Mixed Feelings About Having Another

I'm almost 30, and pregnant with my 3rd. I always felt I was done after two, but never felt at peace with the prospect of permanent birth control, so I decided to hold off on it. (I figured I'd rather not do it and regret it, than do it and regret it). So sure enough, last year I got bit by the baby bug hard, and here I am.

My OB asked me yesterday if I was wanting to have my tubes tied since I'm having a c-section anyway. My husband and I had talked about it last week. I still don't feel at peace with making it permanent. I'm only 29, what if five years from now I just *have* to have another?

I say, if you're not sure, don't make it final. It's ok to be happy with your family the way it is now. Who's to say that next year, you will start to feel that it's time for another? If you're not at peace with the decision, don't do it. You'll know when the time is right, either way.

I think it's normal. My kids are your kids ages. However, I KNOW I want more....Hubby is the one on the fence. He's at home with them the majority of the time during the week since he works weekends and we only have a 2 bedroom house. These are two huge factors since our three year old will go to half day preschool next year. Hubby could go back to school once he's in school, we're out of the baby stage, they are sleeping better, etc. If hubby decides he's 100% against having another, I'm on board with it because I want us both to want it!! I'd say do the temporary birth control and you can always change your mind later!!

Very normal after just two kids. The good thing is, men's surgery is very reversible. Either that or consider IUD or Mirena (I think) for you. But nothing short of surgery is fool proof (and even then). Honestly, the doctor says, if you have second thoughts, give it more time. No matter what happens, your family is just perfect the way it turns out.

I think it's normal, but I do think you should hold off on surgery and get Mirena or another form of birth control until you know for sure. Surgery is reversible, but not ideal and there is no guarantee the reversal will work. I just know that I'm 100% sure I'm done. There is no fence for me, there is no question in my mind. I'm not having anymore kids. I think until you are 100% don't do anything so drastic.

When I was prego with my 5 year old my better half and I decided no more. But I deep down I really didn't want to make it a sure thing. I was only 27 and I was kinda greatful when my Dr didn't feel comfortable doing a tubal on me so he gave me a copper iud instead. He said it was just as good as having a tubal and lasts for 10 years. Yeah, well when our son was 1 year old I found out I was prego! 9 months later I had another son. After him I felt complete. I had a tubal, had some problems and at 29 ended up with a hysterectomy. I feel like it was all the best outcome ever! I love all of the kids so much and couldn't imgine life without them, but also KNOW for sure I don't want anymore children. And I love not getting my period and never hafta worry about pregnancy. But I am glad I didn't have the tubal the first time. I am 31 now and would not want to go back to the baby days, I am good there! So if you feel the way you do I say don't do it!

Life is too short to have regret and to feel sad. The baby stage goes by so quickly.

We decided to have number three after a very long struggle. I am so happy we are pregnant. We will be right back where we are in just a few short years, but, we will have a lovely addition to the family. Yes, it makes things more costly. yes, travel will be harder. But really, it isn't that much more money or hassle.

Look deeply into your heart. It knows the answer.

I feel the exact same way. Everything practical points to not having another baby, money, newborns are so much work, I hate being pregnant, we only have a 3 bedroom house, ect. The urge for another baby is still so strong though. Just think a about that new baby smell, actually dont its making me want another one right now, lol. My husband calls it the baby fever. I guess its natural to want more babies, nature gives us that urge so we will keep having them and there will be more people. I dont know if the urge will ever go away, I hope so, but babies are.just so darn cute.