My Boys Dont Want to Wear Big Boy Under Wear??

When my son first started potty training, he did not want to wear undies. We finally agreed on the Gerber training undies (not the plastic kind) when I explained that they are padded like diapers but comfy like undies. It was then easier to transition to regular undies (Thomas the Train & Cars). Now, at 3 1/2, his favorites are boxer-briefs.

More than anything, be flexible to whatever it is they finally prefer.

Good Luck!

Is there a certain character on the diaper/pull up you use. My son had to have Buzz. It's on his night time pull up and he had to have it on his underwear. Until I got them he'd do the same thing your boys do. Are they in diapers or pull ups? If they are still in diapers, try transitioning to pull ups first. They may feel more comfortable in the diaper and this has the same feel, but will get them used to pulling up and down rather than the diaper.

HI There. My son potty trained at 2 1/2 and hated underpants! He would cry when i put them on. So, i gave up trying. However, one day, when it all clicked for him, he requested to wear them and voila, he was never in diapers again. I put the undies in a drawer where he could get to them, and he loved to be able to pick out the ones he wanted. Also, i learned right away, that little bodies have a hard time running in and making it to the potty every time, so i put a potty in a convenient location (it is in the kitchen for my 2 year old right now) so that if they feel the urge and can't make it to the bathroom, they have another option. Perhaps putting a potty outside where it can be easily accessed with out asking for help would make a difference.

Good luck, and remember, before you know it they will be potty trained and these challenges will be in the past.

Being sort of new to the whole undie thing, maybe the ones they picked out just aren't comfortable. Perhaps if you picked up a variety of options for them to try -- boxers, briefs, different brands, etc. -- they might find some that feel better. Three is not too young to ask them why they don't want to wear the ones they have, and to solicit ideas about how to solve whatever the problem is.

Pooping in the backyard is not an option. I would lay the ground rules and with the same idea as a good chart a bad chart for when they take the underwear off! You are the parent, they should not dictate what they will and not do. If they take them off, put a frowny face on their chart. For every 5 frowny faces they lose a priveledge, get an earlier bedtime, lose a toy for the day. Believe me, they will figure it out. At 3 they are totally taking control. If they choose not to wear underwear then you cannot force the potty training, it will cause more problems, but rewarding them for their good "big boy" behavior and taking away things for them taking underwear off will help them see what they are doing. Boys love visuals. If they are just not ready for the potty then let it go for now and start again in a few months. Really drive home what it takes to be a big boy, even have someone call from the family/friends being their favorite super hero or favorite character to talk to them about being a big boy (that worked wonders with my daughter when Santa told her to go on the potty!!!). Hang in there, but remember you are the mom.....

this probably isn't what you want to hear but potty training is the last thing you want to get in a power struggle about. my 4 almost 5 yr old boy sometimes still has accidents (when he's having so much fun that completely forgets he has a bladder). my 1st child potty trained herself it couldn't have been easier 18 months old then 24 month old through the night. if you can make if fun, that always seemes to motivate boys. make sure you reward them when they do good, with a book or play a game just not food (makes you think you eat to reward yourself). They will eventually pee where they are supposed to don't stress it. good luck

Try making pooping on the potty sound fun. Sounds embarrassing, but make a big deal out of it when you or your husband go potty, and get all excited about it. Let them watch and act like it's so much fun to poop on the toilet, and hopefully they won't be able to resist. Also make a big deal out of how cool your underwear is and your husband's.

I feel for you, I am a mother of 3 and two of them are boys! I got lucky with my first boy (3 1/2 ) who really potty trained himself last week! :) But for the first two days refused to wear his underwear only the pull ups, which was annoying because he was not using them at all. So instead of a reward for using the potty he got a sticker for putting and keeping the underwear on. The one thing that I did fiqure out was that he is too thin for the regular briefs so they kept riding up his hiney, so I got him some of those boxer briefs so they stay out of his hiney. These he loves and has shown them to anyone who will pay attention. Good luck!! But I am guessing that they will eventually wear the underwear and poop on the pot, but try not to make it a power struggle, it gives them too much control over you and if they are not getting any response from you they may just do it on their own.

Many boys are just hard I am afraid. My son wanted to wear his pull ups and not underware. He was quite difficult at first but I made him wear them and it took a few days and he adjusted. He would just whine and cry off and on that he wanted his pull ups. The pooping in the diaper is usually a comfort thing and thats just a process of training them. With my son we worried about pee first then about poop. My son is 4 1/2 and he was extremely hard to train. He got pee down by 3 but poop took us a while longer! Good Luck!!