I have a daughter who is 9 months old, is half "caucasian / American" and half "Afro-Cuban," and people are very surprised to see her and her dad together, they say she looks just like him, if they know him. If they dont know him well, they say "is THAT your baby?" because she is so light skinned and her hair is curly and thin and smooth mostly.
I had similar thoughts but I was at a loss of words for how to describe the hair I might have expected, etc. I used to think that African descent type hair would be really difficult and hard to deal with - but a mystery of sorts to me. I also find thick hair beautiful and really cool how many things that can be done with it - and have learned through my life to appreciate the beauty of natural african hair just as is too, and wish more people would do the same, especially think its important for us non African parents of African descent children to advocate for our children in the world and in our families to not talk about their hair as a problem, etc.
That said, I have already found it to be a bit more work than my older daughter's hair, who is what we call "caucasian," but why? Why do we need to make it look a certain way? It doesnt have to have anything done to it. I know babies with dred locks. I personally dont want her to have the totally natural dred locks, but think its adorable when I see other kids with that. I like to work with her hair. The back of her head has started to get more thick and dred itself especailly at night when she sleeps. I gently work through it with my fingers and a brush and I find it really soothing to do. Her dad likes to comb it and add vaseline to it. I think that is too much so he uses less than he wants to please me.
There is a yahoo group called "biracial blessings" and a woman named Shima who has hair advice - though her advice is heavily related to products etc. Its nice to talk to other parents. Feel free to write to me. I have asked some friends who are African American about it ahead of time - and some of them have just explained what they choose to do and some have said "oh you are going to need conditioner soon!" but I dont really agree necesarily. I have had acquaintances comment joyfully, "oh, I can just picture her now being upset when she is 12 years old and she has a frizzy hair day!" and all I can think is - "wow, I hope not." I know 12 year olds freak out about their hair a lot - but what a destiny to give a tiny baby?!?!? Maybe she will be loving her hair and all the kids without it will be trying to make their hair curly / frizzy like hers by then. I hope so. Her hair is beautiful and we have to look at the racism that really makes us "think" what we do - that's what I think.
Your baby will be beautiful and you will learn to care for her health and body how you want to - with what she wants and you too. Ask your baby what she wants and imagine what she might say to you. Maybe something like "mama just love me like I am!" I imagined my daughter telling me "mama, I dont care! I just want to explore and play! why do you care?!?!"
enjoy. feel free to write me for more questions. I dont know how you can do that here - how can I find a "friend" or contact here? im new and still not sure how to use this service...