My 13 Yr Old Son Hate Living at Home

if my 14 year old son said he wanted to live with his uncle? I would tell him if he left - he wouldn't be coming home. HE is not the parent. HE does not make the rules.

You go down to his uncle's house and you pull his little butt home and tell him how it's gonna be.

He will be a responsible member of the family. He will be responsible for his laundry. He will be responsible for cleaning his room. If he has a cell phone? He can pay for it himself. If he doesn't like that idea? then he better straighten his butt up and fly right and follow MY RULES.

oooh...it seems like I am repeating...I agree with Karen, Christy, Wild Woman and others - tell you brother or BIL to get on board and make his life a living hell there...cooking, cleaning, etc. if he refuses to come home? Change the locks. He can't just come and go as he pleases...if he wants to get emancipated...tell him to go for it. Let him see how hard life is. He needs a wake up call. Bring his butt home and set the rules up.

You go down the street you the uncle's house and haul his little butt home. Then you sit him down and explain to him what life is going to look like until he turns 18.

1.) He WILL go to school each day.
2.) He will come home and do his homework.
3.) He will do his chores.
4.) He will treat his parents with respect or he will lose privileges.
5.) He will be in bed by 9pm every evening.

You need to resort back to some serious structure in his life. It may not hurt to add some school sponsored extra-curricular activities. If he's busy, he can't get in trouble.

I agree with Christy Lee and Wild Woman. Uncle needs to mind his own and if it doesn't work, then change the locks. A few days on his own and he may realize how good he's got it with you. But you need to re-gain control here!

Good luck and keep us posted!

Who is the parent here?????

I'm in agreement with Wild Woman. Your son is 13. Bring his butt home and tell his uncle to mind his own business.

If he refuses to come home, change the locks on your house and stop allowing him to come and go whenever he wants. Tell him that if he wants to come in your house, it will be because he's living there under your rules.

Family counseling. Yesterday.

No, this is a very bad idea. Your son is only 13...not 18. You and the uncle need to get on the same page. Both of you need to put your foot down, and tell your son, no, you belong with your parents. He does not have a choice. He is only 13 and is not allowed to make decisions like this. Yes, your son gets angry when he does not get his way. This is a good sign that you are not giving in to him. Make a list of home rules that he is to follow. And take him to therapy and/or family therapy. Start this week. You and your husband need to be on the same page. It's hard work being a parent. You both need to work together as a united front and sit your son down and tell him how it is going to be from now on. Don't forget to also tell him you love him and only want what is best for him. Have a weekly family meeting to all talk and discuss feelings. Then he will feel like his parents are listening to him. You and your husband also need to spend some quality one on one time with him.

don't buy into that-he's 13-he doesn't mean it-don't let him take any of his possessions-other than the clothes on his back. Change the locks and sit back and see what happens. Or, tell him, he will live under your roof until he is 18. Good luck-difficult time.

Is there a mentoring program at his school?

This post reeks of TROLL. Find some other bridge to play on. This sight is for mom's not trolls. LOL

First, keep in mind that they say if your teen doesn't like you, you are probably doing the right things. Teens very rarely agree with their parents on things like rules. But it's your job as his parent to stand strong and enforce those rules. Your son seems to think he has choices here - WRONG! He is the child; you are the parent - the choice of where he lives is YOURS! You need to stop this now. For one thing, your son needs to learn to deal with disappointment and how to get along even though things might not be going the way he wants them to. Life isn't always going to go his way; you should be preparing him to live in the real world and running from things is not going to get him very far. I think your hubby probably wants to let him do this because it's probably easier not to have an angry teen in the house. I don't know how you get your hubby to agree, but you need to work on it. If you can't get hubby to say he has to come home and stay, then at least try to get him to say that if kid doesn't come home TONIGHT to stay, then he cannot return home and must stay at uncle's indefinitely.

You call the police and report that your son ran away!

i personally would have never let my 13 year old make that decision. my daughter is only 11 ........... but, don't all teenagers hate their parents and not want to be around/live with them at some point during their teenage years? he would have never left my house to live somewhere else. it's not his choice until he's 18 where he lives.

Since I have a feeling (sorry Poisonivy) that Poisonivy may not be the most skilled parent, my thought is that if his uncle can handle him, let him live with his uncle. As suggested below, the name Poisonivy does not scream of maturity. Also some of the writing suggests a lack of education. Once again, sorry.

Does his uncle supervise him, or just let him do whatever he wants? If the uncle can parent well, then maybe he should live there.

Sometimes, it takes a village, and if a village is available (like the uncle), use it.