My daughter is 2.5 yr old. She does great on the potty with #1 - hardly any accidents since she's been wearing underpants. However, she will will not do #2 in the potty and always asks for a diaper. After she does #2, she'll aske to be changed back to her underpants. She's had constipation on and off since she was one, so #2 has not always been a good experience for her. she's also an extremely picky and we try our best to give her a balanced diet. Any advice for this situation? Thanks in advance.
As another poster mentioned does she have a little potty? After talking to my son's doc he suggested using a small potty and would'nt you know. My son loves it and has pooped in it once. I know we may still have road blocks up ahead but it's a start.
hi E.,
That's great that she is doing well with #1 - my daughter took longer, and we also had the same difficulties with #2. I agree with the other poster here who mentioned they are 'attached' to it (gross, but true).
Does she have her own little potty chair? This is often more comfortable for them to sit on for the longer period of time to go #2.
I explained to her that if she did #2 in the potty chair instead of the diaper, it wasn't all squished together and she could dump it into the big potty herself and say 'bye bye' to it when we flushed. (yes she might miss a bit, be ready with the antiseptic wipes). We also bought some special new books that we kept in the bathroom - and I would read to her while she was sitting on her potty. :-)
I believe it is very important not to rush this kind of thing, and never scold or punish over it (despite the advice you'll get) - it has psychological impact.
good luck!
Hi E.,
My child is completely potty trained and it took less than a week. Now I am not bragging, but I didnt pressure him at all. I tried when he was about 2.5 yrs and he resisted it and did
the same thing with #2. So i stopped. And started again a month later, and when he pooped in the training pants , i dumped in the toilet in front of him and told him to say bye bye and flush the toilet. Since then he fully understood and has been going #2 in the toilet.
That might help to and if she doesnt want to go, she will let you know when she wants to.
Hi E., My daughter had the same response to the whole potty thing. She is now 3 1/2 now and has no problem with either of them (#1 and #2) on the potty. I do however still put her in a pull up at night becuz she is a very hard sleeper and I do not want to wake up many times during the night to change the bed. I was always told just be patient and one day she will get it, and ya know what .... one day she got it and just started going on the potty for both. The whole #2 in a pull up then back to underwear lasted about 7 months too. I was worried and lo and behold she did get it . BE PATIENT she is only 2 1/2 years old. Good luck
I just finished potty training my E., and she just turned 3. I credit my Mom and Husband with a lot of it, I think they need to hear it from others (not just mom....). I hear #2 is always the hardest - the first time my little one did it on the potty my mom caught her hiding (what she did to poop) and sat her on the potty - that didnt work for me however, but it set the wheels in motion. Just give her lots of praise and try different reward techniques (I used little dum dum lolypops - since she never gets candy at any other time- and stickers). We also bribed her with a new movie if she went the whole day with out a dirty diaper (we had #1 issues too). We did try the putting it in the potty from the diaper, but it seemed she just would want to put it there from her diaper, so we told her that if she wanted to see it in the toilet she'd have to put it there herself. I was getting super frustrated because she'd been going on the potty off and on for like a year and everyone said she'd one day get it and be trained. And she did. It is crazy, but it will just click one day. So, stay strong, try not to get too frustrated, and know that the end is near! Good luck.
E., sounds like your 2 yr old may have too much iron in her diet and not enough fiber. the potty training may not be comforting because it hurts, so when the diaper is on its ok. try showing your #2 to encourage what goes in the toilet and make it a game. maybe they will catch on and hopefully you can also put more fiber in her diet.
I know exactly what you are going through. My daughter finally went #1 by the time she turned three, but #2 was a little harder for her. Like your daughter, she would ask for a pullup and go and then want her underwear back on. I didn't push her and my friend, who used to be a preschool teacher, told me that usually they will go #2 about 6 months after they learn to pee. So, about a month ago, I told my daughter that we were not going to be buying anymore pullups and each time she used one, I would tell her that we had only 3 left, then 2 and then 1. When she had to go and there were no more pullups, she had a fit, but eventually went. The only problem we had was that she was holding it for a few days before she would go. It was starting to worry me, but the nurse at the doctor's office told me that she will go eventually, which she did, but it was major drama. She was screaming at me that her butt and belly hurt and she wanted butt cream thinking that was going to solve the problem. :-) We only went through that drama for about a week and then she was fine and now she poops all the time in the potty. Good luck!
Apples should help with the act of going. i put a little cinnamon sugar in my son's and he gobbles it up.
Secondly, going #2 in the potty seems the toughest transition for them. When I was having trouble with my oldest (who is now 12) my ped. suggested we remove the pressure for her to put it in the potty. the pressure in itself can just turn into defiance on her part. I have also read from numerous sources that as odd as it sounds to you and i, they feel a personal connection with their poop... like it's part of them... i know it sounds crazy, but how rational are 2 yr olds anyway? LOL! My daughter was past 3 when she finally resolved this issue on her own. I didn't let her forget that we put poop in the potty, but i let her go at her own pace. We also made it a practice to dump the poop into the toilet once she did it in her diaper and she would flush it away. I would say 'maybe next time we won't have to use the diaper' and this went on for about 5-6 months after she was having no accidents during the day with pee. Now, overnight was a different monster all together, and she would have accidents up until age 4.5... she's a very heavy sleeper.
Good luck... she'll eventually come around, and what she is doing is completely normal. :)
