Miscarrage? Is This Normal??

Updated on November 24, 2007
A.B. asks from Emeryville, CA
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I am barely pregnant, just over four weeks. The first couple of days after I found out, I was feeling a little funky, tired, and my breasts had been fuller, but not tender. Also, I had been having little twinges in my uterus which I am still having. Last night I stopped feeling pukey, am a little less tired, and I think my breasts aren't as full, I'm still hugely emotional, but am scared that something has changed. I'm not having any bleeding.. I don't know what to think.

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So What Happened?

Well, I'm six weeks plus now, and am still pregnant. It seems that all the sensations come in waves and I'm trying not to panic every time I'm feeling okay. You can"t win, you feel bad when you are nauseous, and you worry when you don't. Anyway, a big thank you to everyone who took the time to write to comfort or warn me, reading other womens experiences is so helpful. Here's to a sticky next few months!
A.

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P.P.

answers from Los Angeles on

Yes. That's normal. I thought I must have miscarried somehow without bleeding after three months because all of my symptoms seemed to go away.

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B.M.

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As someone who has been pregnant 7 times (4 miscarriages, three daughters) I can say that I worried throughout each pregnancy until I held that baby in my arms. (And now I worry for different reasons!) It is normal to question each twinge and drop of blood. Everyone is different, but I do have to say that my breasts did not get more full and I did not experience a lot of pregnancy symptoms until about 6-8 weeks (after implantation), so maybe you were just really excited about being pregnant and looking for symptoms?

It is very normal to feel a lot of changes going on in your body. In the first few weeks, you will go through many changes. I became addicted to pregnancy tests and have gone through at least 100 of them over the past 9 years (no joke). When I would experience the symptoms you are describing (after already knowing I was pregnant), I would take another test to see if the line was faint or still dark. The home pregnancy tests check your hormone levels, so if you think yours might be dropping (as you lose symptoms) test it out or call your doctor (although they were never much of a help until after the 8th week).

4 weeks is still really early and most likely everything is fine, but as you have probably read, 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. I found comfort in knowing that when I did lose a pregnancy, it was probably due to there being something that wasn't forming correctly and my body was rejecting it naturally. What you can also find comfort in knowing is that you are able to conceive! Most likely, you will be fine and the pregnancy will be as well, but miscarriage is a subject that I hate to bring up, but for obvious reasons is something to address.

When I was about to miscarry, I knew it in my heart, but the warning signs are bad cramping (like during a bad period) - some cramping is normal in beginning of pregnancy- and other symptoms include back pain, bleeding red blood (brownish is normal between 5 and 7 weeks due to implantation of the embryo and pinkish blood is common after having sex). In my experience, having a miscarriage before 10 weeks feels a lot like having a bad period, lots of cramps and lots of blood. If you don't have these, don't worry your pretty little head!

If on the other hand, you do experience a total loss of symptoms even up to 10 weeks and do not have your period, you should still go see the doctor to make sure your body is doing what it should be and everything is progressing. Everyone's body reacts differently to pregnancy, so write down everything you are experiencing so that when you do go to the OB, you can remember it all. Also, don't feel bad about calling your doctor's office if you are worried, that is what they are there for. But, no bleeding and no bad cramping usually means all systems are go and your pregnancy is fine. The first few weeks are hard because you are so excited about the pregnancy, but you can't see what is going on in there and the doctor can't even see anything until the 7th week... so be positive and know that everything you are feeling is totally NORMAL! Best of luck A.!

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N.H.

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You know, Britt said it really well. Your body is experiencing something NEW and may not know what to do. Four weeks is early, so try not to stress since that's not good, either. When you're looking for it, wanting it so bad, you notice EVERYTHING. Try to relax and take each day as it comes. And when you get too stressed, read Britt's post again! :-)

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P.G.

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I think this too shall pass. The power of prayer A.. I am sure if God allowed you to be a mommy by your dreams of being a mom- you really think he would take that away from you? I will pray for you- use the doctor advice, talk to them and they will check for the first sound of a heart beat, that is always nice. Good luck and you are in my prayers!!!

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S.G.

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Hi A.,

I was 30 when I had my first son. I had two miscarriages before I had him. Then god gifted me with my first son even though he was c-section. I then had two more miscarriages before my second child. At that point, I went in to have a laparoscopy done to see what was going on inside of me. I learned that I had endometriosis. After the laser surgery and three months of treatment, I then was able to produce my second son. Gifts of god! I had one more miscarriage after my second son. It would not hurt to make sure you do not have endometriosis. It is common in women. Good luck to you and always think positive. S. G.

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A.F.

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I really hope everything is ok with you. I had the same experience (I was 37, first pregnancy, the tenderness/cramping in the beginning and then no symptoms for a while) and I was fortunate to have a healthy, normal pregnancy. Just take it one day at a time.

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A.B.

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all i can say is if your not haveing any bleeding,then it is not a miscarrage...but you should go and see your doc...to make sure noting is wrong

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J.S.

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You're probably fine. Your body is probably getting used to being pregnant and adjusting. I only had morning sickness with my first and second baby during the first week or two after finding out I was pregnant. Then it stopped.

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J.C.

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Hi A.,
It is hard to know if the change in the symptoms are just that changes. Before I had my daughter I was pregnant and had a miscarriage at between 8 and 11 weeks (not exactly sure). You will most likely know if you miscarry(I knew when I did). I had a lot of bright red bleeding and lots of bad cramping and pain and I did notice that the tenderness in my breasts almost completely went away. I hope this is not the case for you. If you are concerned you might want to call your doctor and talk to him/her, they might suggest you come in and they can check you out. I hope everything turns out okay for you. After my miscarriage I went on to have 2 children and am now pregnant with my third. Hope everything turns out well for you.

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K.O.

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You are right on track- congratulations! Women experience all kinds of crazy sensations and changes. Some are unique to each woman, and even unique within multiple pregnancies. If you have concerns, just call your OB and ask or speak with a nurse, but it sounds normal to me. You can check out the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting" or for a completely down to earth version of pregnancy, check out "The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy". That will give you a few laughs along the way.

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J.L.

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At this point in your pregnancy you are going to feel different everyday. hopefully the pukey feeling stays away! Unless you start bleeding I wouldn't worry. You didn't say when you go to the doctor next I am assuming it will be soon since you're still so early and the first appt. with the doc is around 6 weeks when they can actually see something on the ultra sound. Tell your doc you're concerns a little reassurance can go a long way, and know that most likely all is fine and your body is just adjusting. Good luck!

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M.K.

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Just go with the flow. Don't freak out...Stress is not good for a baby. I have twins and they didn't move much and I had absolutely no morning sickness. You're lucky to not be feeling sick right now. If you were to miscarry, you would have alot of bleeding. Being emotional if totally normal! Don't sweat....see the doctor in a couple weeks and he/she should put your mind at ease...also....try not to read to much about freaky things....you'll only make yourself scared and stressed out!

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D.K.

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Hi A.
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Twinges are normal as your uterus is going to have to stretch a lot!:) Also you may feel like you will get a period but it is just the full feeling of all of the changes in the body. A little bit of bleeding at the beginning can also be normal. Enjoy this time and the miracle that is occurring. One little tip, start taking a contaminent free form of Omega 3. Your body gives yours to the formation of the brain and nervous system of your baby and you should replete for yourself to maintain healthy brain chemistry. If you are interested in good nutrition through pregnancy and beyond you can email me direct at [email protected]____.com and I would be happy to share what I use. Take Care!

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S.C.

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Hi A.,

Usually with miscarrage there is bleeding of some sort. Whether it be spotting or alot of bleeding. At your first doctors appointment they will examine you. The twinges you are feeling are your uterus starting to expand. You may also have cramping like you are going to start your period. This is all normal. Good luck.

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L.J.

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i had the same experience, twice. only i was further along. i was pregnant, and feeling it up until the moment my body suddenly felt normal. no warning, no blood. my pregnancy had ended but did not naturally dissapear so i was stuck with some amount of extra hormones for awhile. which added extra emotion!

but please, take this with a grain of salt. i was considerably further along.
best of luck.

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S.D.

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If you're not bleeding, you're not having a miscarriage. However, they are extremely common in the first 12 weeks. A lot of women have them and never even knew they were pregnant. If it makes you feel better, schedule your 1st doctor's appointment. They usually don't want to see you until you're about 8 weeks, but if you're very worried, they might draw some blood work twice. One the first draw, it will show what your HCG levels. A few days later, they draw blood again to ensure the levels are going up and not down (if they are going down, the pregnancy is no longer viable. The levels do taper off, but much later in the pregnancy.) This is the reason a lot of couples wait until they pass the 3 month mark to tell family and friends. It sounds like all the symptoms you're having are very normal. Your hormones are going to fluctuate and you may just be getting more "use to" the feelings you're having. You're going to be very sensitive with sensations in your body and your emotions. It's normal to worry, even be a little panicky, that something is wrong. Try to relax because if you are having a miscarriage, there is nothing you or the doctors can do at this early stage. It would just be your body's way of not allowing the pregnancy continue, because there's something wrong. Even if you have bleeding, it doesn't necessarily mean a miscarriage. Only your doctor can confirm. If you're only 4 weeks, it would be hard to even see much in an ultrasound. Probably just a yolk and not much else. In a few short weeks, you'll hear the heartbeat, after you get to that point, miscarriage is less likely. You might want to check out Babycenter.com. There is great information, you can see what the baby looks like at every stage of pregnancy, and there are other moms, forums, and articles about every pregnancy related issue out there. Another great book to have is What To Expect When You're Expecting and What To Expect The First Year. They are also step-by-step (month-by-month) accounts of what could, should, and does happen.

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L.C.

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Every woman experiences different symptoms in pregnancy. With my first pregnancy I didn't feel a thing, on the contrary I had much more energy than usual and even forgot I was pregnant until I began showing. With my second pregnancy I had so much nausea, vomiting, and I would fall asleep anywhere. If you are feeling better, that's great. Enjoy your pregnancy and get enough rest and sleep. Emotions go up and down during pregnancy especially during the first 3 months because of the hormone levels. You will probably feel better after the 3 months. Good luck!

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W.A.

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I have had a few miscarriages in the past and the one thing to be greatful for is..no blood..no worries.Take it easy and go see your doc if your concerned but normally before 8 weeks.. they will tell you to just take it easy and wait it out. Good luck to you.

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C.K.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi!
Is this your first pregnancy?
What you are describing sounds like typical morning sickness and first trimester woes. I too am pregnant right now with my 5th child. I am just reaching my second trimester. Morning sickness and the extreme fatigue are lessening, as is typical. And I'm not throwing up every day. These things, along with some abdominal discomfort and constipation (hormones are relaxing the smooth muscle of your intestines), head rushes/dizziness (muscles in the walls of your blood vessels are relaxing and your blood volume is increasing), bleeding gums, backaches, leg cramps and other symptoms are all quite common. It is also completely normal for your breasts to be enlarging and they may become more tender later on. You may even notice that you begin producing colostrum. The fact that you are not spotting or seeing fresh blood is very reassuring. Take it easy. Your body is undergoing some drastic changes. The hormones that are needed to set up your body to support this new life are raging but they have a purpose. While this will make you tired, emotional, and pukey at times it should get better as your pregnancy progresses.
Only you know your body, though, and if you feel that you have reason to be concerned beyond this, or if you see spotting or fresh blood, you should contact your OB/Midwife.
Try not to let the emotions run you over (Haa! I'm working on this myself and not doing so well at times). Being able to relax is key to an enjoyable pregnancy and complication free labor.

Find something to smile and laugh about today!

Take care,
C.

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