Need Help Getting 3 1/2 Year Old Son to Poop in Potty

I read somewhere that if you can get him to sit on the potty while he goes in the pull up then you can progress to cutting a hole in the pull up so it goes into the potty. My son would go in the closet in his pull up poop there. We took the pull ups away because he didn't need them any other time and he wouldn't poop in his underwear so after 2 or three days of holding it and me giving him grape juice ;) he finally had to.

Well, I pushed my son hard, and also have never had him wet the bed, so I don't think it's the non pushing that brings about the good results.

With my son, I noticed on the second day that he was pooping in his underwear. So, I took them off and just let him run around with a shirt on and nothing else. He REFUSED to poop with nothing on. So, he kept saying he had to go "potty", but when we got there he said "I don't want to go". Eventually, after taking him to the potty about 6 times in 20 minutes, he just couldn't hold it anymore, and he pooped. He was very upset while doing so, but I kept saying "WOW! What a big boy! When you're done you get a special prize!" The second and third time, he wasn't too thrilled either, but I made him sit there and finish, and afterwards he got to pick a toy from a "I went poopy bag". He was potty trained in only 3 DAYS, and stopped wearing pullups at night on the 6th day. He's never wet his bed, never pooped his pants, and has only peed his pants three times in a year and a half. I believe that if their not pushed, they will always choose the easy and comfortable way out. There's nothing wrong with pushing your child into milestones such as potty training. My sister did the "Oh, I am just going to wait until he's ready" method, and her son didn't potty train until he was 4!!

Just watch for him, maybe try the no underwear thing, when he asks to have a pull up put on, say "no, if you need to go poopy, I will take you to the potty." If you have trouble standing your ground with him, throw away all the pull ups in the house unless you need them at night. You're definitely not teaching him anything by letting him put on a pull up and poop in it. You're only prolonging the whole process.

This cracks me up because it's exactly what my now 13 year old son did and what my sisters now 4 year old did. (She even tried to cut a hole in the pull-up) Sorry, the only thing that works is when his little mind decides it's time to poop on the potty, he will. I would give him complete control over the situation and don't worry another second about it because he eventually will!!

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With my son at 3 1/2 years old I was simply fed up, and I never have been like that with any other issue! I couldn't stand to wipe his butt anymore. So, my husband and I pushed him to sit on the potty even when he was mid-poop. By the way, my son was very interested in poop and loved talking about it. Maybe he like it a little bit too much. We talked about how easy clean-up was and what a big boy he is. He was really interested in being a REAL big boy. We also did offer him a small toy when he did both #1 and #2. It took him a couple of weeks to be completely trained, but I was able to see progress and more interest in using the potty. One thing I would advise is to try your best to keep positive and being super enthusiastic when he uses the potty, even if he produces nothing.
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I don't have boys, but I know of 2 boys who did and do the same thing. One is an adult now an the other, I think he is still going through it. However, he is 3.

We are having the same issue and my sister in law had the same issue too. It seems to be a boy thing! Anyway, my sister in law did not make a big deal out of it and left him alone about it for awhile. He was to the point of getting his own pull up and putting it on. One day he came out all excited and asked her to come see what he did. He had went poopy on the potty. She hd tried everything she could think of too, even taking all the pull ups out of his room and not giving him one. She found he just would not poop unless he had the pull up on. She decided it was better to have him poop in the pull up than not at all. My nephew was almost 4 when he started pooping in the potty.

As a mother of three boys, it is a boy thing. I didn't rush my kids. When they were ready, they were ready. I am proud to say that because I went this way, they didn't wet their beds at all! I never had an issue with bedwetting. If they had to go to the bathroom, they woke up (because the feeling solidified in their brains) went to the bathroom, came out and went back to bed. No problems. I think that my 7 year old was completely potty trained at 4. My now 5 year old was completely trained at 3.5. My14 year old was trained at 5. He is my stepson,so I hadn't exclusively trained him. I went with his mothers potty training advise...(I think mine worked better:))

A girlfriend of mine told her son when he was completely potty trained they would have a "potty party". They would invite all his friends (or family members) and have cake, ice cream, presents, the whole nine-yards. I think she ended up having a little pizza party. That worked and within a week he was going on his own.

Another friend told me she told her son... lets make bubbles or splashes in the toilet.

Perhaps try having some of his friends or perhaps older friends and make a big deal about how everyone goes poo poo in the potty. Praise them each time they go into the bathroom (you could pretend as he wouldn't know the difference!). Perhaps try to bribe him with a party, new movie.

I started to put my little one in time out while we talked about him needing to use the potty. He wasn't in timeout for long, just 30 s to a minute. If you feel like it's a behavior modification, maybe he just needs to be forced...?

I made my boyfriend show my little one how "big boys" go potty. He wanted to do everything like a "big boy". I bragged on my boyfriend about all different things and related it to the potty. My three year old starting using the potty more regularly because of the peer influence. Once he started to go in the potty I would force my little boy to go in the potty each time when he tried to revert back to the pull up.

My three year old tried to stay in a pull up and diapers longer than needed because he liked being the baby. He saw the diaper as growing up and thought he would lose my attention. So I make sure to go with him to the potty or have him go when I or my boyfriend go. He still feels like he gets that attention. We chit-chat through his "time" and I always praise him and give kisses and hugs. We're very touchy-feely like that. ;-D