Nahh. not really.
I mean, sure if you can afford a new Jag (and the repair bills to go along with all the maintenance they require, and a spare vehicle to drive while the Jag is in the shop) then you obviously have a good income stream. But, for the more minor things that people SEE? (purses, shoes, clothes, vacation pictures, etc)... I don't think anyone "must be rich" to afford any of that stuff.
I could have all that stuff, too, if I put it on my credit card. And who's to say that the person you are seeing didn't do just that? I'd rather have a $0 balance on my credit card, and wear my Levi's and carry my LG phone (not an iPhone) that doesn't have a matching data plan. That stuff isn't important to me.
When I see a young, single mom with fresh manicures and designer sunglasses, I do wonder if she has a college fund for her designer dressed baby and a good health insurance plan for them, though.
We have a pool (and it isn't behind a mobile home), but that doesn't make us rich. My husband's car is almost 10 years old and my own is 7 years old, both with OVER 250,000 miles on them. They aren't premium vehicles, either. But they are comfortable and get the job done nicely, so no need to salivate over somebody else's Porsche Cayenne, ya know?
There are some pricey homes nearby (Sea Island, GA... you know.. where they closed all non-resident traffic for the G-8 summit a few years ago?)... Yeah... those folks are probably so rich it is sick. Doesn't affect me, either way. Non-issue. Pretty much anything else you can buy/do with a credit card, but not multi-million dollar real estate purchases.
Usually, when I see stuff that is blatantly bling-y, I wonder if they have been wise or if they have spent their money recklessly. I am not judgmental about it, I just wonder which it is. Because I don't know.
I know that "I" could never bring myself to spend over $100 on a purse. It just isn't a choice I would make. I do believe in spending sufficient funds to buy quality, rather than "saving" by buying cheap and having to re-buy something again and again because it was the cheap one that broke or wore out early. UP to $100, I can do (have done). But I don't do it easily... I contemplate whether I really will like it THAT much more than the $60 purse that is similar....
I don't think of others as rich based on what I see (or don't see). But I admit that I DO tend to see flashy things and take a moment to consider if it says anything about their wisdom or character. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn't mean a thing.
As for what people assume about me? How the heck do I know what they assume? I don't think I own anything that anyone would assume sets me apart as rich. I HAVE felt awkward saying my kids were in private school... but that isn't ownership of something. (AND, THAT can be put on a credit card, too, lol).