My 8 Year Old Son's Father Died and He Is So Different Lately, He Needs Help.

Updated on March 10, 2007
C.A. asks from Middletown, NY
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My son did not have a relationship with his dad for two years and when I told him I am going to find your Daddy and maybe you could start seeing him again well about 3 weeks later my son's grandmother calls me to tell me that her son had just took his own life. Only 32 years old. I explain tø my son that his father had past away and that I didn't know how. He wanted to go to the church to see him, However his grandmother inform me a week after it actually happened. So he said he wants to see where he is, But now he was laid to rest in PR, okay.
This happened about 7 months ago. and my son seened fine, but now I am having lots of trouble with him. His step-father and him are very close but now it seems like he doesn't want anyone. Someone please help, where do I go, What should I do?

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S.S.

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right now no matter what ur son needs u call the grandmother n see if u can bring ur son over for a visit since he can't get to now his father physically its not to late for him to have a relationship with his family they can tell him about his father maybe give him something that belonged to him so he can feel close like the other moms have said counseling is also a good idea try that along with what i suggested hopefully it helps. good luck.

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M.K.

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I'm so sorry for you guys. I agree with the last poster - talk to the school psychologist. I think he definitely needs counseling. It can only help. This is a big deal for anyone to deal one, especially an 8 year old.

Good luck

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S.H.

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He needs to go to counseling. That would be his best bet, but if you go to church they could also recommend something for him, that could be his way of griefing for his father, but please take him for help because he is still young. God Bless I hope I have helped

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M.L.

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Firstly, I am sorry for your loss and his. Even if we don't necessarily get along with our ex's, its still hard when someone dies.

I would suggest talking to his school psycologist about this. They are trained to deal with things like this. They would also be able to tell you if they feel he needs more counciling. Whatever you do, make sure you tell him that its OK to be upset and mad and sad...don't let him feel like his feelings aren't important.

Good luck
M.

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C.C.

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Counseling & Grief Counseling...Partnership for Children has FREE Counseling. You can also check the Internet, talk with the Peditrician, look in the phone Book or call your Medical Insurance Company, I wouldn't wait, this needs immediate attention.
Partnership for Children ###-###-####

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M.A.

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Hi C., My name is M.. My advice to you is to sit down with your son and explain to him that we have to deal with death in our lifetime, It's hard because he's a child and doesn't understand the concept especially if he did not have a relationship with his dad. You can also try a therapist they can also help him comprehend what happened. It's a very hard for a child to grasp the idea that sometimes the people we love pass away. He may just be grieving and doesn't know how to show his true feelings just give him time, and hopefully he'll get through this just be there for him that way he knows he has you for support. Best of luck. M. A.

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