to go.she will learn.

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A.J.

answers from Dallas on

She is too young... try again when she is ready. all kids potty train at different times my 5 year old was not potty trained until 4.5 and my now 3.5 year old is just now getting it...:o)yea!!! but my 2 year oldis nowhere near ready...

My dr says they dont go to kindergarten with diapers on and they will train when they are ready.

Good luck
A. J

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S.E.

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We used the bribe of a big event that only fully potty-trained kids could do (in our case spending the weekend at Nano and Papa's). It was amazing how quickly they became interested in staying dry.

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S.C.

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U., I have to say.. take a break.. it sounds like you both are overwhlmed with Potty Training.. my son is 2 and he is potty trained.. I am not going to say it was easy, b/c it was damn hard.. but sometimes you have to know when to take a break.. and please no bribing..I think with the bribes she will always expect something.. but I would also suggest buying those plastic underwear covers..I am not sure where you are located but check at Walmart, or those mom/pop places...now after you have to took a break, go back again, and never get angry at her for accidents..

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