My ADHD and 6 Month Old Puppy Fight Constantly

Updated on February 19, 2008
C.F. asks from Trussville, AL
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I am at my quits end in what to do for my son and his puppy that is now 6 months old. Let me give you some background. First, I live with my folks until I am done with college which is six month away. My parents decided that on April 30th they were going to by my son a puppy. We got a chocolate lab, we already have a dog, she is a golden retriever, who at the time was 14 years old. While the older dog, Candy was around lady and Joel got along just fine. We would never let the candy and the new puppy, Lady around each other, cause candy could not handle it, no they did not fight. But we had no behaviorial problems either. About two weeks ago I had to take candy to the vet cause she was slowly but surely dying. It killed me to do this, but since then Lady has started acting out tremdously. She sleeps in a cage at night, she is ripping her bedding to shreds, she picks on my son, and my son picks on her. Its like two children in the same house who both have ADHD. I know lady is still learning and that she missing candy. But honestly as much as those two fight it aint' real. My parents and I find ourselves putting them both in seperate rooms. Lady is now stayin up at night barking like crazy. She barks during the day. We need help we don't know what else to do. Lady is already scheduled to go and get fixed, cause we think she is in heat right now. So we are hoping that will help.

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First off I want to say Thank you to everyone who offered me advice, I really appreciate it. I actually had a dog trainer from our vet call and for a small fee she is going to work with us on training lady. we will be meeting in a park with my son, and I. I am sure that will help out a lot. I never could get rid of her. She has her own individual personality and I love her spunkiness, but not her hyperness lol. I am going to continue to work with her. I also have to work with my son. I am feeling a lot better since getting all of this advice from you all. Once again THANK YOU!

PS. I also had forgotten to mention that she does chew on braided raw hide things, and cow hooves, and these plastic teets, that are used for milking cows. They are completely safe.

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J.S.

answers from Nashville on

I think the first thing you must do is give your puppy LOTS of exercise. Perhaps you and your son can walk the dog together. I would also check out Cesar Milan (he has a show on National Geographic channel). He teaches dog owners that they must provide exercise first, then discipline and then affection.

Labs are great dogs but they are often high energy and if they are not given something constructive to do, they will find some other way to release energy!

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J.G.

answers from Atlanta on

We have a shepherd/lab combo that is now 2 and 1/2 years old and a 16 month old daughter with number two on the way. Your dog right now is just in that chewing stage right now and that does go away but you have to make sure you give them something that they can chew on and let them know that other things are off limits but that they still have their own toys. The dog probably needs some excerise too, they are very active dog sthat just like your little boy need play time. I would hang in there. Our 100 pound dog and our little girl are best friends, she crawls all over him and tries to throw the ball to him and even though he is still a little crazy active, he tolerates her to no end and lets her do whatever she wants. I think they will be great for each other as your son learns he can burn off some of his energy while the dog is doing the same. Best of luck.

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L.L.

answers from Atlanta on

I would suggest you hire a qualified trainer to help you Greg Treason is in ballground Georgia but has an excellent facility and does dog training. It is called Atlanta Dog Works. It won't be cheap but I am assuming you love your dog and want to work it all out. Sounds like your son and dog may need to go to training so each can learn how to deal with each other. Locking them apart is not the answer. Please do realize your pup misses her buddy. We had two dogs and they were the same age but one contracted a very rare disease and we had him for another three years but when he passed away I could see my female was depressed and lonely so we adopted a younger dog (7 years younger than her) and it was the best thing it is keeping her young and happy. I know you probably don't think a second dog is the answer but sometimes if they have each other to play with it keeps them happy. Also, i found out I was pregnant right when we adopted the second dog but both dogs have been great with my son who is now 11 months old. We work diligently with him to teach him to touch nice and be gentle as we do with the dogs and when food is around we do use gates I never think it is a good idea to have dogs and kids and food in the same arena until they get a bit older (the kids). Good Luck don't give up a 6 month old lab is full of energy even fixed but over time she will settle down.

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A.S.

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If I were you I would put the dog outside and get it a bark collar. Be stern and show it who is boss and teach your child how to teach the dog tricks.

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L.O.

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Sweetie, Get rid of the dog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOu have to keep the kid so that's your only option. Maybe later you can get a dog that has a calmer nature and comes into the family wiothout an older dog to adopt as his Mama(and then lose so soon).

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L.P.

answers from Florence on

C., a lab is a good breed for a young man but they need lots of excercise and some basic training. I know that money is probably tight but you might check to see if there is a 4H group in the area where you and your son may be able to take some obedience classes with the dog. If not that check the local paper, vet office or pet store to learn of any obedience classes in your area. It will be the best time and money you have ever spent. It is very important that your son be able to learn and practice with you so that you will both be able to command the dog. The dog will enjoy it because it will because it is an activity that becomes routine or job like. It is also quality time for you all to spend together.

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C.B.

answers from Mobile on

Hi C.
I have a 5 month old and an extremely hyper miniature pinchure. They best way to drain her energy is to take her for really long walks. I put the baby in the stoller and we walk for at least thirty minutes twice a day. It is a great way to get the dog tired and then calm in the house. Your dog is bigger so you might want to walk her for longer...also if you put a doggie back pack with weights in it she will have to work harder to keep up and get tiered out faster...hope this helps. It really worked for me.
C.

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L.B.

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I highly recommend the book "Cesars Way" by Cesar Millan. Anyone with dogs should read it.

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M.W.

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I feel your pain. We recently had a chocolate lab, and they are a little different from other labs. He is sweet as can be, but we learned a few things about that breed in having him. #1-You have to take her through obedience class to (a) establish dominance and (b) learn how to control her. #2-They are very mouthy: chewing, licking, biting. One reason for #1. #3-The more attention you give her, the better behaved she'll be. #4-They don't outgrow the puppy stage for at least 3 years. Since your parents saw fit to decide this, get their involvement in training her and coordinating the interaction between her and your son.

They're great dogs, both as protectors and companions, but they do take a lot of attention at first. Since you're going to school and being a mom to a son with special needs, I know you don't have that much time. All the more reason to get your parents involved. I think, eventually, Lady will be a great benefit for your son and his ADHD because working with Lady will teach him discipline and self-control.

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A.D.

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Hi my name is A. and I have a 4 year old son and a 7 1/2 year old yellow Lab named Sandy. The first year w/ a lab is a nightmare b/c they chew up everything. I assure you though once your lab reaches 1 year you will see a big difference. They like to chew and I keep rawhide bones on hand for this and it keeps them busy. Also rewarding positive behavior w/ treats has worked. labs are very Human like and also have seperation anxiety. Make sure she has at least 2 hours to play outside a day. They are retreivers by nature so get as many tennis balls as you can find and play fetch everyday! It wears them out and teaches them obedience at the same time. My little boy loves to play ball in the backyard w/ ours and they both sleep well at night when there done! Good Luck! A..

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R.T.

answers from Huntsville on

Hey, I'm a Vet Tech. A dog that rips it's bedding is bored and needs something to chew. Don't expect your dog to settle down till after she's a year or so old. She probably needs A LOT more to do. Try running with her for a mile a day so she'll be so zonked she has to sleep. And get her into a dicipline class and save yourself a bunch of headaches! Trust me, they are well worth the money and the time!
Kudoes on getting her fixed! Good job.

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L.T.

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Boy are your hand full! I've raised and breed dogs for years an still ahve all kind of pets. My daughter is ADHD also, just without the hiper. The spay will help some but not all. This could be a bad situation later if its not stop soon. First: the puppu is greeving!You will probably have to give the puppy a little more comforting an attention that usually.Second: Shes PMS-ing dont help things either. You have to astablish some disaplen some where or the dog could become aggressive as she gets older, mine did! I use a news paper and a squirt bottle of water when I have to. Puppys are a lot like kids. If you take them in a isolated spot and sit them down and get eye level,tell them NO, be nice.After an few times they will get it. Now the kid should see you getting on to the dog to see that its not just him getting in trouble it both of them. An the kid or dog could be jealous of each other. I'm sure the child is going through some greeving also.Lab are extremely smart animals an you can talk to them as most animals like a human.Mine can count,sit,lay,talk,say momma,etc. And there very good listeners too.

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