Period Is 5 Days Late and Pregnancy Tests Are Negative. What Do I Do?

Updated on March 30, 2017
K.S. asks from Lilburn, GA
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I am 16. I know I am young. I just need help. My boyfriend of 2 years and I had sex twice in the beginning of March. We used protection. He says he checked the condoms. Yesterday and the day before I took a pregnancy test. Both came out as negative. I did take medicine recently for a cold and my anxiety medicine got increased in the beginning of the month, but it was a very small increase. I'm really confused and scared. I'm stupid for doing this I know that. I need help.

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So What Happened?

My period did come after a week. I'm still going to go to the doctor and get put on birth control. Thank you for all the support. Especially those who didn't judge me and helped instead. I appreciate it. Maybe one day, many many years from now, i'll be on here talking about planned kids. Thank you.

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answers from Washington DC on


Welcome to mamapedia.

You need to talk with your mom and go to the doctor and have a blood test.

I really think you need to stop having sex. You're obviously not ready for the responsibility/consequences of your actions. I'm sorry - that's not what you want to hear but it's a fact.

You need to get your stuff together. You sit down with your mom and tell her what's going on and ask her to take you to the doctor for a blood test. Then stop having sex. If your boyfriend REALLY loves you? He doesn't need to have sex with you for you to prove your love.

You can wait a week and take another test. But really? Stop stressing. You can't change anything right now. Planned Parenthood does NOT offer pre-natal care. They only offer pregnancy tests and abortions. I've called for another mother who lives in GA and her daughter is pregnant.

You need to breathe. Stop stressing. Get a blood test.

Feel free to send me a message. You're not alone.

Good luck!

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answers from Boston on

Good for you for reaching out for help, and for showing enough maturity to say that you know you are young. I assume you've come to Mamapedia because you aren't sure who you can talk to in your family or real life. You might be surprised that a parent can be more understanding than you imagine. But without knowing your situation, I can't be sure that's the direction you should go.a

You used condoms, which was a good start. Your boyfriend "checked the condoms" - but what does that mean? Before, or after? It's impossible to check for microscopic holes/defects anyway, but there are other things that can go wrong. And (I know this sounds dumb), has he ever been instructed on the proper way to use them to prevent accidents? I used to be a birth control instructor, and we did teach this to people!

As a minor, you have some rights, but not as many as if you were 18. To start, call Planned Parenthood's 800 number and explain that you need some advice. They will not reveal your information to anyone. If there's a clinic near you, they will let you know. They will also refer you to a local clinic that isn't necessarily under the PP name but which does similar work. You can ask for a sliding scale fee.

If you need to see your doctor (even your pediatrician - yes, they deal with kids up to college age), call and see if you can be seen without parental involvement. Probably not - at least not if you want to pay for this using your insurance. So do, please, consider talking to a parent or guardian. They may not explode or rant! You did show a level of responsibility by using condoms, and you didn't just jump into bed with someone - you've been dating for 2 years.

It's really too late to talk about how you "are too young" or "need to focus on your education." You've had sex, and so it's a done deal until you get through this situation.

There are plenty of reasons why a period can be missed - stress, adolescent hormones, even another condition, and certainly a change in medication. So you can certainly call your doctor and say that your period is late and you wonder if the medication can have an effect on that. And pregnancy tests are not always accurate, and sometimes there's just not enough hormone produced by an early pregnancy to make the test come out reliably. You can wait, or you can get a blood test, or you can have a clinic/doctor do it with your first urine of the morning.

If you can't talk to a parent, is there anyone else you can consult? Please don't call all your friends - you don't need everyone involved here. Try the school nurse, your doctor's info line, or (as I said above) Planned Parenthood. I recommend that you ONLY go to/talk to a clinic recommend by Planned Parenthood. There are plenty of organizations with similar names (like "Problem Pregnancy" and so on) which are NOT reliable, don't have medical personnel, and have a major political agenda that does not include giving your accurate info. You don't need value judgments or misleading info - you need facts.

For now, postpone having more sex. Just get your body straightened out before you resume. If you do decide to continue having sex with your boyfriend, please get a really good education on birth control methods and ways to increase the effectiveness of condoms. For right now, you have to assume both sides of the coin: you might be pregnant and need to take care of yourself, and you might not be and need to not get pregnant for real in the interim. I hope that makes sense.

Good luck.

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answers from Boston on

Go to the doctor and get your answer. If its negative then consider this your wake up call and either stop having sex until you and your boyfriend are ready to be parents or get on a better form of birth control but remember that nothing is 100%.

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answers from Portland on

You mention you had a change in your anxiety medication. That can affect your cycle. I'm guessing that's what happened and the stress/worry is further affecting your body.
If it doesn't come in a few days, I would test again - first pee in the morning is what I always did.

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answers from Philadelphia on

Chance are you are not pregnant since the pregnancy test did not detect the hormone that indicates pregnancy. Lots of things, especially stress can cause your period to be late.

At the age of 16 you should use two forms of birth control if you are going to continue to have sex. (I would encourage you to stop having sex until you are capable of caring for yourself and a baby) Also, if you are pregnant you need to contact your doctor immediately since you may need to go off you anxiety meds. Best of luck!

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answers from Norfolk on

Stop having sex until you have an education, a job, are living independently on your own (not in your parents house) and can support raising a child.
If this boyfriend is 'the one', then he should be working on his education and looking to become a good provider for his future family.
If you can hold off having kids for 10 years - you'll both be in a better position to direct how you want your future to turn out.

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answers from Pittsburgh on

ooh honey. I'm sorry. This has got to be scary for you.

Please stop having sex. Even if you get on birth control, it can take a good 30 to 60 days for your body to regulate with it. And even if you do have oral birth control, you still need to use a condom because the oral birth control will not protect you from STDs.

You're 16 and already on anxiety meds. Please. Do not have sex again until you are ready to become a mom. If your partner doesn't understand that? He's NOT worth your time.

Tell your mom that you need to go to the doctor and have an GYN exam. You should be getting regular check ups now anyway. You don't need to tell her you're sexually active, although I strongly suggest you have an open and frank conversation with your mom. She's there to help you.

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answers from Boston on

Well, at least you used protection both times. If you are sexually active you should start on some form of birth control, being that you are only 16.

It can happen that your period is late when you are sick/ immune system is low, or during a stressful time. If you are more then a week to 10 days late then I'd suggest going to the doctor for a check and blood test. If you've taken two pregnancy tests, and they are both negative the only way to be sure if you could be pregnant is a blood test.

Keep us posted on what transpires.

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answers from Atlanta on

I don't want kids nor do I want to ruin my education. I'm posting because I genuinely need help figuring out what is going on.

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answers from Oklahoma City on

Many kids your age ARE having sex with someone they care about. Even 50 years ago you might already be married. I went to high school with girls age 16 and 17 that were married and living with a parent and their spouse. It was really cool how they could say their spouse needed them to come home and they could just leave anytime they wanted.

That said.

You need to be on birth control before you have sex again. You need to be on it for at least a month I believe. Then you could still take precautions such as the condoms just in case. Birth control CAN fail.

Having sex is a huge responsibility, right? You're facing one of the consequences now, fear of a slip up. I suggest you call your doc and ask them if you can make a confidential appointment without your parents. Then maybe you and boyfriend can go to the appointment together.

Finally, please talk to your parents about this. If you think they'd go nuts mad then you know you need to consider that they have their reasons and want what's best for you.

What if you are pregnant? It's a life changing thing. What if you're not? This scare you've had will happen every time you have sex now. I think talking to your mom or dad or aunt or grandma or someone could help you cope with this better.

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answers from Pittsburgh on

What you should do is make an appointment with an Ob-Gyn. If there is a planned parenthood in your area, you can make a low-cost appointment there. Or, tell your mom that you would like to go to her gynecologist (I encourage you to tell her that you are sexually active, but if you won't do that, at least tell her that you're old enough to have an annual appointment with a gynecologist because you are almost an adult and every adult woman should have an annual gynecological exam).

Anything you discuss in your appointment with the doctor will be confidential, and you should talk to your doctor about birth control. Teens should use two forms, for example, Mirena plus condoms.

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answers from Santa Barbara on

It is true that others things besides pregnancy can cause a delay in your period. I can not tell you if you are or are not pregnant. The fact that your test is negative 5 days after you expected to have your period makes me lean towards negative and your period is late for a reason other than pregnancy.

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