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Hi Christine. I'm new to the group . I have had a stillborn in June 1997, she would have been 9. I was 38 weeks pregnant and the cord was wrapped around her neck. Since then I have gone on 2 have 2 beautiful children Christopher 7/98 and Emily 2/04. Allthought it has been almost 10 years the pain has lessened but will always still be there, I always wonder what my life would have been like if this never happened.
If you need to talk just let me know.

Hi C.,

I know exactly what you are going thru. I gave birth to twin girls on 05/06/1991 and believe me I know it seems like a long time but there is not a year that goes by that I do not tell them happy birthday. They would have been 15 years old. My twin girls I have now knows all about them and they ask me questions but there is not much I can tell them because I never got to see their face Keira lived for a few mintes and Kenyanna was still born, I had a 104 fever and was not supposed to live but God had mercy on me. I pray and ask God to forgive me and to watch over them in heaven. In time it will get a little more easier and since I do not know your faith I want to that God and time will heal all wounds. if you ever need to talk just let me know.

Hi C.,

I am so sorry to hear what happened.. I know the pain you are going through.. I have had a miscarriage, another baby that was born 3 months premature and died 6 weeks later and than had a still born but had no idea until I went into labor.. The cord wrapped around his neck.. I still think of all my children and how old they would be and what they would be doing right now.. I have 3 boys now but the pain is still there.. I still think about them all the time. The pain get less as the years go by but the memory never dies.. If you need to talk more please feel free to e-mail me.

C.,
My husband and I lost our first baby ten years ago. She was stillborn due to a true knot in her umbilical cord at six months gestation. We now have two happy and healthy children, ages 9 and 5 but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of our first little girl and what it would be like if she were here with us. She died right before Mother's Day so that is always a hard day for me and one that I'd prefer to not even celebrate. There is a wonderful online support group called SHARE. They were a huge help to me. Our daughter even has a memorial brick in their babyland now. Check it out - www.shareatlanta.org and feel free to private message me if you ever need to talk.
MaryBeth

C., always know that you are not alone. In October 2005, I had a miscarriage. In July 2004, I almost lost my son during childbirth. He had tied the cord in a knot and wrapped it around his body and around his neck. While I am blessed to have my son, I still wonder and dream of the child I lost last October. I miss and mourn the loss that child that I never got to know. Keep reaching out to others. Although you will always feel the loss of your child, in time it will hurt less. Sometimes part of helping that along is talking to others who have gone through loss. I hope this message board helps you in that process. I, also, would like to recommend looking into a grief support group. I'm not sure where you are located but I know that St. Margaret's Hospital (and probably most of the others in the area) offers a grief support group. It, like here, would be a place you could share your thoughts and emotions without fear of upsetting your loved ones. I hope that my thoughts help you through your healing.

C.,
I'm sorry to hear of your still birth. My husband and my first child was a still birth (40 weeks), born Sept. 3, 2000. Not really sure of the cause, the only thing the doctor said was little to no amniotic fluid, possibly could have laid on the umbilical cord since it was two different colors. Since then we have had 2 beautiful girls the joy of our life. I got through the time by reading The Bible, especially the book of Job. God took everything from him (family (wife and kids), home, etc...) but he never cursed God nor lost his faith. But God turned around and gave him back more than he had at first. I looked at our situation and said God knows best. God only gives you what you can handle so there was possibly other things wrong that we could not handle so God thought this was the best way. Although it gets easier as the years go I still haven't forgotten him and always think about God bringing him back to me (God working a miracle like he did for Lazarus and Elijah reviving the Widow's Son, I Kings 17). Just know that one day you will see your child again.

My heart goes out to you. I think you and your daughter should bake her a cake, and take it to her grave on sat, and eat it together.I am not sure how often you can go to her grave or how difficult it is when you do, but it was a thought. You say you feel lost or no one to talk to kind of...well you can talk to me and honestly anyone on this mamasource sight. Isnt this a wonderful place for us moms?Just enjoy your daughter. I was wondering how are the temper tantrums going as well. You can email me at ____@____.com.

Hi C., I just wanted to say Hi, and to tell you that there are others that know what you're feeling. I had a stillborn son on 12/26/03 and then a premature daughter on 10/10/04 and she died on 10/13/04. If you want to talk, you can feel free to email me at ____@____.com. I run a support group in York for parents that have lost babies, so I can tell you more about that. I find that it always helps to talk, so I can't wait to hear back from you!

I lost 7 years ago, it takes time and having soemone to talk to helps a lot. Join a loss group to talk to others. You shouldn't feel bad, I had 3 healthy little girls there is no reaosn you should feel bad talking about your loss.

C.,
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I have not experienced the same type of loss, but my good friend has....twice. She runs a support group called "Empty Arms" and she would be a wonderful person for you to talk to and relate with. Let me know if you'd like me to put you in touch with her. C.

HI C.
I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I DONT KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO HAVE A STILL BORN , BUT I HAVE HAD TWO MISCARRIAGES. EVERY YEAR ON THE DAY THE PAST AWAY AND THE DAY THE SHOULD OF BEEN BORN I GET REALLY EMOTIONAL. I TELL THEM ALL THE TIME I LOVE THEM AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON THE DAY THEY SHOULD OF BEEN BORN. I HAVE HAD 2 CHILDREN NOW MY DAUGHTER IS 3 AND MY SON IS 1 ... MY DAUGHTER IS A MIRACLE. SHE WAS BORN PREMATURE. SHE WAS 2LBS 15 OZ. IM AM VERY LUCKY TO HAVE HER WITH US TODAY. THE PAIN NEVER GOES AWAY OR IS FORGOTTEN. I WOULD DO WHAT CELEST SAID MAKE A CAKE YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER AND CELEBRATE HER . GOOD LUCK.

Hey C., although I didn't have a still birth, I did suffer a miscarriage. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through! People said stupid things about "well, maybe the child would have had disabilities", which was so annoying because I would have loved that child regardless! It has been over four years, and I now have a son who is almost three. But, sometimes I get so depressed because of the loss. I would be lying if I said it goes away (the pain), because it doesn't...it just gets easier to deal with! Hang in there, and know that everything happens for a reason (which is also annoying advice I got back then...but it's true), and hopefully some day you will be blessed w/ a child again:)

Hi! I didnt have a still born baby but I lost my 17 month old daughter 5 yrs. ago & it seems like every year it gets worse. Just thinking of what she would look like & that she would be going to school now. Send me a message & I will gladly give you my phone # to talk.