I have a bias the other way. I see so many women in my life and in my friends that stay home but their family does without. Mom being home isn't more important that your kids having food on the table or having their basic needs met.
And the moms deserve to have their needs met and some of their wants given to them. We deserve to have a happy life.
So if a woman needs to go back to work so her family can have enough food or insurance or better lives or even a vacation then she should get over that "I want to stay home" attitude and get out and get a job.
If a woman wants to have a savings account for an emergency but hubby doesn't make enough or spends too much to put any money aside then she needs to get out there and get a job. If their basic needs are met then when the kids are in school she can go to work and save her income.
I think it's nice if ONE OF THE PARENTS can stay home, they take care of the kids and do a lot that contributes to the home.
If the family income is where one of the parents can stay home all day and they can still pay tithes, fully, plus give offerings when they feel the desire, and they can put at least 10% in savings and have full health coverage insurance and good drivable vehicles and all the clothes everyone needs and all needs ARE met. Then yes, one of the parents can stay home easily.
But if the kids need college money or grocery money or they need tutoring or dental work that isn't covered by the health insurance or sports or other activities then that parent might need to think about going to back work when they are all in school.
If parents have to wait for the kids to finish before they can eat so they can make sure the kids have enough, if the kids get to bathe first to make sure there is enough shampoo or soap for their bath or if the parents have to wash the kids clothes first to make sure there's enough money to do their own clothes then that parent needs to go out and get a job to help their family.
Now, about working out of the home. If a parent that is staying home can take in one more child to watch and not be breaking state child care laws then that's an option to make a little money but be sure to claim it on the taxes. That parent will surely want to claim that child care credit on their own taxes.
If the parent can sew, they can take in ironing, mending, custom items, and more. They understand how garments are put together and they know how to work the seams and iron the garments properly.
They can make quilts, bibs and binky straps and more to finish out a layette, a seamstress mom can construct clothing and sell them at craft shows or online on Etsy or Ebay. A collector will have a stash of items they can sell to get extra money, they can find a way to make money.
So if a parent who stays home just because "I want to stay home with my kids" and they're making their family do without so they can be home all day then I have no compassion for them. They need to get out and find a source of income to help their family have a better life.
I know, I sound mean but I'm not really mean.
If you need to go to work then don't let anyone make you doubt your decision.
Child care is a highly regulated business. Sometimes things happen. But it'snot often and when it does many of us that work in that field wonder just how that happened because we know how things work in that situation. It's just so unlikely those media reports are telling the whole story. Please don't read those reports and thing child care is horrible and dangerous. It's not. It's usually extremely safe.
Your child is nearly old enough to stay home alone all day with just herself. Kids as young as 8 are latch key kids and they come home and stay home on off school days and they learn how to do that through a slow process of learning home alone time.
You go for a walk around the block and leave kiddo home alone. You can walk back and forth a few times on your block and even keep your home in sight...
It's hard to take that first step but it is necessary.
The main thing I look at is this. Child care usually don't keep kids older than 10, that's often the cut off because those kids should be able to come home from school and watch themselves for a couple of hours, especially if they have neighbors who are home and good friends.
When a child is 12 they can babysit and watch others, how can they do that successfully if they can't watch themselves yet?