I am also a military wife and I absolutely understand your concerns about seeking outside behavioral/emotional help for a member of your family and fearing that it could impact your husband's job...and your fears are not unjustified. Here is a way for you to deal with it since you obviously don't want to go to "Life Skills" as they call it on base...and I don't blame you. Talk to your Tricare office and they will give you a list of OUTSIDE CIVILIAN counselors that are covered by the Tricare network. If you are Tricare Prime you and your family members qualify for a set number of consultations/appointments with one of the providers without a referral-it's like 7 or 8...I can't remember exactly-but a Tricare rep can tell you specifically. Then, if further appointments are necessary then the counselor that you see will simply need to write a note to Tricare telling them that in their professional opinion, more appointments are needed. If you are Tricare Standard, then it might be a little different, but again-a Tricare rep can guide you through all of that- and they DO have to help you-so if they give you any problems, put your foot down. The best bit about this is that if anything comes up where a "review" of your family's records is required, like an overseas move-then your records will not be released from the private counsellor without your permission. Since there will be a record with Tricare that they are being billed-they may ask for them, but all they really need is a letter from the counsellor saying that whatever your family member is being seen for will not pose a problem. Best of luck. Probably what you are dealing with a simple issue that you don't need all of this information-but if you ever do-you should know that you DO have a right to privacy, even medically, though it may not seem like it, or you're told otherwise. Best of luck to you!!