Need Advice on Potty Traing 2 Toddlers

Updated on February 13, 2007
A.H. asks from Mangum, OK
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I have a 3and 4 yr old girls that refuse to potty train. I have tried pull ups, underwear, taking them to the bathroom evey 15 minutes. They will go pee on the potty but the won't poop on the potty.

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T.M.

answers from St. Louis on

Please let me know if you have any advice...my son will be 4 in October, and he will go poop, but will rarely pee. If you get any suggestions please let me know!

Thanks! Good luck!

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R.C.

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Girl I wish you good luck! I am trying to potty train my 2 year old! ARRRGGG!

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F.B.

answers from Chicago on

It's going to get messy before they get it, but the way it worked for my son was by putting him in undies and pants, and letting him soil them until he "got the message". This has also worked with my daughter. After three wet pants incidents, she realized her pants were going to get wet unless she went potty on the toilet. I think it also has to do with their age. My kids were both at 3 1/2 when it clicked.
Good luck!

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A.S.

answers from Lawton on

wow we have some things in common, my girls are 2 and 1 though, I also have a 11yrgirl with special needs.. It makes potty training tough.. Especially when their is extra time being taken with a special needs child.. Keep trying and don't give up.. my 8yr old was a breeze when she was little.. but my 2yr old has been hard also... BE THANKFULL they will pepe in the potty mine wants to get in the shower ..

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L.T.

answers from Oklahoma City on

well I have been kind of worried about my youngest son's potty training as well. He is 27 months old and wants to sit on the potty but never does anything. I also do not think he is ready mentally to understand when to go yet. My oldest son went to the bathroom by himself, turned the light on and off, everything when he was 18 months old. So I am not sure if my youngest is behind, or that my oldest was just more advanced.
However, I have learned through friends that girls are supposed to be easier. Also that some of them had the same troubles with going #2. No one ever really figured out why though. I know I was not much help.

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D.T.

answers from Tulsa on

Here's the trick, stay as emotionless as possible when you clean them up. stick to underpants and when you smell that smell just take them to the bathroom get them clean without talking or making any kind of noise and stay as poker faced as possible.

At this age it's a power struggle and even though you may have 2 caring and loving kids they're getting a kick out of seeing you up set about this and anything else they can do to upset you. So you get them cleaned up then sit them on the potty, they'll probably pee.

The times you do get them to go in the potty. That's when you make a big deal. Celebration and a reward for only the one that actually poops. I use candy. It took until my middle boy was almost 4 but this is the way I got him to finally do it.

I'm working on it with the younger one right now but, with an expressive brother around and daddy not working the program it's just not getting there. But he's not 3 yet.

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J.G.

answers from Tulsa on

Dont sweat it. been there!! Its a power struggle the more you push the more they dig in. What worked for me is ahem... bribery yeah i said it i bribe them i say okay if you poop in the potty allll week we will go to the park or get a happy meal etc. then i moved it to a month and i do plenty of praise when they do with high fives. but if they dont i say well we will do better. I know you are trying your best. the less negativity the better she has done. now she is in panties and only has a few accidents a month. so it worked for me. hope it works for you

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J.H.

answers from Kansas City on

I had trouble with my daughter who is now 5. I started when she was 2 and it is clear now that she was to young and I should have waited. It wasn't until she started preschool that she really got it and then she still had accidents at home. When she turned 5 she just stopped having the accidents but alas she still wears pull ups at night. I have decided not to sweat it and ride it out. I am now working with my 3 year old boy. We didn't even start until he was 3 and he changes his own pull up now. You are not alone, good luck!

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M.E.

answers from St. Louis on

I don't know if this is a possibility for you, but something that seemed to work for my son was letting him run around with no pants on (naked from the waist down). He would have accidents if he had pants on, but if he didn't he would always remember to go on the potty. I think it made him more aware. I hope this helps! Good luck!

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W.B.

answers from Kansas City on

A., did you get some good advices from your question? I have a 31/2 son who refuse to use the potty chair. I tried reading potty books, rewards if he sits on the potty chair and nothing works. Let me know what works for you.
Thanks.
W.

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B.S.

answers from Kansas City on

Try getting some advice from your pediatrician on this, she/he might have some useful tips.

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R.R.

answers from Oklahoma City on

the pooping in the potty thing is hard I should know I have a 3 year old my self I just had to give her time she got to where she wanted to go it is one of those thing they have to do it in ther own time you might try the reward game where they get some thing they want for going in the potty and not on them selves

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J.S.

answers from Springfield on

You sure have your hands full! I had the hardest time training my daughter, too. I started working with her just after she turned 2 and she wasn't fully trained for a year. It just finally clicked one day. But you know what? She's NEVER peed the bed. And if she has a daytime accident it's because she just didn't get her pants pulled down on time. I know it's tough and I'm sorry I don't have any real good advice for you, but just wanted to let you know you're not alone. Good luck!

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C.Z.

answers from Rockford on

Hi A.! If you stress it so will they. This age is a defiant one, and that is appropriate. Try letting them run around with no clothes or just no pants and say "You know where the potty is, if you have to go, go ahead and go." Then leave them alone and see what happens. They'll go.

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