Need Help Potty Training......

i had the same problem with my son when he was about the same age. i took a 3 day weekend and put him in nothing but underware and gave him tons to drink the whole day. the first day was hard, he would wet himself but once i noticed him going i would rush him to the potty and have him sit on it. if he peed in the potty he would get a snack. (he loved that idea) at night the same thing, he was in underware and we had to change him a few times. the next day it was better when he had to go he would tell me. we had a few accidents but nothing major. by day 3 we were done with the potty training and i could take him out in underware. but just remember when they say they have to go RUN to the bathroom they can't hold it long. this really worked great with us.

When I was in the process of potty training, Id get a sippy cup of drink and after a few minutes of drinking that put them on the potty, with the cup handy in case they just want to sit there. my daughters thought it was fun to have a book in there to look at. I also made a huge deal when they went in the potty, even a tiny bit. I got some pantys to put over their pull up to make them feel more like a big girl when they were done.

I was having the same problem with my 3-year old son; actually, we're not completely trained yet; but I started putting underwear on him all the time. If he wet them, I would change them, but I didn't go back to the pull-ups. He has gradually started using the potty on his own because he knows that wetting the underwear (and his clothes) is pretty darn uncomfortable, plus he doesn't like the interruption in his playtime. Like I said, it is still a work in progress, but he goes to the potty now more often than in his pants.
Hope this helps!

About me:
I am a single mother, 34 years old, living in Hoover. I am a full-time employee at CVS, but I am almost finished with school, so hopefully, I will be working in a doctor's office full-time soon. My only child is a 3 year old boy whom I adore!

Hi, I am a mom of two and I am a childcare provider. I have helped lots of children learn to use a potty. My biggest advice is -- Dont do ANYTHING!!! All you have to do is show your child the potty, and let them know what it is for. For example- when you go let her be with you, tell her what you are doing on the potty and that that is how big girls go potty. Parents seem to get a little too eager for their child to be potty trained, when the more you force it, the more problems that arise. All you have to do is introduce the potty. The rest is up to the child. The fact of the matter is- in order for a child to be able to use a potty they have to have control of the muscles used to hold it, as well as understand the sensation of having to go. The average age for this to happen is 3. Boys are often even later.

It just doesn't sound like she is quite ready yet. Just because she doesnt like a wet diaper does not mean she is completely ready. It is a start that she knows right AFTER she wets her diaper, now you wait til she knows right BEFORE she wets her diaper. For instance, when my daughter said to me, "I go peepee!" I then knew she understood she knew when she was going. shortly after she was telling me "I gotta go peepee!" At that point she wanted to sit on the potty. If you just wait patiently your child will train herself. I promise, it will happen in her own time. Parents dont like to believe me when I tell them their child will do it on their own, and that I did nothing to potty train my daughter except show her the potty, and praise her when she got it down pat, the rest she did herself and potty training was a breeze! As a child care provider of 11 years I have used this method on many children, all with the same end result!

Good luck!

L.,
Have you tried the potty that plays music. It worked for my girls when they where little. When they when potty it played music. They loved it.. Also try going getting childrens books about going potty.. Good luck and have patients it takes time...

J.

L., you have to stay consistent. Stop using the pullups, they are just glorified diapers, and definately stop using the diapers, all together. Purchase her some panties that have her favorite character, i.e. Dora, and remind her not to pee on Dora... this has worked with three of my nieces. Allow time for accidents, as this is a process, be patient. Also, pick a few times during the day to just put her on the potty and be consistent with it. Good luck

I well know how you feel my 3 yr old refuses to fully potty train,sometimes she will go on the potty but always pees in her pants no matter what i do. my mother n laws friend owns a daycare and she told me the way she does it is everytime the child goes in her pants she spanks them and makes them sit on the potty a few minutes she also told me to ask her every 15 minutes if she needs to potty or to put her on the potty.

I DONT KNOW IF THIS IS ANY HELP BUT I HAVE A 4 YEAR OLD BOY WHO I THOUGHT WOULD NEVER POTTY TRAIN HE DIDNT EITHER UNTIL SHORTLY AFTER HE TURNED 3. HE PICKED UP THE PEEING ON THE POTTY QUICKLY BUT THE POOPING WAS HARD. I HAD TO CATCH HIM SQUATTING IN HIS SPOT A GRAB HIM YANK THE DIAPER OFF AND QUICKLY SIT HIM ON THE POTTY. TRUST ME, THIS ISNT ALWAYS A CLEAN TASK. FINALLY AFTER A FEW TIMES OF THAT HE STARTED GOING.

The only thing that worked with my daughter was not letting her wear any panties, diaper or anything (around the house of course). I would just let her wear a dress or long shirt. If she had to pee and it would start running down her leg she would take off to the bathroom. There were a couple of accidents to clean up, but it didn't take long. That was the only thing that worked with her. Good luck.

i am will tell you what i did with my daughter and she was potty trained at 16 months. when she started that whole handing the diaper thing to me, i went out and bought the potty and some "special" treats from the dollar store. I let her play with the potty for the first couple of days so she knew it would not hurt her in anyway, after the first time she used it there was no more playing with it of course, but i gave her the "special" item and she liked that. For the next week or two I would give her something everytime she went potty whether it was a sticker a cookie or a toy she didnt care it was just a reward for doing something good. Then i tappered off on the rewards and she didnt really notice because going potty was a habit for her..

This is advice I give to anyone asking about potty training, because it's almost guranteed to work, but it takes time. You will need to dedicate your day to this, so if possible, try to find a babysitter for your 8 month old for a day. Start in the morning with your daughter loading her up with LOTS of liquids. Then start taking her every 15 to 30 minutes to the potty. (You may want to consider using regular cloth underwear this day so she can feel and you can see if she starts to go.) If she doesn't go, say "that's ok, we'll try again later", but give no other attention or affection. If she does, literally make it a party! Sing, dance, get some party hats and balloons, maybe even a cupcake. Call Daddy or Grandma or an aunt or uncle, someone she loves, and make a big deal about it with them (you may want to prepare them in advance!), and even call one of her favorite cartoon characters (Elmo, JoJo, Clifford, whoever... obviously a friend or family member who can pretend on the phone.) REALLY make this a HUGE deal so she will WANT to do it again. Now of course, you can't do this EVERY time she goes, but do it the first time, and then gradually subdue the "party" each time after that during the day. I bet that by the end of the day she will be going by herself. On following days, continue to really praise her and show her plenty of attention when she uses the potty so it will continue to be something she is proud of and associates with happy times.

One other helpful thing to try, maybe in combination with the "party", is the "potty training Elmo". You can get it at Toys-R-Us and I think Wal-mart. It comes with an Elmo doll with removeable underwear, a toy potty and a potty-training book for Elmo. When you press the hand or whatever to turn him on, he says he's got to go. If you get his underwear down and sit him on the potty in time, he cheers and plays music. If not, he says something like "Oh oh, maybe next time." Anyway, this might be a way to encourage your daughter to try.

Well, I hope this helps. Good luck!

My daughter was about the same age and I was at my wits end! I took her to the grocery store (to the candy aisle) and let her pick out a bag of candy. When we got home and we brought the potty out and I explained that every time she used it she could have her treat! She was so excited and she used it continuously just to get her treats! We also made a big deal of it every time by doing the "potty dance" and singing and dancing when she was done! Worked like a charm! Best Wishes!

The way I had to potty train my daughter was putting regualr "big girl panties" on her and if she went in them, I would tell her I was going to have to put her back in her baby diapers. She wanted to be a big girl, so that is what worked for me. She did have her accidents, but what child doesn't.

I would check out www.pottytrainingsolutions.com they carry a product called PODs, it is for use with children who are getting close to being potty trained but need an extra push. It works differently than a diaper or pull up, but it will help with accidents in panties. I swear by them and suggest them any time someone says they are in your position. They worked great for my daughter and I have several friends who have had success using them.

Here is what I did. I started with the morning hours before afternoon nap w/ the 5 layer panties on her and just kept taking her to sit on the potty like every 20 minutes or so. When nap time came I put the diaper on. If I was going to be at home in the afternoon then I would do the 5 layer again. It didn't take long of every morning starting w/ the 5 layer panties. When she went the entire day without an accident the diapers were out the door. Every child is different, but repetition, consistency and asking worked for her. Good luck & don't sweat it. The accidents will happen, but she'll get it.

We tend to have all of these ideas about when our children "should" do certain things. I can tell you from my experience - my daughter will be 3 this week and has just become potty trained in the last month or so - the bigger deal you make the more defiant about it they will be. I tried treats, taking her places, cheering, etc. She didn't care what I gave her or did for her. She went to the potty when she was ready and not a minute before. All kids are different so what works for one may not necessarily work for another. You can be sure that your daughter will go on the potty eventually. In the meantime be patient, persistent about introducing the potty, talk to her about it; but don't put too much pressure on her. This is a huge change and adapting to anything new is overwhelming for most children. She doesn't have the capacity to understand why she needs to go on the potty all she knows is all of a sudden she's supposed to stop going in the diaper (which is what she's always done). Good Luck and don't stress it'll happen.

Hey L.
I am 24 year old single mother of a 29 month old son and we have been potty training as well so I know how difficult it can be. I started by letting him go to the bathroom with me and seeing what to do. I would also let him flush the toilet (it seems small but he loves it; he feels independent). After doing that for some time (and keep in mind, at this time I was not pushing the issue with him; I just wanted him to be familar with the process),I bought a poster with stickers for potty training. He gets a sticker everytime he uses the bathroom in his potty chair and he gets to put the sticker on the poster (it's also at his level so he can see his progress). When he would pee, I would always praise him and give him hugs and tell him how proud I was of him. That seemed to spark his interest in it and soon would come to me and tell me that he needed to potty (now, not everytime...but a few times a week, and sometimes he really didn't have to potty). I still kept diapers on him until this summer and I moved to pull-ups. Now it's more of a schedule. I know about 20-30 minutes after he drinks a full glass of liquid (4-6oz), he will need to use the bathroom. So, I ask if he needs to potty and of course the answer is "No" but I still take him. I'll say things like, "Well, Mommy needs to go, want to race to the bathroom", or "Will you come with Mommy?" He always does and he always uses the bathroom at that time. Too, keep in mind, books say when kids can take a nap and not wet themselves during that time that they are ready for potty training. So I would just make sure she is ready (not to say that she's not but just make sure) I made an effort to let Kade let me know when he was ready. Now Kade is in daycare and just last week I began to put him in underwear "big-boy pants" is how I refer to them to Kade. We started this because through-out the day he would not wet his diaper. He did this for a week, so him and I went and bought him underwear. I let him pick out what he wanted (kind of like a prize for him). The way I explained it to him was, "Now Kade, these are your big-boy pants and you're not suppose to pee-pee on spiderman. Now when you feel like you need to potty, let someone know so he/she can take you to the bathroom. Do you understand?" He wanted to wear them the first night we got them and I allowed him too (just knowing he would pee in them) but he didn't and he has done great. Now, yes there are times during the night and at daycare that he will pee in them. But that's okay...it's all part of it. And yes there are nights that I put him in pull-ups. But I also ask him what he wants to wear because this is a time of independence.When he picks underwear...I explain the idea to him again. In your situation, keep the pull-ups on at night until you see a progress that you are comfortable with. Praise her when she does good, and when she does pee in them, explain that they are big-girl pants (in lack of better terms)and it's ok if she does. I sure hope this helps you out and if I've said anything that you don't quite understand, please don't hesitate to shoot me a message.

Good luck!
K. B.

I don't know if I have any advice, just know that you are not alone. I have a 2 1/2 year old as well. I have her in school 3 days a week and she uses the potty ALL day at school, but as soon as she walks in the house she pees on the floor. We had 2 really good days last week here at home where she went on the potty all day. My husband has been working in New Orleans since the storm and we go visit him the 4 days she is not in school and I think the moving back and forth confuses her. I just can't figure out why some days she is fine and others it seems like I spend my whole day cleaning up pee :-) I hate to put her back in pull ups because it makes me think I will have to start all over again and I certainly don't want to do that. GOOD LUCK!

I have two little girls also trying to do the potty thing. My oldest is almost 3 and also takes off her diaper and my littlest is 22 months and mimicks the same. We keep the potty in the bathroom and everytime I go I make atleast the bigger one try. I also try to put the potty in front of the tv. We are struggling also so please don't give up or feel frusturated cause it is normal. I am out of ideas also. Good luck! Kim

hey, i have two kids the oldest is 9. when i started potty training her she use to do the same thing. what i started to do was regulate when she drank and when she did not even 10 minutes i had her sitting on the potty. i always had a bad of goodies that she got only if she went. i used skittles with her. after learning that she was rewarded everytime she would just go sit on the potty and call me. try it. hopefully it will work.

When training my son, we used a special book. Its was a pop up book that he only got to look at when he sat on the potty, if he sat there long enough he would eventually go potty and then we would clap and say what a good boy he was and then he got a cookie. I know that people would disagree with using food as a reward but it worked like a charm. It only took about 2 weeks and he was done. Good luck!!!

I had a fit trying to potty train my son, I tried rewarding with m&m's, and putting fruit loops in the potty and playing "sink" the fruit loops, nothing worked. One day he said he wanted a race car big boy bed. I told him I wanted him to go potty. He took his diaper off, used the potty and said "where's my race car bed". I took him with me to go get it a week later, once he kept going consistantly. Maybe next time she wants something, tell her you want her to potty. Hope it helps!

I had the same problem with my oldest son. Turns out pull ups were the issue. There was no need for him to put the effort in, because he was already protected from wet, but I didn't want to have to clean up the mess he made without the pull ups.
So, here is what I ended up doing. I took him out of pullups and put him in underwear. If he peed, I made him clean himself up!! He had to change his clothes himself and wipe himself down with diaper wipes. then I would give him a bowl of sanitation water and a towel and if any got on the floor, he had to clean that up too. All it cost me was a little extra laundry.
At first, it didn't seem like it was going to work, because he had no problem cleaning himself up, but by about day two, it was taking entirely way to much time out of his play time.
It still took about two weeks of doing that before he was fully potty trained, but in the end it worked well.
By the time I potty trained my daughter (right when she turned two, I didn't even buy pull-ups. I put her straight into panties.
I took her to walmart and let her pick out the ones she wanted and praised her on her choice and how pretty they were, then told her not to mess them up. If she had an accident, I made her clean herself up. I started on a friday and by the following sunday she was fully potty trained. (I love that little girl)Only thing I added on with her is I put her on the toilet every hour and put the side of my hand on her lower abdomen. I told her to push on my hand with her tummy to teach her which muscles to use and also to help her strengthen them for holding her pee till she went to the potty.
When my baby hits 2 years old, I'm going to use the same idea with him...
Good luck

Hey L. I know how u feel I had problems about a month ago and ask questions on here too and the advice I received was really helpful and mostly was every childs body develops at diffrent times and your lil girl may not b able to hold it yet. I went through the same things with the big girl panties and pull ups, then I had the problem of her going at home and not at the sitters and beleive me I thought I was gonna go crazy b/c she would do so good then right back to using her pants. However bout 2-3 weeks ago I droped her off at the sitters,(she goes to days a week to play with other kids other than that shes at home with me)and she cried the sitter told her she didnt have to go potty if she didnt want to so we left it at that. When I went to pick her up that afternoon the sitter told me that she had been going to the potty she just told the sitter she had to go. We still have accidents I think thats partly b/c she gets to playing and forgets but she has been doing good. She even poops in the potty she did that the same day. So be patient just when you think your at your wits end it all works out. Theres always gonna be accidents even once she gets it down packed. Hope I shed some light on the subject for ya. Let me know how it goes. K.

Hi L., I also have a two yr old that i am trying to potty train. Some things that have worked for me is when she does go on the potty give her treats like a couple of M&Ms and praise her like no tomorrow. And also save whatever treat you decide just for the potty no other times of they get confussed But when she goes in her pull up there should be no treats or praise. Just keep telling her big girls go on the potty.
Also make sure you put her on the potty first thing when she gets up in the morning and before and after every nap to get into a routine.. Hope this can be helpful to you!

Thanks
A. S

My daughter is 28 months old. She will tell you when she is wet and tell you to change her. She has an older sister that she sees go on the potty. My mother says that the 28 month old will potty train when she is ready. Even though it is hard for me, because I feel like she should be trained already, I don't push her because that just makes it take longer. So I guess my advise is to let your child potty train at their own pace. Each child is different.

Just to add a few more cents to all the good advice. My daughter turned 2 back in June and pretty much converted to panties during the day and a pull up at bed time. I agree with just being patient because children have to first learn what's going on. Our daycare provider recommended putting on the underwear and taking her about every 30 minutes to an hour until she became aware of her sensations. After about a month of consistency she would start to tell me she had to go potty and I would praise her for being a "big girl". We did have momemts of backsliding but we never made her feel bad about it. We also realized that she knew the difference between the pull up and panties and she would "go" in the pull up but not the panties. That was my clue that she needed to be in her panties throughout the day. As all the other mothers said, it will come in due time. Your child is still young.