Men When They're Sick

Every one has a different threshold for sickness and pain. My husband isn't a big baby, and neither was my dad who had cancer half his life. However, I do think that a lot of woman seem to have this innate ability to deal with nausea and cramps from having to experience it with pregnancies/periods so often. Really though, I've met some pretty big babies who are women too.

I don't think it is a man/woman thing...I think that different people just have different ways of dealing with not feeling well. My husband and I are TOTALLY different...when he is sick he wants to be left alone...just close the door on the bedroom and leave him be. Sort of like a sick animal...going off into the woods to be alone. I , on the other hand, want to be babied, fluff my pillows, straighten my blankets, bring me cold water, rub my back, just sit and talk to me!!! It took us a while to figure it out...because when HE was sick I treated him like I wanted to be treated...bugged the heck out of him, babied him. When I was sick...HE treated me like he wanted to be treated, closed the door on me and left me alone to my misery as I lay there wondering why my husband didn't love me enough to at least come upstairs and check to see if I was still breathing!!! We finally wised up and started accomodating each other a little bit better. It is all about adjusting and communicating

Mine is just now getting over it. He's not so much a jerk, as he is just whiney, and acts like every bone in his body is broken.
Now, my ex-husband was the (BLEEP).
I remember one time I had an extremely high fever, and laid down on the couch. Our cats kept hissing and fighting each other, I kept yelling at him please make them stop, he didn't do anything. Finially it was hurting my head so bad, I sat up and what did I see......
my cats had a nice sized snake cornered and it was hissing at the cats about 2 feet from the couch!
Still....with a high fever who do you think captured the stupid thing and got rid of it? Ugh. I can't use the words to describe him on here.

For the same reason women are bitches when they are "PMSing"...because they can and know's the other one will put up with it!

haha... they are pathetic. heres one better, not only does mine turn into a pathetic helpless child when he is sick, but apparently i turn into an idiot. im smart enough to manage the health issues of all our kids, but if he is sick and i tell him to take a tylenol or whatever, he completely dismisses me and calls his mommy. she tells him to take a tylenol and he wants to know why i havent given him a tylenol yet.... sigh.....oh well.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbmbMSrsZVQ

Because men are just big babies. Watch the above video - at least it will make you laugh.

"He's a man for God's sakes, he has a man cold!"

They are big babies.

I always wondered... HOW men handled life and everyday needs, while they were still single and had no one to take care of them.

They say if men had babies, they would die from the pain. Don't know why.

They are just babies. It's always poor me or what about me? I hate it when my husband is sick cause he turns into the grinch. I have been sick since Dec. When I start to feel better I get sick again. I keep telling him to go to the dr cause now he has a ear infection. I KNOW how bad they can hurt but why take it out on us cause he won't go to the DR? But when I go to the dr I have to hear about it. Not my problem he is stubborn and won't go. Now I am 3 months pregnant and I am sick again. NOW he tells me you better go to the DR. Practice what you preach. He should go himself. When he is sick it's leave me alone but when I am sick it's... I need laundry or mommy will get it for you. MEN ARE JUST BABIES!!! Sometimes I swear that I have 2 kids instead of one (for now).

Wow haha. My exhusband was going to get quiznos (it was my fave at the time) and I had a migrane. If any moms have migranes they know how bad it is. I couldn't move without it hurting... I had already thrown up twice, light sensitivity and I had those circles so I could barely see and it was all knocked out of focus. My ex says I'm going to go get quiznos and leave the baby here with you. I was like WHAT! I can't see! How am I going to take care of her crazy?
It just amazed me that some guys think they should be babied but if a girl gets sick she's supposed to continue the day in full health mode. I've had exs in the past that have babied me when I was really sick which was nice but my exhusband had some moments where he was just stupid like above but he had his times where he'd take good care of me.

Not ALL men are this way, but it does seem to be a problem with many!

If you want suggestions....... get out of the house and a break from him as much as you can. Don't respond to his grumpy behavior. Or if he is rude look at him and say "I'm sorry you are feeling poorly, but I am not going to stand here and allow you to treat me this way." Try not to be angry when you say something. Just tell it like it is. Then leave the room. Leave the house if you have to!

Be kind but don't enable him by over catering to him.

I asked a similar question when my husband was (almost dying:

http://www.mamapedia.com/questions/5371139842145124353

Also, check out The Man Cold:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbmbMSrsZVQ

It's called a "man cold" for a reason. We are the caretakers. Men rely on us like they did with Mommy. Fair? No. Funny? Yes.

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