Managing the Nanny: Need Advice

Find a good daycare with license to handle babies and toddlers. You will always have some issues with nanny or babysitter because they all have their own ways of handling children which may baffle you or even upset you from time to time. If you keep talking your nanny about the same issue(s), she might quit her job to take another job before you can find any replacement and take time off your job.

A reputable daycare has supervisors monitoring the situation for caring little ones, firing & hiring nannies who are screened for qualifications that you don't have to do the administrative work, and reporting to you of any unsual behavior of your child. Of course, such daycares are not cheap.

I was a nanny for 6 years . If parents said that's how it should be, I followed. No ifs ,no buts.It's very confusing for a child when you do one thing and nanny does another.
Not exceptable.Sorry no advice:(

Goodness, that sounds tough. The nanny probably thinks she is being loving, though it is causing problems for you. You were very kind not to address the issue in front of the older children.
Have you tried having your husband talk to her as well? I know in this day and age we hope that the differences between the sexes have been eliminated, but sometimes the male in a partnership commands more respect whether we like it or not. And any "authorities" you can site for your method of getting your daughter to nap might help as well, a book, peditrician etc.
You need to feel your nanny is a partner. Perhaps if you can phrase your next request as asking for help she will find it easier to override her feelings of guilt at letting a child cry.
And lastly: Your daughter may be going through a developmental change that makes napping tough, like getting ready to walk.

Hi S.
I hope by the time my response gets posted you have changed nannies.
Bottom line, the nanny needs to follow parents' schedule.
Good luck

Dear S.,

I own and direct a childcare center in which we care for many infants. The mom writes us up a routine and schedule in which we follow daily. However, if we see that changes are occurring (cutting down on nap times, changing eating habits, likes and dislikes), we always discuss them with the mother and decide together if we are going to make changes. Lets face it without consistency the only person who suffers is your precious baby. She will be totally confused on why certain days I can sleep on the couch and certain days I have to go into my crib. Even if you like this women if she is not caring for your baby your way, then I say find someone who will. You sound like you do not trust what she is telling you, is there anyway you can make an unannounced visit during the babies nap time and check up on things yourself.This will give you the perfect opportunity to address matters in the moment. I would look for another nanny if after speaking with her numerous times she is not respecting your wishes.