New to the Site

Updated on October 20, 2008
J.I. asks from Shepherd, MI
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I am fairly new to this site and was excited to think that I could chat and share thoughts and ideas with other mothers from my community. However, every time I have made a post, no one responds. Why?

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Thank you. I was worried that either my posts weren't showing up or that I was asking wrong questions etc. I just really hoped that I could chat here because I am a new mom and don't have any close friends that are mom's to exchange stories with.

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S.S.

answers from Detroit on

Hi, J.. I've had the same problem a couple of times, but others ~ people jump in with both feet. It just depends on what you want to talk about.

If I can help, I will!

Be well!

S.

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D.S.

answers from Detroit on

Hi J. -

That's too bad that no one has responded. I just sent in my second request; I got about thirty or so responses to my first. I think most people get responses, so don't give up. I have to admit, though, that I haven't been responding as much lately. Partly it's because I see people with similar requests over time and I don't have the patience to respond the same way a second time. I also have triplet boys and I'm feeling like I need to move onto a site that caters to my special situations. It could also be that people are more busy with school. Halloween, Thanksgiving planning, etc....

Dana

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C.J.

answers from Detroit on

Sometimes people don't respond if the same or similar question has been asked a lot in the previous few weeks. Other reasons may be the way you word it. I asked a question about pacifier weaning and got maybe 1 response. Two weeks later I asked the same basic information, but in a totally different way and got over 30 responses.

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V.G.

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I've only been on the site maybe a year, so not horribly new - but not a veteran either. One thing I'm starting to realize is that I don't think we get every question in our daily digest. I'm very busy and haven't taken the time to see if there is a way to pull just the questions posed for any day. So, if your questions aren't in the digest - then they aren't getting to everyone. It may also be that no one has any advice to your questions. I find this one a little harder to believe, but there have been times where I only get one or two responses. Just some thoughts...

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M.K.

answers from Grand Rapids on

I receive mamasource emails everyday. I read through all of the entries each time. It's nothing personal, but I only respond to the entries I have some insight on and think I can help out with. Keep posting, I'm sure you're bound to have something come up that someone can relate to. :)

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H.N.

answers from Detroit on

Hi J.! Sorry to hear that! It has happened to me as well. I am one who doesn't go to the site to see the requesats, I only look at my emails so perhaps that is part of it. If it ends up in an email you may get more responses. Keep posting!!

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C.C.

answers from Grand Rapids on

Sorry about that. I'm not sure what your questions are since for what ever reason they aren't on my front page here. Maybe perhaps it was overlooked. Sorry hopefully we can be more helpful that.

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A.L.

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Dont get discouraged! I personnaly only respond to things that I feel move me from my experiences, and i have all boys, so a little hard to relate to a little gils problems. When you really need us I will be there. Don't worry!

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T.W.

answers from Detroit on

hi J.,

I am new to the site too, so I am starting to read messages. I have a 18 month old boy and a 3 1/2 year old boy. Feel free to send message whenever you like.

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T.Y.

answers from Kalamazoo on

Hi J., I have wrote a few requests and also had no replies. My concern is when I post I don't see the "respond" however, see my request I thought there might be a problem with my input. I do see at least your "respond". Wish I could help, but thought I would at least let you know you are not alone. Some of my questions I thought were truly questionable i.e. MMR shots?

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S.R.

answers from Detroit on

Yes, if your post gets to peoples emails, you'll hear a lot back. I got TONS of replies about Green Bags and not so many over something I thought was more important. I only respond when I feel I have something different to add, too. If someone has posted a reply that about covers it, I'm satisfied. Keep trying!

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K.H.

answers from Detroit on

I am sorry that you have received no responses. Hopefully in the future you will receive responses. I am sure that the lack of responses is not a personal attack on you maybe people were not able to offer good advice regarding your topic so maybe they thought if they could not respond postively or offer good advice it was better not to respond. Check out www.cafemom.com you might like it there.

Have a wonderful weekend!

K.

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K.V.

answers from Detroit on

Hmmm... I don't know why people don't respond to you. Though, I do know if I don't have an answer to a posting or experience then I don't respond. I only saw one of your questions and I don't know what to tell you about where to go in your community for a class or an activity with your daughter. My area has different classes and seminars and activities you can sign up for and pay a very small fee. My son and I have gone to a swimming class, gymnastics, mess-makers, etc.

Good luck

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L.U.

answers from Lansing on

I know that I respond when I have a strong opinion on a topic, or that I have a knowledgable answer to a question. As a busy mom, I do not have the time to respond to every post, and some just do not have issues that I have much to say about. I imagine that lots of moms are wearing that hat on any given day. I would not take any failure to respond personally, but just that your posts did not push the right buttons on who had a few extra minutes that day.
I hope you do not feel slighted...
L.

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C.M.

answers from Detroit on

Hard to say. I don't think all the questions sent in are posted. I read all of the ones I see on the Daily Digest and only participate if it is something I have had experience with. I have 3 grown daughters and two granddaughters. I look forward to the Daily Digest every morning. Keep trying and keep reading the Daily Digest. I have to think that someone may have some of the same questions you do, and the site managers don't post them all. I think the Daily Digest is very informative for all the mamas out there. Keep reading and trying. There's alot of good info flying around from all the mamas. Welcome to the site!!

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C.M.

answers from Detroit on

Hey J.,

Don't be discouraged, it really depends on your questions and if people have either experienced it, or can give you a valid answer to what you seek.

coco

J.M.

answers from Detroit on

Well in my case I don't have a little one anymore (she's 12 now!).But I try and give my advice to every new post that's similar to what I went through with my daughter in her baby/toddler years.I know alot of moms have little ones so I don't expect alot of replies to my questions about a tween girl.If no one responds quickly don't worry.Every mom on here does their best to reply to posts that us mommas have questions to.

Have a great day :)
~J.~

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H.P.

answers from Detroit on

Hi J.! Sorry no one responded to your questions. If I have something helpful to add, I usually do. Anyways, its good to have you and I hope you have better luck with responses in the future. Anytime you want to chat feel free to message me - I have a daughter that is 20 mos (we would like a boy next too!)

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Y.S.

answers from Grand Rapids on

Sorry to hear that. I also love this website. My kids are all teenagers so I can only answer what I can remember about the infant/toddler stage. Hang in there and enjoy.
Yo
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C.H.

answers from Detroit on

This is kinda weird, but when I click on your name (to see your profile) I can see your 2 posts from Thursday. However, when I go to my list of requests (simply by clicking on "requests and responses" in the orange bar across the top of the page) I do not see your requests! So I don't know where your posts are! Perhaps others are having the same issue and no one sees your post to respond to it.

But I will also say that I have had requests with less than 5 responses, but I had another with over 50! It just depends on what people feel like chiming in on!

But welcome to the site, it really is great.

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A.H.

answers from Detroit on

Hi J.
I've found this isn't so much of a chat site. Every time I post something that is not posed in a question format it's deleted. Other than that when I do use this site I look for the ones that don't get many ans and see if I can help. But I'm not here much. You could send a personal response to someone, and get a conversation going that way. I wish you luck, I haven't felt I've had much here.
A. H

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L.S.

answers from Grand Rapids on

I've had that happen too. Sometimes people just don't know the answers to what you've asked. It's nothing personal.Hope you keep on posting.

K.B.

answers from Grand Rapids on

Hey J.!
I just wanted to say that I have had the same problem before, so I e-mailed the people at mamasource and found out that the requests we put in for are randomly chosen for the daily request e-mail that is sent out. I don't actually visit the site all that often, I just look at the requests in my daily e-mail and I'm assuming that is what most others do as well... I have also noticed that if I ask a question during the weekend, I don't get as many responses due to the fact, I'm sure, that most people are busy on the weekends. Hope this helps! Keep asking questions, we're all here to help each other!

K. :)

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E.A.

answers from Detroit on

Okay, I HAVE noticed that when you post a request makes a difference as to whether or not it gets in the email sent out daily. I have made a few requests that have not shown up in the daily email, and I have made a few that have shown up in the email, but no one has responded to. It seems to me that if you post early in the day, your request doesn't make it into the daily email, but sometimes you get responses from people who go to the site during the day and just look at the main request page.
I usually respond to requests that I feel I have some experience in: skin problems, rashes, sleep patterns and habits, feeding schedules, and behavior issues (my daughter went through SEVERE separation anxiety from 18 mos - 2.5 years). I have a 3YO girl and a 6.5 month old boy. I also work for a birth trauma medical malpractice attorney (cerebral palsy, brain injury, Erb's palsy cases) as a legal assistant, so I feel like I've heard A LOT of weird stuff through my job, too. I WON'T respond if I don't have something constructive to say or if I can't say it in a nice way. :)
Good luck! I hope this helps.

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A.K.

answers from Detroit on

Sorry..

I only respond to this that I have a personal experience with and can give a good honest response...

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R.G.

answers from Detroit on

I haven't seen any of your posts but I would love to chat. My email addy is [email protected]____.com

You are more than welcome to email me anytime! :)

R.

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S.F.

answers from Detroit on

Hello J., welcome to the site. I too, love this website. Sorry no one responded. Not sure why, I usually get responses so keep trying. Question for you, "trying for a boy"- what happens if you have a girl?

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T.V.

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What posts did you make? I usually just casually go through the posts and sometimes respond to them.

T. V

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T.F.

answers from Detroit on

I cannot tell you why noone has responded to your posts. I cannot remember seeing any from you though as long as I've been on here. Good luck.

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M.V.

answers from Grand Rapids on

It may depend on your questions :)
I usually only answer ones that I can intelligibly respond to ... or have time for!
However ... I don't actually remember seeing questions from you. But then again, there are so many each day. I am CERTAIN I don't retain them all.
Don't give up.
I find that MOST of the women connected to this have good things to suggest :)
Blessings,
M.

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K.C.

answers from Detroit on

Welcome to the site - sorry people didn't respond - I am new to the site too so now really sure how it works. I also have a baby girl almost 14 months - and I also have a huskey! Good Luck with the site!

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