Mom Left Out

If you don't want it to be a highschool episode, then you need to be honest. Tell her you are really glad that you are becoming friends and that you are sorry for prying into the movie issue. Tell her how you wanted to join in on the movie.

It's hard to start new friendships as women and mothers. There are different lines and different ways of showing you care and are interested in becoming friends than in highschool, when it was more widely viewed as "normal" for females to go to the bathroom together to gossip.
Also consider if this is making you feel so lousy, it may not be worth it.
I still think that being honest, while it is sometimes the toughest, is the best way. If she can't deal with it, or doesn't want to, then I think it is not a friendship meant to be. Hope it helps some.
A.

Can you email her? You could say something short and simple like "I know I created an awkward moment between us about the movie. I apologize. I did not intend to overstep any boundaries or make you feel uncomfortable. I was trying to communicate my interest in spending more time with you and wanted you to know I was feeling gratitude about our growing friendship. You are a joy to be around! I ended up just taking a simple thing too personally. The result seems to have been a potential bump in our friendship. Please know that I understand you are free to do whatever with whomever, as I am. By the way, I would like to invite you to go see a movie with me soon, too."

I seriously doubt she was actively trying to be mean or hurtful by excluding you from the movie outing with her other friend. Different friendships have different dynamics and sometimes it's better to hang out with the people separately. I have one friend who is very private and shy and another who I can talk frankly about sex and emotional issues with. They're both good friends but I prefer to see them separately because they are so different. I do think it was extremely immature for your friend to take the other woman into the bathroom to talk about you behind your back (at least that's what it sounds like she was doing). If that's the kind of person she is, then she might not actually be worth the time no matter how well you seem to click with her. That might sound harsh, but two-faced behavior is one of my biggest peeves. Hopefully, her rude reaction when you asked her about the movie was just a slip of judgment and maybe she has had time to see that she could have been a bit more tactful in that situation. Since your friendship is fairly new, it can definitely be awkward the first time you have a disagreement, but I would just try be upfront and honest. It may be less confrontational to address the issue in an email or over the phone. An email also allows you to think about the phrasing without accidentally saying something you don't mean. Maybe just tell her that you value her friendship and explain how and why you interpreted the situation as you did. I hope this helps and I hope everything works out. Maybe it was all just a big misunderstanding. :)

I also have a very close friend who I tend to do a lot of activities with. As a matter of fact we hang out at least three to four times a week. We both have other friends who we some times hang around without inviting the other person. I think this is very healthy for the both of us. If you spend to much time w/ just one person you become to dependent on them and that is not a good thing. Also, other friends may bring something completely different to the table that you aren't getting from the original friend. It's okay to have more than one good friend. As far as telling her how you feel, be very careful not to blame her for your feels. It's better to say something like "My feeling were hurt when I heard that you were going to the movies and didn't invite me." instead of "You really hurt my feelings for not inviting me to go to the movies w/ you." Hope this is helpful!

don't be so attached to people - they often are not as attached to you as you may believe - learn to love yourself and be happy being with yourself and others will want to be with you as well

This has happened to me too. It's sometimes hard not to feel left out, but as you said, it's natural for her to want to go out with other friends...just as you probably do from time to time. I would just call her up and say, "I'm sorry if it seemed I was disappointed that you went out the other day without me. I just want you to know that I didn't mean to make you feel on the spot, or anything like that. I've been heartsick thinking I may have made you feel uncomfortable. Are we okay?

Best,
C.

I think you should email her exactly what Taj wrote in the first response. Very well worded.
Good luck!

Steph

Hi T.,
Don't you just feel like you are in high school? I believe you are a smart woman. Trust your instincts. Just talk to her and let her know you are human and your feelings got hurt. If she doesn't respond well, it's better to find out now than after you invest anymore of yourself and your time to someone who is not worthy of you! There are alot of Mom groups and places to make friends! Don't settle!
S.

Hey!!!
I agree with lisa. She worded it perfectly!

Best wishes to you!!!
L.

If you think the new friendship is worth saving, call your new friend up and apologize to her, and let her explain her situation to you...

I think that we have a lot of different friends for a reason. We have a lot of needs that we look to get met in our friendships and no one can meet all of them for us. Different friends meet different needs. I have friends that I go out with to chat with and that I confide in and others that I go to movies with and others that I do crafty things with and then others that I go out with my kids and their kids with. It would be unfair of me to expect one person to meet all these needs. Perhaps you are expecting one person to be everything for you and that can be h*** o* one person. Just because she was going to a movie with someone else does not mean that she does not want to be your friend again...you might be expecting too much of her.
K.