Playdate "Thank You"

Updated on April 16, 2010
A.D. asks from Baldwin, NY
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One of the SAHMs offered to have a playdate on a school 1/2 day which was great for my little guy. Although the afterschool program makes special arrangements for him, he's there alone for 3-3.5 hrs before the other children arrive. I'm so grateful, he had a wonderful time. Should I send her or her little guy a token of appreciation/gift?

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S.B.

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I agree with ladybug. You don't have to buy her a gift...but maybe a note or an offer on another day for her child would be nice.

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L.C.

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I think a note is more than adequate. Maybe you can have her little one over on a Saturday to reciprocate or something.
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I.M.

answers from New York on

If I was you I would send her and her little one a thank you note in the mail, it would be nice to see the little kid's face when he sees he's got mail :)
and also invite him over to your house one day to play. If you like to give them something other than the card, then bake some cookies and take them over.
I think they'll like that. :)

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M.T.

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I think a simple thank you and reciprocating by having her son over on a weekend or day that you are off is sufficient. I wouldn't send the child any sort of gift - as a mom, I wouldn't want my child to start expecting gifts in return for having someone over for a playdate - kids have enough sense of entitlement as it is.

M.L.

answers from Hartford on

Maybe a note from your son- no gift. Re-invite them later for a date!

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M.
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K.J.

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A thank you note is fine, and maybe a small sheet of stickers for her little guy? They'll fit in the card, and it would be a nice surprise for him. I do agree with the other posts about having them over to your house too.

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K.F.

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This is the second post concerning thank yous for playdates I've seen in a month. I think sending a gift is WAY over the top and as far as a thank you card...My girls are 7 & 11 and I figure between the two of them they write about 100 thank you cards a year. From Christmas, Birthdays, Easter and all the little things relatives and grandparents send throughout the year it can really add up. If you take just Christmas and B-day notes it can easily be 30 cards per kid. I think that is more than enough to teach them to be gracious and show loved ones appreciation. I personally would feel weird if one of my daughters friends (or Mom) wrote a thank you or gave a gift for a playdate even if we spent money and had a ton of fun. The best way to show your appreciatiion and develop a relationship is to reciprocate and invite the little boy to your house. It's that simple!

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K.F.

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A note and an offer to have a play date at your house would be great for a response.

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M.O.

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Ditto on what the other moms have said. You could also do an e-mail to make it less formal or a phone call to add a personal touch. Let the mom know that you'd help her out in a bind as well.

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S.A.

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Reciprocate so her and her hubby can have a date night.

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E.R.

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The best thanks you could give is to have her son at your house. Giving a mom time for herself is the greatest gift! As you probably realize!

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P.W.

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No. Just invite her little one over.

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D.W.

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Agree with the other moms - the simple act of a heartfelt "thank you" goes a long way with me personally. The simple fact that you recognize what they do and acknowledge it says a lot about you!

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