Need Help Getting My Daughter off the Pacifier!!

I just cut off the nipple part of the pacifier and told my daughter it was broke. She cried a little when she saw it. The next day we were busy doing things and didn't ask for it till that evening and I reminded her it was broke. Then on the 3rd day she didn't even care about the pacifier. It was so easy. She was so attached to it and I thought it would be hard. Good luck! It is harder on the parents then the child I think.

Just take it away......that's it. You will probably have a rough week..but you will be done with it!. I am and have been a FCC provider for over 20 years..and by 12 mos..we have no bottles and no pacifiers. No problem..no issue. You just need to remember "who's in charge". The sooner you do ..the easier it gets. Remember...you need to establish that NOW....because when they are 16..it's just too late. So just "lose" the pacifier... Good Luck to you..

On the advice from mamas here on mamapedia (then mamasource), I cut the tips off of all of the binkies in our house. That was it, that was all it took! My little one stood there in front of the binkie drawer (yes, she was so addicted to them we had an entire drawer of them), trying each one, getting a puzzled look on her face, and then tossing it aside. Finally after she'd tried them all, she looked at me and said, "Mommy, they're all BROKEN!" And that was that. She never wanted her binkie again. I was shocked because I thought there would be tears, drama, and heartache, but there wasn't. She knew they were "broken" and she just moved on with her life.

My doctor told me to cut the nip from the tip to the base (with the slit being across the top and bottom of the nipple)so that it pinches their tongue when then try to suck it. When they discover it is "broke" ask them to throw it in the trash themselves. I suggest doing it first thing in the morning so that she has time to think about it and adjust before bedtime.

I did this with all three of my children. With my boys, they never asked for it again. With my daughter, she had some trouble adjusting. We did it on the day they turned 2.

We went cold turkey. I got rid of all them, I did it on a Friday...expecting to have a rough weekend. It wasn't that hard for him to get over it. However, every once in awhile he would come out of a room with one in his mouth, lol.

It will be a rough few days, but you have to just be hard core and go for it. Set aside a week where there's not much going on, and be ready for tantrums. My kids got rid of theirs at 22 months. They both understood that they were big girls now and had to throw them in the trash. One of them it was no problem, but the other one cried for a few days, then totally got over it. Some people send them away to the binky fairy with balloons, that's a cute way to do it. I threw them all away on trash day so I couldn't go fish them out, and I didn't save any "just in case." I had my girls throw them away so it was like their choice and not mine. Just make sure to stand firm! Good luck!

We used the binkie fairy for our 2yo who had a pacifier in her mouth 24/7 (I'm not exaggerating!) This is what we did:

* Started talking about the binkie fairy and how she gives binkies from big kids to babies/infants who really need them. We talked about this for about a month or so
*One day, a beautiful letter from the fairy arrived in the mail, telling our daughter to pack up the binkies and mail them off in two days.
*Two days later, we ceremoniously packaged them and put them in the mail box.
*Two days after that, another beautiful letter arrived in the mail -- a thank you note, with a picture of a new baby saying that the binkies went to her and how much she really needed them. (Co-worker had just had a baby, perfect timing; but you could cut out a pic from a magazine, etc.)

Our daughter was so proud and showed everyone those letters; she still has them now at age 5. I was so surprised how well it worked because like I said, our daughter was completely hooked on those pacifiers. We probably had one "rough" night, and it really wasn't bad at all.

Then we went out and bought her a costume treasure box w/ lots of cute dress up clothes to take her mind off of it.

Good luck -- you can do it!

We had a rule:
You can only use the binkie in your room or in your bed.
Make the rule and be consistent.
Eventually they just give them up on their own.
No child ever went to college with a binkie...
LBC

My friend had great success with both of her children by trimming the pacifier shorter, then shorter, than shorter until it just isn't much of a pacifier anymore. Good luck!

My daughter was the same age when she had a visit from the Binky Fairy. We started telling her about the Binky Fairy and how she took binkies from big kids that did not need them anymore and gave them to little babies that did. We told her that when it was time to say bye-bye to her binky, she would get a big girl present in it's place.

Finally, one night I decided it was time. There was only one pacifier she would ever use and it was getting quite grubby and gross (she only had it for sleeping, never at any other time). We put it in a special little box and left it on the windowsill. She went to sleep without a fuss and in the morning she had her big girl present (A soccer ball! Exactly what she had been asking for!) and a letter from the "Binky Fairy" thanking her for giving up her binky.

She was fine that first night but threw a fit the next night - apparently she was expecting the binky back! She still went to sleep without it (sobbing a little) and for about a week she kept asking and begging for the Binky Fairy to bring it back. It was hard to see her trying to cope but I knew I could not back down (and I hid it away without telling my husband where it was so he couldn't back down either.) Each day did get a little better and after a week she was over it.

I should add that she also has her special teddy bear and blankets for sleeping, so it's not as if we took away her sole source of comfort. That was 3 months ago and she's been fine. She still talks about her binky sometimes and I let her know it's okay to miss it but she seems to understand that she is a big girl now, not a baby, and she doesn't need it anymore.

When my son was a little over a year I started cutting the pacifier little by little. Then when there was nothing left we went out side and through it in the trash and watched the trash man take it away. It worked for my son.

Why do you want to take her off the pacifier waht can it do to her let her alone she will give up when she is ready A. raisesed4 now grandmother of 7 A. no hills

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WHY DO YOU WANT TO TAKE HER OFF THE PACIFIER WAHT CAN IT DO TO HER LET HER ALONE SHE WILL GIVE UP WHEN SHE IS READY A. RAISESED4 NOW GRANDMOTHER OF 7 A. NO HILLS

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WHY DO YOU WANT TO TAKE HER OFF THE PACIFIER WAHT CAN IT DO TO HER LET HER ALONE SHE WILL GIVE UP WHEN SHE IS READY A. RAISESED4 NOW GRANDMOTHER OF 7 A. NO HILLS

I just cut the tip off so it didn't feel rght. However, my sister had a great idea for her daughter and had her put it in her stocking Christmas eve so Santa would take it in exchange for big girl stocking stuffers. When she asked for it only a couple times after that, she reminded her that Santa had it now and that was the end of it.
Good Luck!

Create a fantastic bedtime story (and start telling her now) about how all the new babies need a pacifier when they're born and make a big deal about putting them in a box... decorate it an have her write a little note or color a picture... then mail them to the hospital together (even if its only being mailed to grandma). Its a fun way to make her feel good about her decision to give them up instead of taking them away. Same thing can be done for diapers.

It might cause an unhappy child if she is really attached to them but just toss them all and don't look back no matter what. It will be all better in a few days.

My daughter was around that same age when we got rid of the paci. We actually went to Build a Bear and she put it inside the bear. Everytime we were near Build a Bear I would tell her that when she was ready to get rid of paci we could go there and she could get a bear. Then one day we were getting ready to go to the mall and she told me she needed to bring her paci so she could go to Build a Bear. She hesitated to put her paci inside but she did it. We were afraid that we would wake up in the morning and the bear would be torn apart but she did great. She asked about it at bedtime for the first few night but that was it. It was the best thing I could have done for her because she really loved her paci and I could not bear to just take it away from her and have her upset. Many people told me to just take it away but i have to do whats right for me and my baby. Good luck!

Cold turkey. It will suck (majorly) for a few days, maybe even a few weeks. But you waited a really long time so it was partially your own doing. I think that as parents though we get so scared to do it that we build it up to be worse than it actually will be. We did it at 20 months and it was pretty bad for a while. He even cried so hard he threw up. Twice. But in the grand scheme of life it was a few days (it took a week or two for his naps to be totally normal) but just a few days of really big tantrums. Just do it, you'll be glad you did. I have a friend who is STILL trying to negotiate away the binkies and her daughter is almost 4. I agree with the other person who said remember who is in charge. This is just the first of MANY hard things you'll have to do as a parent.
Good luck!

My son was 3 when we got him off the bink, so I can relate! He was only using it at nap and bedtime, but was VERY attached to it for those times. I worried he wouldn't sleep for us and we have a baby girl. I did something very similar to what LeeLee S. except that we used Santa Claus. We did a drawing and mailed everything to my mom, so we could save the drawing in his keepsakes. He was very proud and only shed a few tears. The first night I had to read something like 10 books to get him to sleep, but it got easier and easier. If I'd known it would go so well, I would've done it much earlier. So nice to not have to keep track of the darn things or to worry about cleaning them!

Good luck!

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