Mom with 2 Boys Needs a Rental or Another Mom to Look for a Place to Rent! PLS!

Updated on November 04, 2008
A.P. asks from Orangevale, CA
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Hi there,
Well I have finally made up my mind that I am no longer going to be on of those moms or wife that puts up with an abusive husband. No he is not hitting my (he has in the past when he was high) but he is very verbally, mantally and emotionally abusive... I was staying with him for our 2 sons, hoping that if I prayed hard enough and showed him through my actions that I was working a 100% on our marriage (trust, communication, repsect, intimacy etc., etc..) that he would want to change for himself.. but I just cant take it anymore! I am all alone in this area and dont want to move to a bad area just because I cant afford a good one. I have been looking for apts and houses and the only ones that are nice, clean, in a good neighborhood and with a washer/dryer hook up are either a 1 bd. or too much money for me right now.. and the ones that have everything I need are too far from my work and in the ghetto, if thats what you want to call it. Plus I dont like living alone, so instead of trying to find a roomate on craigs list or roomate.com where I really wont know them, I decided to come in here! My favorite site with my favorite woman in hopes that you guys can give me some support in this matter and by gods will, one of you will be in the same boat and we can start a new life together with our kids.... what do you think? I trust the woman on here and trust their/your suggestions, so please tell me anything you know about where I can go, or if you know someone who has a room or two, preferably, and who loves kids that will take us in. I prefer to find a place so I can call it home and have guests (you moms) over and stay there for a while. I have moved so much the last ten years, I just want a stable environment where I dont have to worry about moving. Please ladies help. I am at my witts end with this man. As much as I still love him, I just cant have him yelling at me and calling my names in front of my children and cussing at me infront of them too... and no he wont go to counseling, or get on any medication or anger management or church. I have tried them all and he just thinks I am trying to change him (but the truth is he doesnt want to work on himself) He doesnt want anyone telling him hes done anything wrong because he is that insecure. He cant handle any constructive critisizm let alone working on something he wont benefit from... anyway, sorry for the ramble, there is so much more to it..
But I can afford at the most 700.00 a month, and maybe a little more if I get one of my credit cards payed off by xmas... I have a 1 and 4 yr old boys whom are just sweet as can be... I work 8-6 m-f and love people. I am a happy person at heart and love my friends, as I am closer to them than my own family. I would like a place with a yard for them to play and safe neighborhood with in 20 miles of Orangevale where I work... I will have deposit $ when I get my xmas bonus... Let me know if there is anything I am leaving out that can help you guys help me. I am praying that God will give me the strength to get through this and send a family my way that is in need as well. My direct personal email that I can get on my phone is ____@____.com Please respong to that if you have any suggestions or if you are interested in getting to know me better, thats great too. I will send photos if youd like so you know your not talking to a crazy lady (although I feel like one sometimes, lol) or what ever you need.
Thanx again. God Bless.
A. P

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C.C.

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I don't know of anyone but maybe you could contact WEAVE and they could offer you some support.

I was lucky... it was just me, no kids... when I finally left my abusive husband who would yell and scream at me all the time. Eventually, he threatened my life and that's when I left. I rented a room from a friend and went to WEAVE for a restraining order.

I really wish I could help you but I don't know anyone renting or anything... but contact WEAVE and perhaps they can give you a lot of help... or advice... or get you in a shelter for now. I wish you the best of everything.

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S.B.

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I am so thankful your children will never have to endure hearing their mother being yelled at and called names again. This is such a wonderful decision you are making, both for you and your children. I agree with the others...WEAVE is a great organization that can help you with all the paperwork and housing. I would suggest just moving with your kids and not looking for a roomate quite yet. This is going to be a huge change for your kids (for the better, but still difficult) and it might be best for them to not have to also adjust with living with another mom and kids right now. You may have to live in a "less than desirable" neighborhood, but I have lived in an area like that and was just fine. What matters most is a strong and loving family and it sounds like that is just what you are going to provide for your children. May God Bless You.

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G.S.

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A.,
I'm proud of you for not letting your husband do that to you anymore! What your about to do is the hardest thing you'll ever do, but it will definetly be better for your beautiful boys! Good luck to you, I wish you all the best. If I hear anything about housing I will email you.

Be strong and know you are doing what is best for you and your childre.
Good luck!

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G.B.

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I just want to say that I am sorry you are going through this. I can imagine you will face challenges as a single mom, but it beats the alternative. You gave it your best efforts and now it is time to put yourself and your babies first. God bless you and good luck!

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T.B.

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I'm not sure how many bedrooms they are, but my friend's nephew just moved here from out of state and found a really cheap apartment in the complex next to Walmart. I haven't actually been in his apartment yet, but my friend said she was suprised how nice it was. They gave him a great deal-they apparently reduced the rent on them (at least for new tenants) since the economy was so bad. I can't remember exactly what he is paying, but I know it was dirt cheap. May be something you want to check out. Sorry you are having such a rough time and it takes incredible strength to make a decision like this. Stay strong and don't be too proud to seek assistance. Most places are income based, but you may qualify for more than you think since you have 2 kids to support in addition to yourself. Check out things like WIC and you may qualify for the childcare subsidy too. Let us know when you find something. Until then, I will keep my eyes and ears open.

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