Mother Needing Help with Stress

P.,

I will be praying for you and your family as you work through this. My son (2 1/2) was recently diagnosed with leukemia so I have done some research on dealing with serious illnesses. I ordered a lot of booklets from the American Cancer Society and a friend ordered some from Cancer Care. Most of the publications are free. Both organizations can be found online and some of their publications can be viewed online as well. The American Cancer Society has an activity book for kids called "Because Someone I Love Has Cancer". I don't know if your tumor is cancerous or not, but many of the suggestions from these resources can be used for noncancerous conditions as well. I also researched support groups in the area. In Pittsburgh we have several groups - one in particular that sticks out in my mind is Gilda's House (named after the comedian Gilda Radnor). It offers services for patients as well as families and caregivers. Perhaps your doctor can provide information on local resources.

Have you tried looking for support groups online that pertain to your particular diagnosis?

Do you have family or friends that can assist you? Whether it be to make some meals, run some errands, drive the kids to activities, or watch the kids so you can have some time to yourself? I have found that having some "down" time and having a helping hand makes a huge difference. It makes me less stressed which helps to keep my kids less stressed.

Please contact me if you need any more info. Best wishes to you!

P.,
I am so sorry to hear of your situation. My prayers are with you.

Might I suggest that the first thing you do is to NOT equate Thanksgiving with when you found out. Holidays get such a bad rap when it comes to trying times. Don't create a situation where your children will equate that holiday with when Mommy found out she was sick.

Continue with your current plans; staying home, school on the PC. I'm sure you have some follow-up appointments coming. Wait to see what you find out, and then make arrangements to take the kids out for a picnic or a fun day outside and sit down with them and be honest. This is not necessarily a bad thing, and could be used to help bring your family even closer together. Once you know more, it will be easier to see how you as a wife and mother will need to proceed.

Praying for your health, and for your family's strength and understanding.

Blessings,

Rolinda
Wife, Mother, Friend.

P. - I am so sorry to hear about your predicament. It is difficult news to hear. I will pray for your recovery!

A.

Hi P. i can only imagine how you feel right now probaly very overwhelmed . My friend Tanya found out she had a brain tumor at 25. She has two little girls. She had brain surgery then a year later it came back she again had surgery its now been 5 years and its not returned. I would have my friends and family to help out. Maybe you need to seek some support groups. Please stay positive and have some faith. (easier said then done) but you dont want your young children to carry that weight on their shoulder and if they ssee you stressed out they will get stressed too. Be honest with them about whats going on once you know what needs to be done(surgery, treatment)but dont overload them. i will be praying for you and be willing to help you however i could please email me with anything you need or if you just need someone to talk to. steph

Maybe you can start by writing your feelings down whatever it might be. You have to figure out where you are at with it before helping your kids deal with it. Find out as much as you can about it. Is it operable? Can alternative medicines work, etc... You can also join a support group. Your doctor probably can give you a list of support groups in your area.

Sorry you have to deal with this.

Y.

Hi P.,
It sounds like you need help. I would suggest that you reach out to family members or a good church. You need supportive people in your corner to help!
Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers!
Jen H

Hey P.
I am sorry to hear of your condition. But with God all things are possible, I am in the Bartonsville area, I think you are too. I would be more than happy to lend an ear, or friendship in any way...You can have my number if you would like.
Take Care...Mery

Im sorry to hear what you are going through right now. But before you tell your children get all the facts. Honestly I know that it will be hard for them but hiding it from them will just be harder on you. Just get all the fact together on what can be done and what will be the out come if it is done. And talk to them sit them down and tell them you need to talk about something and you didnt want to tell them until you fully understood everything yourself. May god be with you and your family. I am hear to talk if you would ever need someone. Feel free to email anytime.
Good bless you.
-Brittany-

Dear P.,

I can't imagine what you must be going through right now. If I were you, I would start living like there is no tomorrow and spend as much time I could with your boys one on one. Ask them each the one thing they have enjoy doing with you and do it. Tell them how much you love them and how you will always be there with them in their hearts. Know that you were lucky to have had your boys and that you were a wonderful mom. You gave a lot of yourself to your children by being a full-time mom. Many prayers to you and your children.

Sincerely,
J. H.

God Bless you. I know that when I have problems and issues and medical issues the first thing I do it pray for guidence in how to handle the situation and what to do. You will be surprised that if you pray and listen he gives you the answers. I find so myuch comfort in prayer. I also take time to myself to get my thought together. Maybe you can sit your boys down to just let them know what is going on so they will be aware. You may want to tell the older ones in detail.I don;t know what your religion is and I am sorry if I have offended you if so in anyway. But be blessed..

Hello mother in need...I am sorry to hear that you are ill. A few suggestions to aid your body and mind to better health...get a gym membership. The YMCA offers babysitting for your children while you participate in some of the classes they have to offer. There usually is a pool and sauna at the ymca. I also suggest taking a yoga class. Yoga isn't just exercise for your body but also for your mind and spirit. Just this step alone will help relieve some stress and may aid your body in healing itself of the tumor. This time spent on yourself will certainly put you in a better mood when handling your children!!1

Do you know that God can heal you? If you have the faith to be healed, God can and will heal you. First, if there is anyone you need to forgive, please do so. Even if you do not feel like you have released them, say "you forgive them" until you feel it inside of you. Then build up your faith by reading scriptures on healing. You can read the Gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.

Mark 11:24 says "Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive than, and you will have them."

God wants to heal you so ask in the name of Jesus and it shall be so. Do not allow anyone cause you to doubt. Stay in the word of God, feed on the word of God, believe in the word of God. I will be praying in agreement with you for your complete healing.

I just wanted to say that I have had two friends have brain tumors, one operated on, and has been fine ever since (7 years ago), and the other in an inoperable location, and is also doing fine 2 years and some change later.

Also know that it is entirely possible that the tumor itself is influencing the way you react to things. (not the knowledge of it, but its physical presence causing your brain to react differently than you would otherwise) Add that to the stress and worry, and then all the normal stress and worry that comes with parenthood and life- and yeah. It can't be easy. Please, seek out as much support as you can. All things considered it sounds like you could use some down time, so you may want to consider having someone help with the kids a little.

Take care and my thoughts are with you.

I am sorry to hear that terrible news. Is your tumor canerous? It depends on that because if your tumor is operable and nothing will happen to you then you don't need to tell them, but if you are terminal then you need to go to a conuselor and ask them what to do in handling this situation. My God be with you....