Pitbull / Newborn Dilemma

Updated on April 07, 2009
M.J. asks from Laveen, AZ
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I am looking for some advice on an issue I am having concerning my views towards our 4 year old pitbull, Asia. She is an indoor only dog and is (generally speaking) well behaved but she is a very strong and playful dog. I do not allow her in the bedrooms and last week my husband was in the guest bedroom on the computer. When I tried to get her out, she ran to the other side of my husband in defiance as if she knew he'd protect her and let her stay. I tugged on her tail as she was running past me and she turned around and showed her teeth at me and snarled. To be honest, I was a little scared. I have a 6 year old daughter and Asia is really good with her except that she is very strong and sometimes knocks my daughter down, whips her with her tail or scratches her with her nails. Even though I am still cautious and somewhat nervous about my 6 year old playing with her, I know she can deal with the roughness but I am just afraid that something bad is going to happen when my 4 month old starts crawling/walking and I am SO nervous about that. Getting whipped by Asia's tail feels like being hit by a belt - it's one thing to be whipped on the legs but once our baby starts walking along side the furniture, she will be whipped in the face and I do not want that to happen. Plus, I feel like if she snapped at me, she will snap (or worse) at my baby cause she will definately tug on her - that's what babies do. I like Asia and really don't mind her being our pet but now that we have a newborn, my responsibility is to my baby and protecting her. I'd rather be sad that Asia's gone than sad because my baby's gone. I know all dogs can bite but a pitbulls bite is much worse than any other dog and that is just a risk that I am not willing to take. My husband absolutely refuses to admit that it is possible that Asia can hurt our baby. He says, "people get killed in cars everday, does that mean you're gonna stop driving your car?" This issue causes a fight between us everytime it is discussed. He gets so mad at me and thinks I'm being ridiculous but I absolutely hate to even think about the "what if's". I just want to protect my baby....am I being unreasonable?? Does anyone have any advice on how I can handle this situation?

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L.M.

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Just recently there were 2 horrible tragedy's involving pitbulls. Last month, in Luling, TX an 18 month old was killed by a female pitbull that was chained in the back yard. Just this week a 6 month old was killed in San Antonio, TX by 2 female pitbulls. The grandmother had just stepped away to warm a bottle. Young children and dogs, regardless of the breed, should be supervised at all times.

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B.V.

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Difficult but straight forward choice.
Don't expose the children to danger or death.
Get rid of the Dog.
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J.Z.

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An eight year old student in my classroom was just attacked this weekend by his next to door neighbors pit bull,a dog with which he played all the time. You can not trust these animals. Now this child may have permanent damage from the dog. To me it is just not worth it.

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D.H.

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You need to ask your husband if he is prepared to deal with a dog attack on one of his children. He needs to understand that you aren't picking on him or the dog, but you need to ask him if he's willing to face the possibility of one of his kids being seriously injured or worse by this animal.
Does he know that the dog snarled and snapped at you? Personally, I'd have thrown it out of the house RIGHT THEN. Any dog that shows any sort of aggresive behavior has NO PLACE around young children.
When you pose these questions to your husband, do NOT allow him to engage you in a fight about it. Tell him that if the dog is allowed to stay, and he's adamant about this, HE needs to take responsibility for getting the dog obedience training. If he refuses, tell him the dog will not be allowed in the house/around the children - whatever. There need to be consequences.

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E.T.

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M.-

I can relate to this situation. My husband and I are currently looking for a home for our dog. She is getting older and has begun barking aggressively at my 2 yr old and has snapped at us when her tail is pulled. She is a sweet dog and would probably never bite anyone, but that is also not a risk I am going to take either. You probably heard about that Mesa officer whose dog killed their infant, unprovoked. If you are concerned about the dog remove her from the home now. You are not overreacting. Trust your instincts.

Yes, your husband is right, people die in car accidents everyday but you can't control that. You can, however control whether or not your dog is around to bite your child. If you have a good pastor or third party friend it might help to involve them in speaking with you husband. You need to help him see your concern and that it is not just "crazy mom" talk. Keep in mind as well as your dog gets older she could get more aggressive, especially if she incurs any health issues.

Pit bulls are aggressive dogs, period. I know they have a bad reputation but it is not without cause. There are many good pitbulls out there, but there are also many who cannot control their animal instincts.

Maybe you can find a good home for her first, with a friend, family member or neighbor so that your husband and yourself can keep in contact with the dog and not feel like you are abandoning her. Or you could get her into some really good obedience classes that will give you the control over her that you need.

I hope that helps, and goodluck.

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A.R.

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This is a hard one to do. I had a beautiful full grown rottie. He was 140 lbs, and a trained guard dog. I adored this dog, he was my sweetie. He slept in my room by my bed for 7 years. He let my kids ride on him like he was a horse. Even though he was a guard dog, he was a beloved pet. He was so well trained that I could take food out of his mouth, and if food was dropped on the floor he would wait til I told him he could have it before he would eat it.

Someone broke into my house and the dog pinned, (never bit) him to the floor by the throat and refused to let go for anyone but me and this dumb teenager peed himself waiting for me to come home from the grocery store. The neighbor was trying to talk the dog off the thief with steak, no dice. Word got out and even my vet wouldn't see him without a muzzle. I was told to put no tresspassing signs around my property because if I put beware of dog signs I was admitting to having a vicious animal and would be legally liable if the dog had bitten the thief.

I never had any other issues with him until a teenage relative visited. I guess the dog decided all teens were horrible, he flew through the air at this kids throat, luckily the dog was knocked to the ground by my dad. The boy wasn't hurt, but scared, sobbing and shaking. I was pregnant at the time. I called the trainer and was told that if a dog would attack unprovoked, they needed to be retrained or treated differently. I was also told that if my cousin had been hurt the city would have to put the dog down.

I found a new home for my sweet baby, yes I cried for weeks. But if a dog will snap once they will do it twice. The new owners were told he was a trained attack dog and he has attacked and hates teenagers. I didn't want my dog to be in a home where the new people couldn't handle him. The guy was in the military and "our" fur baby got to ride on a navy ship on a regular basis. It worked out beautifully.

You need to do a few things, first off that dog should never have walked away from you, she should respect you as the "top dog" or your husband can be #1 and you #2 as long as the dog knows she is at the bottom of the totem pole even under the kids. This can be accomplished by training. Second let your husband know that if the dog ever does that again she is instantly gone or instantly an outside dog, which ever works for you guys. But I would be very insistant that any dog will comply with any request. This will be tough, he is emotionally attached, and may not like the idea at first, but I would be very firm with him. Good luck whatever you decide.

BTW.... the idea that people get killed in cars every day doesnt mean we stop wearing seatbelts or strapping our kids into car seats.

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K.R.

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You are not being unreasonable, you are being a mother. It is your duty (and your husband's) to protect both your children from any potential harm. If you think there is even the slightest possibility that the dog will harm one of your kids, then you need to find a new home for her. Not to do so would be irresponsible and immature, and may have tragic consequences. Trust your instincts.

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B.S.

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M., any breed dog who is behaving aggressively and defensively the way your dog is behaving is a potential major catastrophy poised to happen. No grown person is strong enough to pull a dog off of an attack. To compare this situation with a car accident is naive and, frankly, irrisponsible. When you see a car weaving irradically or running stop signs, you do everything you can do to avoid that car, don't you. This dog is behaving in a warning way. Any dog that behaves this way with children is a danger. He's trying his best to let you know.

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S.C.

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Trust your gut. Better safe than sorry! I hate to be cliche, but you cant be too safe. Who is the biggest priority here?

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V.R.

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paranoia leads me to think that when campaigns have to be organized to assure me that a particular animal is safe around infants, it’s because they’re not.

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M.M.

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A car is a necessary risk in life, an animal is not. I would not put my children at unnecessary risk - no questions asked. I am sure there is a good, child free home willing to take your dog.

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D.S.

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I worked for an insurance company who handled dog bite claims and we saw numerous claims where pet pit bills turned on their own families and attacked. If you saw any of the pictures from these claims, you would get rid of that dog immediately! These dogs are naturally attack dogs. I wouldnt' risk the life of my kids for any anymal. I'm sure if you look for pit bull attacks on children on the internet, you might find a few pictures. It's just not worth it. In response to his "car" comparison, I would tell him that "no I wouldn't stop driving my car because people get killed in cars everyday, however, if I was driving a car that would swerve off the road on its own and cause an accident, I would get a new car." I would just take the dog to the pound when he wasn't home.

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L.S.

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Find the dog a new home. Nothing is worth risking the life of your child. Just the fact that you are nervous and asking for advice shows the DOUBT you have. Mother's instincts are strong and VALID. Don't hesitate. A child-free home is the best place for your dog now that you have seen this type of behavior. Please, don't delay and become a sad story on the evening news.

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C.C.

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Do not take a chance with a dog and a newborn., the baby is defenseless and it is up to you to protect her life. Animals are not human and no matter how you are attached to your dog you can not afford to let that one mistake happen

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A.M.

answers from Phoenix on

I understand that Asia is part of your family and this is a tough decision. But, if you have the slightest concern for your childrens safety, you should find her another home. I have a four pound yorkie and I would not have a baby around him because he gets agressive at times. You need to put your mind at ease, as this worry is not good for you.

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N.S.

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Sounds like the choice is a dog or a child. I think the decision is obvious.

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V.J.

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I'm a veterinary technician so I'm well aware of the negative views about Pitbulls, but I can honestly say that the majority of Pits that I have dealt with are great family dogs and do well with children IF properly trained. However, if your dog is aggressive about anything at all, you must put a stop to it immediately. The longer you allow that kind of behavior, the more set in her ways she will become. From a dog's perspective, if you react to her aggression by shying away or leaving her alone when she does it, a dogs's mentality is that she has won and has essentially dominated you. Dogs live in a pack society and fight for their "rank". She already does not respect you as demonstrated by her refusal to leave the room when you tell her to. Your husband is who she views as the "pack leader" and both of you need to train her so she can see that her place is at the bottom of the pack. I would strongly recommend that you contact a trainer and try to modify the situation immediately because the behavior you described-- teeth baring and snarling-- is where it begins. If she's gotten away with that even once, she will continue that behavior especially as your baby becomes more mobile and curious about the home and your dog.

As a mom, I feel that you should trust your instincts. You have a very valid concern. I went through a similar situation with my 6yr old Rottweiler (she is not aggressive per say, but she tramples my boys and I can't be certain that she wouldn't snap if they tugged on her) and I had to realize that no matter how much I love and care for her, she is an animal and above all else THE SAFETY OF MY CHILDREN HAS TO COME FIRST. I didn't give her up, but I have had to change the way she is involved in our family. I only allow her to be around my children when she can be monitored very closely with them or else she is in her kennel or the backyard. You have to assess your situation individually and if it turns out that your dog just isn't fitting well with your family, it may be better to have her move on to a new family perhaps with older children.

Some pet owners I have worked with have had successful results with Bark Busters training. Their trainers can come to your home to see what's going on and work from there. Another idea is to visit Dr. Kelly Moffat who specializes in animal behavior. Good luck with everything. I hope it all works out. :)

http://www.barkbusters.com/
http://www.drmoffat.com/index.html

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D.J.

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Your comments obviously have nothing to do with the breed, the dog has already shown aggression. You have every right to be unsettled. I had a pit bull, LOVED my dog, had no problems other than being bit once while playing. He didn't have any intention of hurting me, I moved my arm up, he missed the rope and got my arm. Wow! That sucker hurt, but if you play rough with an animal you have to be prepared to get roughed-up.

I had a german shepherd when my first son was born. We had no problems at all with him, until he jumped up on my but hit my son first. He left the baby scratched and bruised. Again, not intentional, but he didn't understand being gentle around the baby and I didn't have money for a trainer. After the second time it happened (yes, I was stubborn and made excuses that it wouldn't happen again) I did have to part with my beautiful dog.

In the end my children are my priority. I can get another dog. I can't get another child.
Just my personal feelings - always trust your instincts as Mom, you can never be too cautious with the safety/life of a child.

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D.P.

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I think if the dog bared it's teeth at you already, there is the possibility of it baring the teeth on your children. When I was growing up, there was a family that had 2 pit bulls that seemed pretty docile. A neighbor child that the dog knew well walked up and knocked on the door to ask if the kids that lived there could play. The child got mauled really badly. He fortunately was not killed, but scarred for life on the face and down his entire side of his body.

D. P.

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P.B.

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Hi M.,

Print your letter out and take out the names... Let friends and family read it and ask them their oppinions. What would they think of this situation. I promise you they all would say "Get rid of the dog". Any responsible person would! Nothing in the world is worth the pain you will go through when Asia just one time turns on your child. Google and Youtube Pit Bull attacks for your own reasurance. Your husband is absolutly wrong! Your dog has the capability to tear your daughters face off with out any effort. In a car... The protection of seatbelts, carseats and the car itself is a buffer of protection and survival is garunteed greater in 100 accidents vs. one dog attack. I love animals and know they bring great joy to their owners, however, by their very nature are unpredictable. They lick their butts, have accidents in the house, run away, steal food, distroy items by chewing... etc. You cannot control or predict how an animal will respond. The loss of a dog you will get over, the loss of a child... you will never!

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A.S.

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Hi - There have been way too many cases of dogs mauling and/or killing children lately.
Even if the dog is sweet, YOU are afraid of it. That is a very very bad situation, and it's just as much your fault as the dog.
You don't need to get rid of the dog, but you do need to get training. Both you, husband, and the dog, together. You need to lean how to control the animal (pulling a tail is not good) and you dog needs to learn how to mind your commands.

If that's not something you can do, then re-home the dog or keep it completely separte from the children.

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K.N.

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I'd absolutely let go of Asia. Pit bulls are bred to be aggressive, even though owners often deny it and try to act like they've got a loveable mixed-breed mutt. She's already shown aggression toward you and when your baby is down at eye-level you're asking for trouble. It sounds like Asia is also picking up on the friction between you and your husband - any dog can take advantage of that, just like kids do. They also develop jealousies that are just too dangerous to ignore. Stand your ground and get rid of her.

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D.H.

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Men don't have a mothers intuition. If you have a haunting feeling that this is a possibility (and with those dogs it certainly is possible due to their ancestrial nature) then you need do what needs to be done. If that dog bites one of your babies, you will never be able to forgive your husband and you don't need that stress on a marriage. Cars are a nescisary part of life and pit bulls aren't. Don't bully your husband into get rid of the dog if you don't have to. Bullying and Nagging get us no where. Do your best to be considerate of his feelings. Men have the ability to care as much about dogs as they do their children...although they would never admit it.

If you are a praying woman, ask your heavenly father if getting rid of the dog would be the right descision for you. Listen for answers and listen to your intuition. Good Luck. I truly do sympathize with what you are going through.

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F.H.

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Hi M., I'm an insurance agent and there are 5 no-no dogs for writing homeowner policies...Pits, Rots, Akita's, Chows and wolf breeds. You ABSOLUTELY need to get that dog out of the house! People think all the time that it "won't happen to them" well, it does, and then it's too late. As far as your husband goes...go to google and type in "pit bull attacks on children" and see what pops up. Same thing for Chows. There was a couple in Mesa just recently who's chow killed their 3 week old. You said she has already "showed her teeth and snarled at you", you were lucky to get that warning, I would not risk it again, with adults or children in the house. You already know in your heart of hearts what you need to do...do it before something serious happens. Have you husband call me and I will convince him! I wish you the best of luck! F. cell ###-###-####

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B.B.

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I do not think you are being unreasonable at all--pit bulls are aggressive dogs, and yours has already shown some aggression with you. They can go off without any warning, and I would hate for you to wonder if you could have done something differently if something awful happened. I feel very strongly about this, as I am a counselor, and saw a pt who witnessed the child they were caring for get killed by the family pit bull. The family had no other aggression issues before this, but for some reason that day, the dog turned on the four year old child, and bit her in the neck until she died. Pit bulls lock their jaws, so the caregiver was unable to get the dog's jaws off the child to save her, and several police men also could not unlock the dogs jaws. It was a very unfortunate situation, and this does not happen to everyone with a pit bull, but you have to ask yourself if it is worht the risk?

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R.A.

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You are not alone. I don't have a Pitbull, I have 2 black labs and with sadden hearts we are taking them to the humane society. They are 7 have been our "kids" until we actaully had a kid. They are good dogs and I don't believe they would ever hurt the baby, but I am not willing to take the chance.

My best advice, if you have the patience and money, hire a dog trainer to help you help the dog behave around the baby.

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S.L.

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Don't have a dog that you feel afraid of around your kids. Pulling her tail and getting an aggressive response means that she doesn't know who is boss - and that ALL humans are boss. Either train her or find another home for her. I have had two sons bitten in their faces by dogs (decades apart) and neither one had done anything aggressive to the dog to "cause" it to react.

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L.S.

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Hi M.,

I agree with many of the responses that advise to get rid of the dog.

I too have also worked for an insurance company that handled dog bite claims and the injuries and resulting scarring is not pretty.

Pitbulls by nature are aggressive and can be unpredictable - that is the breed. If you are afraid of the dog, the children will sense this and the dog will sense the fear as well. This does not make for a good and safe environment.

Your husband has no way of knowing whether the dog may or may not attack. In response to his comparison about people getting killed in car accidents, your response can be that yes that is true so you will always make sure that you drive a safe and dependable vehicle that was designed with safety features that provide the best protection possible during an impact.

The number one priority is the safety of the children as well as yours and his safety. If the tail swats feel like a belt, imagine what that would feel like across your infant's face should he be crawling around and the dog accidentally swats him with his tail. That is not fair to the kids.

I know you love the dog but safer and more predictable breeds are out there. As calloused as this sounds, dogs can be replaced, children cannot. Find a good home for the dog, re-group and then research dogs that are good with kids.

I wish you all the best.

L.

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L.M.

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Hi M.,
I have a pit bill but she is a great dog and I got her when my kids where in high school (she is going on 7 yrs. now). But not once has she growled at ANYONE, although she can be territorial with other dogs so I do worry if we come across a small loose dog who will come up and growl at her. She is good with the other dogs that I have. If yours has growled at you, chances are she will be somewhat territorial with your daughter. Pit bulls are excellent dogs when trained right. Have you ever tried putting your hands close to her dog bowl while she is eating. If she growls at you when you do it, chances are she will not be good with the kids, because if one day one of your children gets too close to her dog bowl or of something of value, then Asia may in fact attack. I would then consider sending her away, I know it will be tough, but your child is far more important and precious. There was a thing in the news about a week ago, where a toddler got too close to a Great Dane's bowl (he was a pet along with 2 other dogs) and the Great Dane attacked the toddler on the face close to her eye. She will be having plastic surgery because of the teeth marks...they leave jagged marks that are hard to repair without plastic surgery. And you know how Pit bulls can be when faced off. I have seen mine attack a cat and break it's neck like it was a rag doll. And yes, they do not let go. It is not a pretty sight. I would worry for your children if your dog is territorial about you, your husband, or food and toys. So, please try the food bowl first and see if she growls at you, that is usually a good indication.

L.

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C.H.

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My advice is to read some of Cesar Milan's stuff. He's the Dog Whisperer and very good. I've seen some of his shows that has worked with rowdy dogs and making them behave around babies.

Dogs can be trained to behave around babies and kiddo to be calm, but it takes a lot of effort on the humans parts. You have to be consistent and the dominant over the animals. The dogs behave better when they know that the family has a higher ranking than the dog. Pit bulls are not necessarily bad dogs but becoming frightened of your dog is not good. You need to get a better standing with the dog.

Kids come first, I understand that, but you have an obligation to the dog as well. Get some training, if you make an effort with the dog as much as you would your own child, then the dog will respond with the apporpiate affection.

Read Cesar Milan, watch some of his shows. http://www.cesarmillaninc.com/ Here is his website. Please make an effort for the dog for the sake of the family. Getting rid of the dog is the easy solution, proper care of the dog is a commitment.

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S.E.

answers from Phoenix on

I was a witness to a dog attack last year. It was the scariest thing ever. Nothing provoked the attacking dog, just the sight of new little dogs walking close in a greenbelt area.

What is more important to your husband, your children or your dog?

Too bad if he gets mad at you if you give your dog to a home with no children, that's better than taking the chance of risking lives.

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K.R.

answers from Phoenix on

Long story short, animals are just that - animals. Your husband may think the dog won't hurt anyone, but he's wrong. Animals are unpredictable. Especially when they feel threatened or uncomfortable. We were just at a friend's house, and we thought the dog was going lick DD, and instead she bit her above the mouth. Thank goodness it was just a small puncture but it could've been much worse. And of course, I heard the "she's never done that before" bs. You just never know.

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P.C.

answers from Phoenix on

I know exactly how you feel, when my son was born, my pit bull Sage was 5 years old and she was nothing short of my princess. She was my life, my soul, my best friend (sounds kinda weird) but she was everything to me. After my son was born, Sage had a weird new attitude towards me. At first I thought she might have been getting aggressive but slowly started to realize she was becoming overly protective of our son. Whether we should keep her was an argument my husband and I had almost everyday. As much as I loved her, I knew my children were my #1 priority. The one thing that you are experiencing that I never experienced was being afraid of her. As hard as it is, I think it is a good idea for you to get rid of her. You are her owner, not the other way around and the second you have fearful feelings, she will feel that and feed off of it. I never went through that, I was never afraid of Sage and she never tried to go head to head with me about dominance. When the kids would try to ride her, pull on her ears and try to play tug of war with her tail, she always would look at me with this look like "please make them stop!" I always swore that the second any of us became scared of her or she showed the first hint of becoming physically aggressive with not just the kids (but with any of us), she was gone. We never had to do that. I understand about the power of the pit bulls' tail, that was something that we trained our kids to avoid. Please do not take this the wrong way but I think you might have already lost the power struggle with your dog and that is not something you can recover once lost. I think the only reason that didn't happen in my house is because I included Sage in EVERYTHING that we did with the kids. I knew because of how close her and I were before the kids, I needed to show her that she was still our family, not just our dog. Unfortunately, when we moved into our new house, the back yard was infected with Parvo and Sage died almost immediately on Halloween. I am still absolutely devistated and my children still ask for Sage everyday. They have even included her to be blessed in our prayers everynight. We are so not ready for another dog right now, I am 35 weeks pregnant and overwhelmed with everything else at this point, but we have discussed what kind of dog we will get when we are ready and have decided on a pit. The way you train them is key, and if you are determined to keep Asia, it might be a good idea to regain the mental control between the two of you. Try spending some one on one time with her alone and then with the kids seperately. Best wishes to you and remember, your kids are #1 but a family pet is just that, family. Please keep me updated and let me know what you decide.

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T.D.

answers from Albuquerque on

As with all animals or pets, they become a major part of the family, as they should! You all probably love Asia with all your heart. Some dogs have natural personalities that can be a bit much. You have all the rights to be concerned.

My in-laws had a dalmation, and my son used to lay on her as pillow, love on her, play ball all the fun of a dog, and one day he did something to make her react, and bit his eye down to his mouth. Ever since then he is afriad of dogs.

We had a Black Lab before we had children. After we had the kids,She became a bit much to handle. She was getting out of the yard, chasing the mail man so much he refused to give is our mail. When we tied her up she would hang herself trying to jump the fence. This is a lab!! The more friendly family dog. We choose to get rid of her, she went to a open yard home, and with us living in a subdivision, she is much happier.

You may need to place her in another home for a while. See if a friend, or family member will keep her for a while. Offer to get a different type of dog to your husband, Boxers can be fun too.

Good luck on your choices with Asia. Your absolutly right, your children, especially young children, need to come 1st.

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D.R.

answers from Phoenix on

You're not being unreasonable at all. I've always been a pit gal and will be the first to stick up for them when ignorant people run their mouth about a breed they have absolutley no experience with. Everyone likes to jump on the band wagon about pit-bulls being crazy, but it's all in how their treated, just like any other dog. They are dogs plain and simple; and just like any dog, you have to watch for early signs of potential aggression. You've already seen one, so now you have to put your foot down. If your husban refuses to get rid of the dog, compromise and refuse to let your children around her. Make her an outside dog when you're unable to have constant supervision over her in your house when the kids are home. People that get bit by their own animals usually have at least one indication that it's a possiblity before it actually happens. One of my co-workers little girls walked out her back yard with a new puppy last year, his pit was 5, the jealousy kicked in and when the went for the puppy the little girl turned and her got her shoulder. He wasn't going for her but when he got her their strength is so massive that the girl was in the hospital for a couple of days and has some terrible scarring. I had seen this dog and he showed aggression towards people; their little girl shouldn't have been able to get out the door to be in the yard with the dog unsupervised. Just play it super safe; don't let the kids interact with the dog unsupervised for one single second. Good luck with the husband; I'm sure he loves his girl very much and it's hard to get rid of a perfectly healthy and loyal dog. Tell him he needs to make cautious compromises.

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N.M.

answers from Phoenix on

Hello there M.,

We have a pitbull and we have a 4 year old boy and an 20 month old girl. Before we had our second child we bought books for pitbulls in regards to bring home additions to the family and what to look out for. Through out the time our daughter was learning to crawl and walk our dog has been very submissive, but we used the technques in the literature we read. Our dog on the other hand plays with each person accordingly, etc if playing with dad very rough, baby very gentle. I think if you pulled the dog's tail, Asia probably knows that you shouldn't be doing that as an adult and may feel threatened by you. She probably feels your axienty or beef and may a reason for her to disobey or feel threatened. Don't get me wrong I feel you have ligitiment concerns, but with any dog not just a pit bull. Also, I see you mentioned that your husband is being selfish and naive, but it doesn't seem to me that you have considered anyones elses feelings in regards to Asia. Have you asked your daughter how she would feel if a member of the family was taken away becuase mommy was scared that something might happen to someone in the family? Does that mean you will not get a cat or a different dog becuase that pet might hurt someone in the family. You never mentioned whether or not you have done any research on how to prepare a family pet with additions to the family.I spoke with my husband and asked him what he thought about the whole thing( just to get a different view), he suggested maybe getting obedience school with Asia or getting more information on how to make it work. We both agreed that getting rid of the dog was kind of hasty and giving in to the reputation of having a pit bull.

We truely feel you need to get more information/education about pitbulls/Asia. Once you find the information your looking for we believe you will have the knowledge to handle Asia with the baby, becuase you'll know your dog. We don't want to sound harsh or blunt, we really do just want to help you and family with Asia and having a new addition. Good LUCK!! BTW congrats on your baby GIRL!!

P.S. Here are a few websites of some pitbulls that have actually saved peoples lives in addition to background information and myths and facts about these dogs. These are just to get you started.

http://www.animalliberationfront.com/News/2008_11/StrayDo...

http://www.pitbullsontheweb.com/petbull/articles/alaska.html

http://www.pitbullsontheweb.com/petbull/pospress.html

http://www.nypost.com/seven/07082007/news/regionalnews/pi...

http://adopt-that-dog.blogspot.com/2007/03/facts-about-pi...

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M.J.

answers from Tucson on

I have strong feelings against certain dogs. A pitbull is one of them. Get rid of the dog. A friend of mine had one and he just introduced me to the dog. He sniffed my hand, sniffed it again, looked like he was just checking me out then just bit me. I went to the emergency room, thankfully it wasnt bad and I only have a little scar but if they had not pulled him back he could have hurt me worse. I did have to wear this huge wrap that looked like a boxing glove for a week. Not fun. Plus they had to put both their dogs down after.

I have always been told to make sure you get introduced to a dog as soon as possible if it is going to be in the house with you. To not be afraid, but that was the third bad experience I had with that type of dog.

Once I was chased by a three pit bulls if it wasnt for my horse I could have been attacked. I made it to her pin before they did and she protected me. I like dogs I have a huge 100lb Golden, but pits, bull dogs, a few others I would not let my child near because you never know how they will react.

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C.C.

answers from Phoenix on

They are a good breed for the most part, when they are good they are very, very good but you have to have priorities. Remember they have been bred as fighting dogs and for your dog to lift his lip, regardless of having his tail pulled, shows a lot about where he feels he stands in the family. I am going to bet Asia listens to your husband more than you. Is your husband serious? One of you has to take control of the situation and put the kids first. He has a point in that more people are hurt everyday driving, but that is also true of many things, things that you would never expose your kids to on a bet. When you take your kids out you use every thing you can (car seats, driving slowly) to keep them from harm. I breed dogs and I know dogs. I do obedience and conformation and have seen many wonderful Pit Bulls. However they have been bred as fighting dogs. I have talked to people at shows that used to have Pitts and had to give them up because of how they have reacted around family. They now have new dogs. My daughter has a scar on her face for when she tried to crawl up onto the couch and my SWEET (not your breed) dog bit her. Totally put of the blue. Any dog can act like this but a Pit Bull is more prone to and when they do their actions are much more serious than another breed.
That is the extreme side, on the other point, who wants their kid wacked in the face with a tail. I would never expose my kids to that type of roughness. I cannot tell you how important this is. My father read this and thought this was a joke, I hope that he is right. Your husband needs to put his kids first. He is fooling himself if he thinks he is. A pure bred dog is highly sought after and would go very quickly if put in a pound. It is hard and you would be sad but how would you feel if your kids keep getting knocked around by that tail or if the dog looses its temper with them. If you decide that this is important to you then do your best to talk him into this. If he refuses to listen then I don't know what to tell you.

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S.C.

answers from Phoenix on

I see, more often than I'd like to, stories on the news of babies and toddlers being KILLED by dogs, in particular Pit Bulls. Your husbands defense of people getting killed in cars has no relevance to providing safety and protection for your children in your own home. We, as drivers, protect ourselves. When we see an oncoming car do we swerve out of the way or plunge into it? This pit bull is your oncoming car momma. Take care of this before your pit bull does. My husband has a scar across his forehead from their families dog. When he was 3, the dog, who was a very nice dog, got angry and bit him in the face. Dont wait because if you do, it just may be too late. Reality check---would you like to be sitting at your childs funeral wishing you hadn't said "I'll do it tomorrow."? Do it NOW. Good luck Momma. You are doing the right thing and clearly your mothers instinct is working. Trust it. It won't fail you. I also saw someones response about knowing our dogs like we know our children. Thats not true...dogs-even the nicest dogs-will turn in an instant if they feel threatened or violated. Its their natural instinct and cannot be denied. Thats their only way of protection and they WILL use it if necessary.

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M.F.

answers from Phoenix on

I agree with many of the postings so far. As a dog lover, I think it is important to have animals around for our children to learn from. That being said, you have to be the Alpha male in the house or your dog will not respect or listen to you unless Asia feels like it. When I took my border collie to obedience classes (I had a 3 year old and a 1 year old at the time) the dog showed some signs that he was "sassing" me that the trainer picked up on. She insisted right away that I correct the problem or I would be putting my children and myself in danger. She told me she had known too many families that had let the dog do their own thing and then one day made a simple request that the dog didn't want to do and were bit. It sounds to me like Asia knows she is in charge and if she is not careful with your children- we chose our dog after we had the kids so that we could try him out around them before deciding to keep him- you will never be able to leave the dog alone with them- ever. Asia may see that new baby as competition in the pack/family and she may deliberately try and eliminate her. Trust your instincts. Your body will pick up on things that you cannot necessarily explain with words. Is the dog home with the kids when you aren't there? Does anyone other than your husband have to watch the dog and the kids together? Also if he doesn't take the threat seriously he may not watch Asia as closely as he needs to. It sounds like Asia treats your husband as the Alpha of the pack, that makes you just another dog in the pack with no special privileges. How does your dog do with other children around? Is there a risk during play dates? I don't envy you- hopefully your husband will recognize that you have a real concern and do some research- maybe there is a point of compromise... get some baby gates to keep the dog away from the kids when you aren't in the room? Keep the doors shut? Try taking her to obedience classes or hiring someone, but you will have to be the one to do it so that she learns to respect you as the one in charge. We also had our 3 year old at the time, take part in the dog training and helped our dog learn that he had to listen to her as well, establishing her position in the pack as above him. Maybe the most effective advice you have received so far was to call in an expert...let them see the dog in your home and observe the behaviors...get your husband to get on board in being willing to follow the recommendations. good luck

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C.R.

answers from Las Cruces on

If you are that worried, either make her an outdoor dog or an outdoor/indoors under supervision dog or find a nice home for her with no children. You have to follow your instincts as a mother. I love my dog to the ends of the earth and if I had concerns changes would be made. Fortunately he is amazing with kids, but Border Collies are known for that kind of behavior. I know pit bulls that are great dogs, some are just not meant to be around young kids.

Good luck with your decision and negotiations with your husband.

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J.M.

answers from Phoenix on

Hi, I had to tell my dh about ur concern and I was curious to see if my dh disagree or not. To my surprised, he thinks you are not overreacting at all. Neither do I. We have a pit and I have 2 children age 8 and 6 and I'm 5 months pregnant so I worry too. But ur dog snapping and snarling at u would set the alarm off inside me. This is my dh's suggestion, he thinks you can try putting in extra effort in showing the dog that she is not human and she I'd a dog by feeding her last after the family eats. Dogs behave much like wolves in pack and the leaders eat first and "low class wolves" eats last. Since the dog is a family clan of urs, it might be a good idea to treat her as if she is the lowest member of the family.
I don't know if this will help but that is what my dh suggested. Best of luck!

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J.F.

answers from Phoenix on

I am an Office Manager in a Pediatric Office. We have seen many dog bites (sadly). Virtually ALL the parents of the children who were bitten by their own pets said that the dog had shown some aggression (ie: barring teeth, snapping etc.) before the final attack. We've seen children with their faces nearly bitten off, noses bitten off, horrible scars and the majority of them were bitten by Pitt Bulls or Rotweillers. Parents said the dogs were "wonderful pets" before this incident. ALL the parents had the dogs disposed of after this. My own son owned a wolf hybrid dog. It was a beautiful dog but I worried about my grandkids. Sure enough, the dog snarled and snapped at one of the kids. My son went over to scold the dog and it turned on my son and nearly killed him. I have 2 dogs that are my babies....a lab mix and a doxie. They have NEVER snapped, growled or bitten anyone. They are wonderful with my 9 grandkids. We've had them both for 8 years. HOWEVER...as much as I dearly love my dogs, if they EVER barred teeth or snapped at anyone they would be GONE! My children and grandchildren mean more to many than any dog ever could. Having that dog in your home is a risk not worth it!
J. F.

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M.S.

answers from Albuquerque on

I have been a dog trainer for many years, bred, etc. To tell the truth, I don't blame the dog for snarling. How would you react if someone grabbed you unexpectedly and tried to pull you back?

Despite their reputation, pits are loving and loyal; however, if he snarled at you for pulling him, I would expect him to snarl at your daughter if she was too rough. It seems you have had your daughter and the dog together for a long time. If this is the first such occurrence, I would question Asia's health. A gentle dog does not become aggressive overnight. Perhaps a trip to the vet is in order. If all is OK, I would suggest asking you vet to reccomend training classes where the teacher trains you to train your dog. Good luck!

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A.D.

answers from Phoenix on

Hi M., I agree with the other poster who suggested seeing a dog trainer. If the dog trainer senses agression, she can be the person to tell your husband that your doggie needs a new home. I completely disagree with people who think that certain breeds of dogs are likely to cause harm. It's mostly based on how they are bred. However, there are some dogs that have a hard time returning to a non-agressive state once they have turned mean. Having a baby at home is stressful for any kind of pet (okay, maybe not fish, reptiles, and such ;) ), but I completely understand your worry. I have friend who had the sweetest, sweetest cats. Then, when she was pregnant all of a sudden they started doing things outside their normal behaviors like peeing on the floor, getting in the crib, swiping at hands, etc and this was just while she was pregnant! She tried everything she could think of to rectify the situation, but in the end it was her Dr who suggested she find new homes. She was very sad at first, but now that the baby is here, she is so happy she did it. On the other hand, I have a cat named Sabre because she's a mean kitty and loves to bite (like a Sabre-tooth Tiger...). She is awesome with our son. He lays on her, pulls her fur and tail, kisses her, and does all kinds of things that would cause her to bite/scratch any other person. Good luck, I really do suggest the behavior specialist. That person can either help get your doggy back in shape or tell you to get her out of the house.

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S.B.

answers from Tucson on

I have the same fear with my two dogs - a German shepherd and a very large mix. My daughter is only 2.5 months but we have already discussed that any sign of aggression around her will result in them being put down. I know that sounds harsh but we will not risk the health of our daughter for a dog. Dogs are something that you can protect your children from, cars are not. I was bit in the face three times as a kid, once by my own dog - that is the only one that left a permanent scar. For the sake of your kids I would watch the dog very closely for aggressive behavior and take actions if they appear.

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R.C.

answers from Phoenix on

M., There's no clear answer on this one, but having been in your situation, I want to share what I learned. My husband and I had a beautiful brindle/white female pitbull 2 years before we had our first child and until our little girl was about 14 months. Like you, I was nervous about the situation from the time our daughter was born. My husband was cautious, but a little less convinced that the dog presented a real threat at first. We sought the advice of in home trainers and our vet when our baby was born, but they offered no guarantees that the dog and baby could coexist. To make a long story short, I'll just say that before our baby started crawling, life was managable with the dog. I never left them alone in the same room or allowed the baby to play on the floor, only in a playpen. When the baby began to crawl and toddle around, the stress heightened because the dog just seemed overly fixated on the baby. It wasn't until my husband witnessed our pitbull baring her teeth at our baby that we decided to find her a new home. No home was found after 6 weeks of diligently advertising so we were forced to take her to the dog pound due to the fact that all rescue centers for her breed (from Tucson to Flagstaff) refused her due to her difficulty coexisting with small children. They all said "Put her down." I cried for hours after taking her, but since she has been removed from our home we have had a huge reduction in stress and anxiety and we have enjoyed our second child's development much more. My husband and I have only one regret. We wish we had gotten rid of her sooner.
Pitbulls are wonderful dogs, but sometimes not suitable for small children. If you think your dog poses a threat or you've witnessed agressive behavior towards the baby, choose your children's safety over the dog and find a new home for your pitbull. A dog is replaceable, a child is not. Don't wait for your dog to bite before you act.
R., midwife mom of 2

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D.P.

answers from Phoenix on

Yikes- first of all I have heard that tugging on a dogs tail can harm them and really hurt. IT is in their spinal cord. I am sure it hurt when you tugged, why she showed her teeth. We personally have 3 dogs and they are great but I would never ever leave them in the same room as the baby. Did he see the article of the baby killed in mesa. My friends are personally friends of theirs and never ever thought that it would happen. Maybe talking to a vet or animal behaviorist will help out. I know it is tough but sometimes people think that their dog is so loving and that might be the case but they are still an animal and you can never trust them. It does not mean you dont love them it is making sure you dont put the animal in a position to react with instinct. I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with this- you just do what you can to keep the baby away from the dog.
Hang in there,
D.

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C.L.

answers from Phoenix on

If you are feeling afraid about a potential bad situation with your dog and your child, I think that you should follow that instinct.

Recently, one of my friends just had an accident in her home. She has an Australian Shepherd. He has always been good with her kids. One day, her child was playing around and she kind of jumped on him while he was sleeping. In reaction, the dog turned around and bit her - in the face. The daughter had to have 18 stitches in her chin and neck. We know that the dog isn't agressive, but it is still a dog, and even though the daughter has been warned to leave the dog alone while sleeping, you can never watch your kids 100% of the time.

While it's true that more people get hurt in car accidents every day, you are still going to take precautions - you still put on your seatbelt, and obey traffic signals.

Anyways. If it were me, I think that I would do everything I could to take the proper precautions - especially with little ones in the home.

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D.D.

answers from Phoenix on

I think you are right on track. Your dog whatever the breed should never show it's teeth at you. Now if you pulled it's tail and it hurt the dog not real sure about that. But I have 3 mutts and my daughter is a year old and she grabs onto their behinds as they walk by and they take her for a ride. If they so much as showed an ounce of aggressiveness torward me ever I know they would do the same to her at some point. I don't do what if's either. So I really do feel for you. But my baby comes first. I am here to love, nurture and protect her and sometimes we have to make hard decisions based on the love of our baby. You may be able to find a very loving home for your dog. One without children. Ok so now let me share a true story with you. My friend Rebecca was engaged to this guy and they had a Rottweiller that was their baby, they all lived together. Loved him to pieces. They bred him and kept one of the puppies a little female. Well one D. this male decides he doesn't like the puppy anymore for whatever reason and he went after her mawled her, the puppy didn't survive. Then the dog turned on my friend Rebecca and mawled her from ankle to shoulder, so badly that one of her arms kept breaking even years after she had a rod put in it and everything because the bone wouldn't heal, it was crushed. Her fiance hid the dog from authorities at one of his friends houses, this dog ended up biting I think 3 more people during it's life. It just could not quit and at one point that dog was sooo loving, but he just snapped. When Rebecca was able to leave the hospital she was no longer engaged, her fiance chose the dog over her. I am sorry to have to share this story with you but just know it can happen, it doesn't mean it will but only you know your comfort level and if your dog knows you fear it, he will take advantage of you also. They are just animals and some just have that type of make-up. Good luck.

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M.B.

answers from Albuquerque on

M.,

I can understand completely where you are coming from. I had the same concerns about my youngest when he started walking and our pit mix. She is a great dog but when he started walking she was still very young. She loved to try to get in his face, and her tail is wild!!! Before he started walking we started trainging her about where she could be and where she can't be. It can be challenging but you have toshow her that you are in charge. Does your older dsughter pull on her? If she can take an older child doing this and not snarl or nip at her your little one will be fine. If you still have concerns try training her. There are a lot of different books and places that you can go. I would try this before letting go of your precious pet. If this does not work then maybe it is time that she needs a good home.

Good luck.
M.

T.C.

answers from Albuquerque on

Hi M.,
I first want to say I have nothing against Pit Bulls as a breed. In fact, all the problems you describe could happen with a Labrador - and plenty of other breeds.

We have two 60 Lb "pound puppies," from before we had children (Lab/chow and lab/shepherd). I'm big on behavior-training (dogs and kids, lol), and our dogs were *never* allowed near our children as infants. We had to shut a lot of doors, and put up a lot of baby gates, but no matter how sweet and loving our big, sweet dogs are, we don't want our kids to grow up afraid of dogs from constantly getting run over, knocked down, tail-whipped, etc.

Since your dog is nipping you, I would take this very seriously. This is aggressive behavior that can easily escalate if you don't learn how to nip it in the bud.

There are excellent dog-behavior experts out there, and really crappy ones, so find the right person, but now is the time to take action. You dog will thank you (with wet kisses!)
t

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C.E.

answers from Las Cruces on

Hey M., I didn't read all the posts on here but I know there are a lot of mixed feelings. I don't know much about pitbulls but I do know that dogs are products of their training whatever the breed. Some breeds are more aggressive than others and training needs to be tailored to that. We have an 8 yr old female rot and she's wonderful, not aggressive at all, and a good family dog. My husband has her well trained. My 4 year old and 10 month old ride her like a horse most of the time. If your dog is not trained to know her place or deal with children, then you need to take immediate measures to do so or find the dog a new home. Dog attacks are scary and once they show aggression, it begins a nasty habit. Your husband is letting the dog rise in the pack over you by defending her. That is totally inappropriate. Good luck and update us on your situation.

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A.T.

answers from Phoenix on

If there's any doubt, find your dog a loving home somewhere else. Adjust to having a baby again without the stress of a dog posing a threat.

If you choose to keep the dog, never ever leave them alone in a room together just in case. You would never want to take chances with your baby.

We had a huge 90 lb. mix, but we kept him when the babies came along because he was extremely gentle. I never had to face what you are facing. I'm sure it is very stressful for you.
I hope you will make a wise decision that fits with your family.

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D.H.

answers from Phoenix on

I have a friend who had a pitbull for several years while her children were young. Everything seemed to go well for a number of years - like you were saying, then one day the kids were playing with the dog - like always - and it bit one of them in the face. The child was hospitalized and had extensive plastic surgery. Not to mention that he was afraid of dogs after that - and the dog was put down. I love dogs and even had a great dane when I had small children, but I would not have a pitbull with small children - ever. Some people would go ahead and keep the dog, but away from the children in an enclosed pen. But I completely understand what you are talking about. When your husband asks about driving the car, ask him if he would put the children in the car without seats or seatbelts, then go to a place like New York, where the drivers don't obey the traffic laws. If he wants to put them in seatbelts and be in a place where they obey the laws, then the dog has to obey the laws and stay out of the rooms where the children are. The children can go to see the dog with you, but the dog is not to see the children without you at any time. You guys will have to work it out, but I'm with you. Why take the chance?

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C.D.

answers from Phoenix on

Look at the history of the dog. Has she snapped, nipped or bitten a human before? It really does sound like a problem. And she's not understanding that you're an alpha dog just like your husband, as she thinks she can growl at you and get away with it, and what's worse, your husband isn't protecting YOU, and undermines your authority. That's bad..will he do it w/the kids, too? Who does he love more?

I share your concern. It's valid. I don't like pits, but I'd worry about this with ANY dog, including a chihuahua. His rationalization is way off. A car isn't a ticking time bomb, but it's sounding like the dog is. On the other hand, if the dog has NO history of aggression, she is probably stressed w/the sounds, smells and attention of a new baby. Animals get pretty jealous and depressed. Either way, that dog needs to be taught that under no circumstances should she threaten. And your husband needs to do it with you. If this dog is so important to risk the kids' lives, there's a problem. If maybe this dog is always docile, maybe she felt sick that day. That's not an excuse, but I'd get her into an obedience class right away and make your husband attend so he learns something. And he has to provide PROOF that he went to all the required classes and will do the follow through at home.

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C.K.

answers from Tucson on

It seems that Asia probably showed you her teeth when you tugged her tail, because it hurt and/or suprised her - and it was her first reaction. Since she doesn't have the ability to talk or use facial expression (the way we do) it was natural for her to do what she did to let you know what she thought.

I'm not sure if you're nervous because of her breed (specifically) or just in general for being a dog and the reasons you cited. But, no one will really know how she'll do with a baby until the time comes and she has the opportunity to prove herself one way or the other. She may prove to be very gentle and protective of the new baby as he becomes more mobile. But, you'll have to follow your own heart and see if you want to discover that or not ;)

In the meantime, I would suggest training. A great show is on tv called, "It's Me or the Dog" and she has wonderful tips - try to TiVo it!

Best,
C.

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E.J.

answers from Phoenix on

I hate to say it but you need to get rid of the dog, I know dogs are considered family and it will be difficult but not even comparable how difficult (and guilty) you would feel it something did happen. Every news story you hear of the aggressive breed dogs (not just pits) all the owners say 'oh the dog was so good, never did anything like this before, he is great with children I just don't know why this happened' none the less it happens. Your husbands comment I find irrelevant comparing aggressive dogs and driving cars! Driving is a necessity, owning a dog is not. You are to worry about your baby, no one want to hear another baby mawling story on the news because it is totally preventable! You have a very tough desicion, especially because your husband doesn't understand. I wish you the best of luck, best wishes for Asia where ever she may live and to your whole family, be strong!

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T.T.

answers from Phoenix on

You are very much entitled to worry about your childs safty!! It is a good thing that you are concerned. How ever I dont think your loving family pet should be given away. Have you thought about training your dog?? We used Homestead, here is the link to their website:
http://www.homesteadkennelsaz.com/index.html
We have a 130 pound Rodesian Ridgeback that they trained for us and he is just fine with the kids laying, poking, pulling, kicking all over him. (before training he was a holy terror!!!) We have 4 children who learned to crawl with him and he knows to watch out for them. They will help you estabilsh dominance over your dog. You are the master and your dog will obey as such after she is trained. Good Luck!!

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S.P.

answers from Albuquerque on

Go with your gut feeling. THese are your children. I completely support your heart and observations. We know our dogs like we know our children. S.

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A.R.

answers from Tucson on

First get a lot of info about the pitbull from computer. See if you can find statistics on injuries from pits. State facts to your husband not emotional responses. Then ask for his input or what would he suggest to make sure the children are protected.
This is a very real concern as I know 2 children with scars on their faces--a brother and a sister--from playing with a pitbull. Most of them are truly loving dogs and I know of 2 that have the friendly loving disposition. I like you would be very concerned. i feel your husband thinks you are just wanting to get rid of the dog. This is a macho dog and helps some men feel more powerful. Maybe you and hubby could find a compromise somewhere.
I really hope you find a solution as this is a real fear.

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L.R.

answers from Tucson on

One question... was this your husbands' dog or was this a dog that BOTH of you picked out and happy with? The fact that dog went to show his teeth at you and growled as you tried to remove him from a bedroom and your husband protected him is a big sign! Pitbulls are not to be excused from bad behaviour and bad husbands aren't neither :-)
What would your husband do if you took the dog to the pound just one day when he was at work?
Maybe his priorities aren't yours and you need a serious talk and less "arguing".

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M.O.

answers from Phoenix on

Hi M.,
I can see both sides of your problem here. I personally own an American Bulldog, which is pretty similar to a pit in strength, athleticism, and potential agression, but about 50 pounds heavier (my dog weighs 118 lbs). I also have a 14 month old. There are some important keys to dog ownership, ESPECIALLY when you are talking about such a powerful (and WONDERFUL) type of dog. These guys are natural pack leaders, so obedience training is important, but more important is dominance training. If your dog knows you are in charge, that's it! My dog would NEVER and has NEVER growled or bared his teeth in any defiant or aggressive way. It sounds like you should try and go back to the basics with your pooch to firmly and clearly establish yourself and your kids as her leaders. More importantly, never ever ever leave your babies alone with her. I trust my dog and I have no nerves about him ever turning on me or my baby, but at the same time I am responsible and I don't allow the situation to present itself. I hope you are able to train past your problems, because pit bulls and other bully breeds have definitely unduely been given a terrible reputation. They are amazingly smart, loyal, and sweet natured dogs who just need a strong training hand! At the very least, please don't take her to the pound! There are tons of great breed rescues who can rehome her without the trauma and potential euthanasia of a pound. Good Luck!!!!!

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J.C.

answers from Albuquerque on

Hearing about pitbulls and how they can turn against you, My husband and I both agree that a pitbull is not a pet to have when you have children. Knowing how babies like to play with dogs, Asia might not like it. I hope that nothing horrible happens to you or your children with Asia, but if something does happen, your husband will then understand that you were right. I would be very uncomfortable with a pitbull and my children in the house, even outside. Your husband needs to understand that his family comes first, not a dog that would turn against you and even him.

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