Need to Let of Some Steam

Updated on November 25, 2008
N.O. asks from Canton, MI
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We enrolled our son in a daycare facility in Livonia. It's a new facility that opened up only a year ago. The reason I like it was because of it's hours of operation. They were open late in the evenings and even on saturday. Saturday was the day I really needed because both my husband and I work that day. We had a babysitter on those saturdays, but her availability on the weekends were not enough for what we need. So I found this place.
I should've listened to my mommy instinct but I think I was desperate for childcare that I decided to ignore my icky feelings about the place. I cant pinpoint what it is about the childcare facility, but it just gave me the creeps at times. My son seemed to enjoy it though. My husband even took a look at it, but reluctantly he chose not to tell me he had the same feel feelings as I. The owner of the facility didn't seem too friendly, and she has a pretty dry personality. Not that thats a bad thing, but it just seemed odd for a daycare facility. I alawys pictured just energetic, exciting people to work with young children.
anyways to make a long story short, we enrolled him for saturdays. we decided to start him off slow and just put him in for about 3-4 hrs at a time on saturdays. He always came home pretty happy, but my child is also pretty easy going and happy kid anyways. Yesterday was the first full day we had him there. from 8 a.m til 4 p.m. I was a nervous wreck all day. I decided to wait till noon to give the facility a call to see how he's doing. When I called, I heard him screaming in the background for me and the caretaker was saying that he's fine, that he just misses me. Then she did the worst thing possible...she put him on the phone. He was begging me to come get him and that he wanted to come home and that he missed his daddy. now this is not like my child at all. We've NEVER had a problem like that. He's never been clingy like that at all. I felt horrible and I left work at about 2 instead of 4 to go get him. I couldn't get there fast enough. I didn't know what to expect when I got there.
Once I got there, a man who i've never seen or met before, let me in the facility. I can only assume he was the husband of the caretaker, which I found it odd he was there. AS soon as i walked in the door he was in my face telling me that my son "doesn't listen, or follow directions. And he just wants things his way and he cried alot and he cries alot anyways. Does he act like that at home??" I was shocked at his tone with me. It was not calm nor gently put. I gave a look that I can only imagine was a death stare and told him that I didn't know who's child he was talking about but that didn't sound like my son at all. He just shrugged his shoulders and walked away. Once I saw my son, he ran up to me and hugged me and asked if we could leave right now. the caretaker told me that he was good today and that he ate and played. pretty much the opposite of what I was told by the man. I got my son and just left as fast as I could.
My husband and I will not be taking him back there. I yet to call this lady and tell her how I feel. I guess i'm just fed up with childcare in general. It's so hard to find great, reliable childcare anymore. I ask my son what happened but he doesn't give me much input.

uggg so frustrating.

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answers from Detroit on

I can only recommend to go with your gut at all times... If you are uncomfortable with the situation or the persons taking care of your child, find another center. You may end up regretting not listening to your 'gut' later. Intuition is stronger than we sometimes realize.

I also recommend asking your son at another time about what occurred. You may have an issue you need to report.

Good Luck~



answers from Detroit on

Hi Nancy,

Somethings sounds terribly off with this man being there this day and your son responding so negatively. I would let her know your feelings about the daycare and the man who was there on the specific day. I am so sorry you had to go through anything like this.



answers from Detroit on

Yeah, I would not take him back either. I am sorry this happened.

Listen to your mommy instinct next time.

God Bless,




answers from Detroit on

Oh my God Nancy. That is horrible! Why is this man even giving you a report on your son if he is not his care provider. I am so happy to hear that you took him out of there. It is so sad because our children are so helpless and are not able to explain what is going on. I just wanted to cry when I read this. How old is your son?


answers from Detroit on

I really hate that you had to go through that experience. But the next time I'm sure you know to trust your instincts. And to be honest with you I would call and tell that "you know what" How i felt and why I felt that way. Because I'm going to tell you, one thing about me that everyone who knows me knows is DON'T F@&* WITH MY SON!!! That is your child and if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything. I don't know where you live but my son ( he's two) is enrolled at Ms. Dee Dee's Schoolhouse in Oak Park,Michigan . He's been there since he was 6 weeks old and I have had no problems and all the other parents are just as trusting and confident in her as I am. She actually teaches the kids the things that they need to know. They are well fed she has a great back yard with bikes, swings and slide and toys. She's reasonable and has the experience (20+ yrs). She is also on here under the local business reviews. I hope that you aren;t totally thwarted towards daycares because there are some good one out there. Good luck!!



answers from Detroit on

I'm so sorry you experienced this.

What was the outcome here? Did you tell them off? Did you report them? The mysterious man at the door??

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