Need Advice on Book How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex????

I think the 6 year old might not get it (or need to for that matter) and the 9 year old might be a little young too. I feel like the 12 year old would benefit from a one on one talk from you. Don't worry, you don't need book, you will do just fine telling what you know. Good luck!

It seems the best time to talk is in the car going somewhere-they can't go anywhere. Be prepared for the yuck and I don't want to listen. I went to a PTA event that had a rep from AIM for Success (Abstinence) The founder wrote a book for parents, kids and put it on cd! It is called Teens Sex and choices-it also goes into the law which can be pretty harsh on boys. DId you know even if it is consensual, they can be arrested for touching anyone under the age of 14?? And then they would be permanently listed on the sexual crimes websites. YOu could order the cd and let them listen to it and then opens discussion.

I've used the book "How to talk to your child about sex". http://www.amazon.com/Talk-Child-About-Step-Step/dp/15823...
It has a lot of good advice for talking to your child at any age.

C.,
I can't tell if you are in Austin or not, but Katie Malinski is a therapist in town who offers a wonderful course called "Beyond the Birds and Bees". It gives parents specifics on how to talk to their children about sex. You can learn more at www.BeyondBirdsandBees.com. Hope this helps.
D.

Did not read the other posts it's really late lol. I have 2 daughters and we really enjoyed "God's design for sex" by Stan Jones the best. It is a series and you and your daughter will get pretty comfortable about the subject by the last book with my oldest there was only one but by the time my other came along they broke it up into a series of 4 books,Wonderful. If you want to pick and choose go this website before taking off to the store which you can also shop and buy on this website. google Christian book store and it will bring up the site, then do a search like puberty or birds and bees or something and I'm sure you'll pull up a list of books, if the site is the same it should have the gold star listing so you'll know how the book has rated.
Good luck
oops this is me editing I just noticed you have boys, you may want to see if Stan Jones has a book for boys, or on that site I suggested search puberty and boys or something.

I love these books on why God made us special and how God made our bodies to work. I haven't read all of them yet, but the first one is great. The series is called "Learning about Sex"
Why Boys & Girls are Different by Carol Greene. My almost 5 year old wants to read the book often. It has opened the door to many good discussions about her body and how God made us. I try to discuss things in a no big deal manner so she can feel like she can ask me anything. Good luck!

There's a really good book called Real Love by Mary Beth Bonacci. It's written for teenagers using questions from teenagers and is excellent. I highly recommend it. It would be a great read for you and then you could use what you want from it to talk to your kids about the things concerning them. It covers a lot of topics so it might not be the right book to hand over to your kids at the age they are now, at least not the yonger ones.

I agree with the other moms, I think first asking them what they already know is a good start. That way you will not give them to much information at first. The book I was recomended and I have also discussed periodically is called "Where I Come From?" The most important thing is that your boys feel comfortable to come talk to you or there father about anything and not resort to another pier to give them the wrong advise.

I don't know of any good books, but I did talk about sex with my two oldest ones at age 9. I have 4 kids, they are 13,11,7 and 1. The school district they attend has a program in the 4th grade where they show a video, not about sex, but explaining about their bodies and the changes. They usually have to ask for parents permission in order for the kids to watch the video. I gave permission for them to watch the video and then I made sure that on that same day, I asked them questions and discussed what they saw on the video and asked them if they had any questions. It was nothing graphic, it makes it easier to break the ice. Of course they will ask more questions as they get older, but the key is to keep that communication open between you and your kids. Our school district is great about directing the kids to practice abstenance. Check with your school district, sometimes they have parent worshops and meetings on this kind of information.

R. M.

Since my kids are now age 27 and 23, it has been a while ..haha... but I seem to recall there are a few books out there on the market that help you broach the subject.
One thing I did learn tho - is to let them tell you what they know first - because - they often know more than you would expect in some areas, and then have the craziest misconceptions in others! It is so easy for this "discussion" to become a "lecture". As you discuss things - allow them opportunities to talk about what they hvae seen and heard. then you can address thoase issues. Often the areas they have the most concerns about are not the ones you might expect.
With my daughter - I had an older high school senior come talk to our Girl Scout troop - without the leaders in the room. I consulted with the older girl first to set the parameters and to make sure we were on the same "wavelength" in regard to information and point of view. Then she spoke to the girls privately. They felt more free to ask her questions about menstruation and periods, etc. We even prepared "baskets" with female products for the girls to see and touch and become familiar with. Overall - the response from the girls was very positive.

Good Luck!

There is a great book my 7 year old actually started reading on her own (my mom had picked it up at a book sale and it was in a pile). I can't find it right now but I'll keep looking for the title. I was able to sit down with her and read it (as much as she wanted to) and answer any questions.
It had matter-of-fact info on everything from "where babies come from" to puberty and briefly mentioned the mechanics of intercourse. I thought the illustrations were perfect for the pre-teen/tween ages and the language is geared toward kinder to 6th grade. At first I thought, wow - this is a lot of info for little kids! But if you let them guide you in how much they want to know, any book will last you for quite a few years.
For the older boys there's a book "What's Happening to My Body? Book for Boys". I had the Book for Girls when I was growing up and it helped a lot into the teen years since we didn't really talk about "that stuff" at my house. It gets very involved with terminology and physiology, so I would reserve it for the early/mid teens teens.

With any book you get, read through it first before handing to to the boys - you want to be sure you can answer anything brought up by the book and that the book matches what you want to be teaching.
Kudos to you for starting the family conversation. I will update this post when I find that book! (Kids' rooms are a mess :))

There is a great book called It's Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris that is very helpful for answering all those questions. It's simple and matter of fact and it uses correct terms and has helpful illustrations. I have had the book for a long time(my girls are 12 and 15) and they have been interested in different parts of the book at different ages. Good luck!

Hope it helps!

I grew up with a book called "All about me" and it had great pictures....talked of puberty and sex. Not sure if they still make it.

The best i can suggest is going to the library and checking out some material that is for that age. Their might even be some Dvd's used is science or health classes. Best that they get the correct story rather than one from the bathroom right!

Good luck this is a hard one to answer for both of the parents and the kids.

How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex by Stan and Brenna Jones is a great one. I did a Yahoo look up and there are tons of avenues to pick up this book and the younger version books you read to your kids.

~A.

Hi C.,

www.aimforsuccess.com (it might be .org). This lady in Dallas came to Austin and spoke at our PTA meeting. She has scripts for different age levels. It really helped me.

Good Luck,
L.