Personal! How Long Did You Wait?

I do not know of any normal woman who is remotely interested in any sexual activity so soon after giving birth. Sorry I cannot help.

I think we did around 4wks both times, that is about as long as we could stand it!! If you feel ready, just go slow and communicate openly. In my experience it is no problem and I had lots of stitches both times and was still good to go!! Congrats on baby 3:)

Pelvic Imfalmmatory Disease -PID. You have sex to soon you can get this and if you want more kids is it worth all of that to risk? That is why they tell you to wait so your body has a chance to heal........wait until your doc says its okay. I probably coud have before I got the ok but I didn't want to chance anything. BTW to all the other mom's that have posted-you are being quite rude. She probably does know by having two before her current one but was asking our opinions on it.....I guess next time one of you mommies have a poopie question, breast feeding question, or whatever you should get the same kind of responses you left here. This is a forum for questions and it shouldn't be judged based on age, sex, religion, race, or whatever!!!!!! Maybe I'm just in a bad mood today.

Boy...nothing like being discreet!!!! I would think that after 3 kids, you would already know the answer to this question....unless, of course, you felt it necessary to tell everybody the statement, "flick the bean"..

Seriously?

Is this for REAL?!?! Or did you 1st born teen son write this?
So immature for a Mom of 3...you should already know the answer to this after 3 kids!

OK.
I'm an old lady.
What does flick the bean mean?
Thank you.

i had sex before my six weeks with both of my kids if you feel up to it go for it. and the reason they say wait is the episiotomy might not heal right. as far as flicking the bean you can do that all day long. :) next time put tmi in the title so people wont be so suprised by what is written. please

hahahaha, i dont think flick the bean means what you you think it does,

id wait

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Seriously?
I'm sorry--this sounds very immature on your part. Get you priorities straight!

Sounds like your husband wrote that and is trying to talk you into it!

They say to wait that long so your body has time to recover. With my second child and c-section i healed faster so we were able to have sex at 5wks. Just had to take it easy thou. Also, needed some lube( Astroglide works the best). Since i had my tubes tied we didnt worry about using a condemn. With my first kid it was extremely painful for the first 8wks. If you try sex, remember to go slow

If you feel ready, you don't have to wait. Just make sure any stitches have fully dissolved and try stretching things out with fingers BEFORE moving on to anything bigger.

My EX husband REFUSED to wait longer than a week and a half with either of my kids, my stitches hadn't even fully dissolved and I can tell you that it hurt almost as much as the delivery had hurt. Good luck and Mazel Tov on the birth of your baby!

I had no tearing (so no stitches to rip or risk of infection)... so my doc said as soon as I wanted to I was free to.

Ok this is an odd question since you've had a couple of kids already! You should know it's best to Waite till dr gives the ok. It typically is best to Waite atleast 4-6 weeks to make sure body is healthy. You should know this already with 2 prior :)

I understand you seem to Havd a " high drive" but still please make sure you are healthy first!

We waited 5 weeks after I had my daughter - but I tore in both directions so we had to give it time to heal first. Your doc will give you the 6 week speech, as did mine, however, mine was also quick to say that not many women wait the full 6 weeks. I say, if your not torn (ie - have stitches that need the time to heal properly and not become infected) go for it when you feel ready - obviously stop if it hurts or you feel as if you tearing some/more. Not sure of all the repercussions - thats a good doc question - but i would assume if there were any serious consequences our docs would make sure we know... As for masturbation - i think it's pretty much the same rules as sex - if your healing, hold off - if not go for it - just not too rough ;oP

Good luck & God bless!

I hate the fact that so many others were so judgmental towards this question. It is an honest question and obviously E. felt comfortable enough to ask it.

I am NOT a dr. and EVERY dr will give you the same 6 week speech - I would just say - be careful. As for myself, I didn't wait the full 6 weeks either and nothing happened to me.

Good luck to you.

I would wait and see what the doc says re. intercourse but I can't see how the other would hurt at all. As for some of the other posters, I can't believe how up tight they are. This is a forum for mums, it's not like you posted this on a kids website, and I think you used discreet language. It's their problem not yours, and good for you that you have a healthy sex life. I seem to remember that you get quite a lot of rude comments to questions you post on here, I'm surprised you still put up with it to be honest. Just remember that there are a lot of closed minded people out there. To say no normal woman would want sex this early is such a stupid thing to say, we are all unique and as such have very different sex drives. My cousin had sex pretty much as soon as she got home from the hospital and she was fine. I still think you should talk to your doc first though.

Congrats on your 3rd. My son was born October 3rd so they are probably a similar age.