Potty Training - Buffalo Grove,IL

Updated on September 21, 2012
C.R. asks from Buffalo Grove, IL
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My daughter will be 3 in November and is starting to show some interest in potty training. She loves to sit on her potty (she doesn't go) and she also knows when she is going to poop. My problem is that the sitter will not help with the training until she can get on and off of the potty on her own. She is short for her age.

What do I do? Should I try to train at home and just continue to send diapers to the sitter?

I am really concerned/confused on the right thing to do.

Also, this will be my first time ever training..........any advise for success??

Thanks to all!!

UPDATE: My sitter is willing to help her with pulling up her pants and buttons. Most of her pants don't have buttons on them because I am going with the easy up and down right now. I think I will ask her if I can send a stool for her to use. I know that she does not permit little potties because of the other children who use to bathroom. She doesn't have the room for them and she doesn't want other kids to play with them.

It is a difficult thing that she has to be able to get up and down on her own. I do love my sitter and really don't want to consider getting another one. She is great with both of my kids. I think I will ask her if there are options for a stool to be brought over.

I know that her main reason for the kids having to get up and down on their own is because if she is in the middle of changing a diaper on a younger child, she doesn't want the older one to have to wait and possibly have an accident.

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S.E.

answers from Killeen on

I have a 3 year old and she is fully potty trained. She has been since she was 2. I tried the whole M&M thing everytime she went on her own I would give her a few M&Ms, but that stopped working. So, I went and got her the pull ups that allow her to feel the wetness from her peepee, and I also got her a book about how going potty "Big Girl" is cool! She loved the book! I think she REALLY loved being praised after she went all by herself. She went poop in the potty as soon as she was introduced to do it though... she could't stand being in a poop diaper. My advice is get pull ups (it makes them feel like a big kid), you might want a different sitter...I'm not trying to be mean, but you need someone that will help with this, because it needs to be CONSTANT. Then if nothing works... you might want to consider tough love and go with regular panties! I did that when she started getting lazy and would pee in her pull up well after she had learned to use the potty. They don't like the feeling of it and they realize that's not supposed to happen. lol.
Also, NO fluids after 7pm if they go to bed around 8:30pm.
Hope this was helpful!

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D.K.

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My son was potty trained at 25 months. He went to daycare full day 3 days a week. Of course they helped him - he needed help with buttons and wiping effectively. I would discuss this with the sitter and if she won't participate I would get a new sitter. I would also get her a step stool - my son needed it to get on and off the toilet (we did not use a potty - yuck) for quite a while. We also used the Bjorn toilet seat cover so he wouldn't fall in.

Of course there are reasons to train her even if she needs help. LANDFILLS and $$$ top the list. Along with no longer having to change diapers - does anyone actually enjoy that?

For technique - we just put him in regular underwear and took him to the bathroom whenever he woke up, after ever meal and if we noticed it had been a couple of hours since he had gone. We did not do rewards or excessive praise. It took 3-4 days for him to get it down, a few accidents for the balance of a week and then 2 more accidents over the next 6 months.

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J.G.

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All I can think is, you might want to find a new sitter. Is this the sitter's first time with potty training? Kids need help. My daughter was 2 1/2 when she was fully trained, and was tall for her age, and she still needed help getting up and down off the full size toilet. Even if they can effectively get off an on the potty, that doesn't mean they won't need help with buttons on pants, or with other factors, like reaching the toilet paper. It could be really h*** o* your daughter to have you training her at home, then have to be in diapers at the sitters.
If you can't switch sitters, you might want to send a little potty with her, but if your sitter won't help her off and on the potty, I highly doubt they would want to clean out a training potty every time your child used it.

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S.R.

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Can't you send the potty chair to the sitters? Or a stool? She'll be able to get on and off. It's the pulling up and down of her pants and undies that she might not be able to do on her own at first.

What kind of sitter is this that will not assist with the potty training? No kid gets potty trained overnight. They are going to have to help you out on this one. Even if you start on a Friday night and make really good progress all weekend, it won't be complete by monday and you will NOT want to backtrack to diapers after a couple good days of training.

My advice is to spend the first two days pants-less and let her run to the short potty herself and get acclimated with that. Then on day three introduce the underwear/pants back into things. You have to see how it goes with your kid. When I hit a rough patch (there is some backsliding sometimes when your kid suddenly seems to forget everything she learned) I would put my daughter back on a cake-timer system, every 12 minutes it would ding and we would go sit. She would get back on track soon after because she didn't like the constant interruption (natural reward for telling mommy every time and no accidents= no cake timer and no interruptions in play).

Get ready to clean up a lot of accidents.

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N.P.

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as a home daycare provider I just don't get this about other providers. I do not see how a parent that puts the child with a care provider during the normal daycare full time day all week is ever expected to potty train the child. And to expect a 3 yr old to get on a regular potty is stupid. Buy your daughter an appropriate sized potty chair and bring that to daycare. Tell the provider to let her use that. If the provider still balks, find a new provider who is willing to be developmentally appropriate.

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S.R.

answers from El Paso on

This is my favorite thing we have for potty training. We still use it. :) My daughter has been using it since about 26 months and she is now 3 1/2 years.

http://www.amazon.com/Mommys-Helper-Contoured-Cushie-Step...

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S.G.

answers from Grand Forks on

You get her a little step stool for the big toilet, or you use a little potty. You can get potties that convert into a step stool and toilet seat insert. I agree there is no point in training her if she can't get on the toilet herself, so you have to provide her with the means to get on the toilet herself.

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C.D.

answers from Chicago on

Hi C.
My first thought is that maybe it is time to find a new sitter. I cannot fathom a sitter unwilling to help you with something so important. As a sitter I would be thrilled to not have to change diapers anymore. If you decide to train her you have to go all in. No more diapers ever, not at the sitter's, not to go to the store.

That said-this is the perfect time to potty train her. My daughter also has a November birthday and we trained her the Sept before she turned 3. We used the 3 day potty training method. You can get it at www.3daypottytraining.com. It goes basically like this: For 3 days we went nowhere. No quick trips to the store, no long walks. She wore a t shirt and underwear all 3 days. Instead of taking her at certain times I just constantly told her "Remember to tell me when you have to go pee." The first two days I gave her tons to drink-literally had two juice cups going at all times. This way you are sure she has to go. Rewards for going are helpful (we did animal crackers for pee and m&ms for poop) plus a big reward at the end of each day. A small potty has worked great for us. No liquids after 6pm and for a while we got them up at 10 or 11pm to go to the potty. This insured dryness overnight. Those 3 days are tough but totally worth it! Good luck and feel free to private message me with any concerns.

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C.B.

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My suggestion was going to be a stool. It's really something that the sitter won't help until your daughter can get up and down by herself. My GD was VERY small when she was younger. She would have been waiting until she was at least 4 to start training! Way too late in my book, especially when they're ready!

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